If, like me, you've walked past a park bench in broad daylight and seen a girl straddling her boyfriend while kissing, you might have wondered, 'are they actually doing it?'. Likewise, you may have spied coupes down an alley getting up to all sorts. Outdoors sex is clearly a big kink, but what about outdoor or public masturbation?
Unlike public sex, masturbating outside or outdoors has, in the past, held connotations of being degrading. Think 'dirty old man' – lecherous guys playing with their plonkers and jacking off in public while perving over unsuspecting women.
And while, of course, that still goes on, many of us – of all genders – want to masturbate outside purely for our own gratification, without the desire to intimidate others. Indeed, a Cosmopolitan magazine sex survey from 2013 revealed that a whopping 31% of respondents said they had masturbated outdoors in the past.
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So, with many of us enjoying public masturbation of some sort, it's essential to consider issues around safety and consent. But before turning to that, let's consider why so many of fancy jacking off in public or outdoors in the first place...
So, what turns us on when it comes to public masturbation? Well, there are a few possible explanations while playing with yourself outdoors in nature (or elsewhere) can feel so good:
Do you ever find yourself getting hornier in the heat? Do you feel sexier during summer? Being out in the sun, in the middle of a field or a shaded wood will get even the most ardent city lover relaxed and turned-on.
Indeed, there is some science behind this. Sunshine is essential for the production of Vitamin D in our bodies, which, in turn, is used to synthesize serotonin, one of the happiness hormones.
“The sheer thrill of being outdoors where you might be seen or caught masturbating in public can be a mighty aphrodisiac.”
Sunshine also boosts levels of nitric oxide, reducing blood pressure and relaxing us. So, when you’re chilled out, not thinking about mundane stresses, you’re more inclined to think about sex and masturbation. If the sun is warming your skin and your mind is wandering, your hands might soon start doing the same thing!
The sheer thrill of being outdoors where you might be seen or caught masturbating in public can be a mighty aphrodisiac. You might have someone set up to watch you, or you might like the idea of being caught, possibly by a voyeur.
An exhibitionist might want to be naked in nature – and being naked can lead to sexual acts – we all know that! Likewise, many of us may have a passion for nudism and naturism... sunbathing at a nude beach or FKK area may mean you end up getting turned on by seeing other naked bodies and end up indulging in some public masturbation (or other types of fun!).
If the thought of wood gives you wood (!), then you might be a dendrophile. This fetish is quite uncommon, but if you enjoy pleasuring yourself in woods or forests, it could be relevant to you.
Dendrophilia is a sexual attraction to trees and can have people masturbating among them. This is an ancient fetish, with records of people masturbating in nature as a fertility ritual going back centuries.
Safety first: be discrete if you decide to masturbate outdoors
OK, so while outside masturbation might be a hot idea, how do you practically manage this kink? Because – in most parts of the world – if others can witness what you're doing in public, consent is essential for any kind of sexy adventure, even masturbation.
Jerking off in public means there's a real risk of being discovered. And although this can be part of the turn-on, you really need to be careful with public consent when you pick your spot and not get carried away.
So, try to keep away from:
Essentially, ensure your spot is quiet and hidden. It’s worth spending some time in your chosen location to check it's as discreet as possible before you start masturbating. These reasons are why woods and forests generally make good places: you can wander deep into the undergrowth without fear of being seen. Plus, you will be able to hear any strangers approaching as they will be crunching on leaves, twigs, etc.
“If others can witness what you're doing in public, consent is essential for any kind of sexy adventure, even masturbation.”
However, be careful if you're wandering deep into the undergrowth. Be sure to check out the area thoroughly and avoid anywhere where there are warning signs. For example, you may think masturbating on a cliff edge would be exciting, but keep your distance – make sure that common sense prevails.
Heat of the moment? Warmth makes us want to wank!
If you’re going for a trek in unfamiliar areas, be sure to plan a way to navigate your return back, and if you’re not a regular rambler or hiker, be realistic about how far you can walk to not get into trouble.
Also, one good thing to remember is be sure to have suitable clothing that you can get back into quickly, just in case a member of public approaches you unawares. And if you do get caught in a state of undress while masturbating in public, depending on your state of arousal (!) you could always explain you are pants-down as you were desperate to go to the toilet.
“Jerking off in public means there's a real risk of being discovered. And although this can be part of the turn-on, you really need to be careful with public consent when you pick your spot.”
Of course, if you're masturbating in a known dogging or cruising area, then someone may decide to approach you as they're curious to get involved. Still, it's important to remain vigilant of strangers in dogging/cruising spots as you can't assume that passers-by will know about the area for the same reason as you – this is especially true of cruising in and around naked beaches where non-consenting adults may be passing with children, for example.
And while some people may be able to turn a blind eye and laugh it off if they catch someone masturbating in public, others may not.
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Which brings us to our next point. Check your local public masturbation laws to find out what is and isn’t allowed where you live. In the UK, indecent exposure is a crime, but it depends on someone seeing and reporting you – hence the importance of keeping away from public areas.
However, in the US, any sexual activity in a non-private or public place is technically illegal, but this varies from state to state. It’s essential to know your local laws in advance – then you won’t get caught masturbating outside in a non-fun way!
So, if you're considering indulging in some self-pleasure after enjoying a picnic or wanting a wank on your country walk, then go for it – as long as you keep within the RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) rules. Feel the thrill of public outdoor masturbation and branch out into something new! •
Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.
Love outdoor or public masturbation? Where do you like to do it and why? Have you ever been caught jerking off in public? If so, what happened? Share your thoughts with the community below...
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