Outdoor Sex: Let's Go Outside...

Whether it's roughing it in the woods or banging on the beach, outdoors sex stirs up something primordial. But while outside sex is horny, it can be risky – legally. Fetish.com member DirtyBird explores the pitfalls and the pleasures of alfresco fucking...

'I think I'm done with the sofa. I think I'm done with the hall. I think I'm done with the kitchen table, baby. Let's go outside!' Remember that line sung by George Michael sang on his classic 1998 hit, Outside?

Recorded and released six months after he got caught for engaging in a lewd act while cottaging in a Californian public lavatory, the hit is a stark reminder of two things when it comes to outdoor sex. One, people love a bit of it. Two, not everyone loves a bit of it, and engaging in alfresco action can land you in trouble with the law.

However, for many of us, it's exactly that element of danger and the risk of getting caught which makes the idea of outdoor sex such a turn-on. For others, the attraction can be in the knowing complicity of the audience. Then there's a whole host of people for who outdoors sex is a logistical necessity: perhaps they don't have the privacy of their own homes or they are having extra-marital affairs.

Whatever the reason, for a lot of kinksters, taking the fun outside is almost always a fun new way to spice up their sex life. Before we take a look at the best places to try sex outdoors, it's important to consider the very real legal risks involved. 

Outdoors sex and consent 

While there may be times and places when passers-by might respond to the sight of two or more people enjoying themselves with a knowing wink, cheeky giggle, or even an offer to join in (!), some people indulge in sex outdoors simply to get off on shocking or alarming the public.

And while it's easy to see the kink there, this alone is not an acceptable reason to fuck alfresco. Because if someone catches on, not only are you likely to get busted, but there's a high probability – depending on local laws – of ending up on a sex offender list.

However kinky your outdoor sex gets, consider your potential audience!

Indeed, however kinky your outdoor sex ideas are in your imagination, sex in public or even outdoor masturbation isn't classed as consensual unless you're doing it where absolutely no one else can witness it – or you're getting in on in front of people who not only know what's going on but are getting off on it as well.

In the UK, the Sexual Offences Act 2003 states that it is not illegal to have sex outdoors. However, you must ensure you are out of sight of any public to avoid any potential legal trouble. The Act states that a person commits an offense if they intentionally expose themselves to others. Meanwhile, in the US, public sex is a misdemeanor that can carry a possible prison sentence and a fine of up to $1,000 (this is variable by state). 

“For many of us, it's the element of danger and the risk of getting caught which makes the idea of outdoor sex such a turn-on. For others, the attraction can be in the knowing complicity of the audience.”

If you're the ones having sex outside, your own consent could be compromised. Since everyone carries a mobile phone these days, you should consider your own safety; you could end up being filmed having sex outside, possibly by a voyeur. Some of you may love the idea of being recorded (!) but the material could end up in the public domain, and that may lead to potential personal consequences for you. 

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Taking the 'public' out of public sex

That said, there are ways to have outdoor sex that are not illegal or unethical. Firstly, you can take the public part out of public sex play by ensuring that no one is around. And, no, we don't mean hoping that no one will notice what you're up to, but doing your absolute best to ensure that no one else can view your kinky fun.

For example, some of the following locations are potentially great places for people-free outdoors nookie:

• Forests and woodland Forests and woodlands are usually a perfect place for outside sex because they are dense and discrete, with lots of opportunities to hide – you can remain relatively hidden. What's more, you should be able to hear anyone approaching on foot due to the crunching of leaves, sticks, etc. This gives you the chance to make yourselves respectable, if needed! We knew that forest bathing was good for your physical and mental health, but fucking in the forest outdoors releases happiness endorphins too!
   
• Campsites So, as long as you are inside your tent/camper and can't be seen, you can be getting in on privately but potentially with other campers all around you. That's kinda kinky. Silhouettes on the side of the tent might give the game away, though. It can also be fun during sex to try and be as quiet a possible, to not attract attention to yourselves.
   
• In your car A vehicle can be a private-yet-public space which you can have more control over. Car sex isn't always the most comfortable, but the challenge is part of the fun! Drive at night to a quiet beauty spot, turn off all the lights and get to grips with that gear stick! You will be able to hear other vehicles pull up and know when to be aware. If you wanna try car sex outside in the day, then black out windows are a plus. Passers-by may be able to see your car rocking, but as long as they can't see you at it, legally you are safe! Of course, well-known dogging spots are always a public option, too. 


• Beaches Out-of-the-way official nudest beaches are usually a better option when it comes to sex on the beach – if there are people on the nudist beach there then they are usually more open-minded and liberal. If you can't find a naked beach then ensure there's no one around you before you get down to any action. Perhaps look for a hidden spot behind some rocks – you can always run into the sea if strangers approach.

Car sex is great for indulging in private outdoor sex (just roll that window up!)

Taking the 'public' out of public sex

Your second option for ways to get frisky outside your home is to find a place where everyone around you is doing the same thing. Depending on where you live and how your country feels about organized sexual events, this is as easy as doing some web searching (check our very own fetish events page for kinky things planned near you). 

“However kinky your outdoor sex ideas are in your imagination; sex in public isn't consensual unless you're doing it where no one else is – or in front of people who not only know what's doing on but are getting off on it as well.”

Swinger's groups, for instance, have been known to put on extravagant outdoor parties where there's moaning and groaning coming (and then some) from every tent. The same is true with BDSM groups, as there's a number of them that host kinky festivals at special camping areas: where people can get tied to trees and flogged, suspended from branches, or cavort to their libido's content in cold freshwater streams.

If the woods aren't for you, rest easy, as for every outdoor event there's an equal number of sex parties taking place indoors, often taking over entire hotels. These can be delightfully exciting, extra for those who want the erotic thrill of watching or being watched with fears of being hauled off to jail. The organizers typically book the whole place – the staff know and are OK with whatever's going on.

Feeling hot? Try some alfresco action while camping!

Other tips for outside sex 

When it comes to having some cheeky sex outdoors, considering your clothing is essential. You may need to cover up fast or make a quick getaway, so dress to get undressed and then dressed again quickly! Easy access is key when you are thinking of having an outdoor adventure. Women: opt for simple layers you can slip back on quickly. Why not go commando and ditch the underwear? Or try crotchless panties.

No-one likes a litter bug, so be sure to take a plastic bag with you if you're using condoms and need tissues, etc. Leave the outside space as you found it. 

Outdoor sex: have fun and be responsible 

If we could leave you with anything about outdoor sex play, never forget the importance of consent. If you feel that you can't manage to treat anyone who might be nearby with respect, then it's safer to keep your sexual activities to yourself. But if you're at a place where sex — or kink or whatever — is what's going on and everyone there knows it, then have all the erotic fun you want, whether that's in the great outdoors or in a hotel swimming pool!  •

Have your own outdoor sex ideas on where, how and when to do it? What's your kinkiest memory of public sex? Leave a comment in the Fetish.com forum.

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