Kink up your Valentine's Day!

Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate love. But what if you’ve got yourself a kinky valentine and want to spice up their day? Victoria Blisse brings you tips on how to make your Valentine's more about whips and chains than flowers and chocolates... 

Us kinksters love our fetish fun but that doesn't mean we still can't be romantic too. In fact, mixing kink with love can lead to some of the most explosive kinky sex and amazing relationships. So, what if you want to express your amour for a kinky Valentine, but in more of a slutty style? Here are my top kinky Valentine's gift ideas, plus some naughty date ideas to make your February 14th go with a bang! 

Kinky Valentine's Gifts 

Why be like everyone else and buy flowers and chocolates for Valentine’s Day? Is that what your partner really wants? Gifts from the heart are the best kind, especially if they’re kinky! Here are four ideas that are bound to please:
 

1. Day collar

Not everyone can wear an actual BDSM collar all day every day. So, buy your partner a necklace or even a bracelet or ring they can wear at non-kink events. It could be a choker-style or a silver or gold chain with a stylised lock on it – whatever is symbolic to you. The important thing is that when your partner wears this collar, they will know that they belong to you. 
 

2. Spanking implement

If you can afford it, treat your kinky Valentine to a beautiful handmade spanking paddle or heavy leather floggers. If money is tight, then you could offer something you’ve made yourself. Wooden pegs make great nipple clamps, for example, decorate and varnish them for a personal touch. Hairbrushes are great kink gifts too. They look quite sweet and vanilla... until the back of the brush hits flesh then you realise what good implements they make!

Cuff luck: treat someone this kinky Valentine's!

3. Personalized erotica

Wny not write a story that will turn your partner on? It doesn’t need to be long or complex, but the fact you’ve taken time to write out a kinky fantasy for them will melt their heart this kinky Valentine's. Print it out and decorate for extra romance points or text paragraphs to your lover throughout the day to keep them titillated ‘til they get home!
 

4. Treat yourself

If you’re single this Valentine’s Day, treat yourself to something sexy. Perhaps get a new vibrator or male masturbation machine, or buy yourself something new in latex, lace or leather. After all, you’re worth it! 

BDSM Valentine's Dates 

Sometimes the best gifts are experiences. Grant your other half an experience they’ve always wanted. Maybe you could try needle play for the first time, creating a pretty heart on your lover’s back.

You could indulge in some wet and messy play. A sexy picnic in bed eaten off each other could be fun! Strawberries, marshmallows, apples or bananas dipped in melted chocolate is a fantastic place to start. Feed each other and lick up any ‘accidental’ drips. 

“If you can afford it, treat your kinky Valentine to a beautiful handmade spanking paddle or heavy leather floggers. If money is tight, then you could offer something you’ve made yourself.”

Many venues  hire out their dungeons for private sessions; there are even fetish hotels you could stay in overnight. Taking time to indulge in your favorite fetishes is the best way to a kinky Valentine’s Day. 

And, if you’re single, take yourself on a date. Go and get your nails done or get yourself waxed. Maybe you can watch your favorite sexy or kinky movie and take yourself to bed afterwards. Challenge yourself by trying a self-tie if you enjoy bondage rope.  Use nipple clamps on yourself, or even try a little self-flagellation. Simply put, its impact play with yourself. Long floggers are especially good to use for this. Treat yourself to a BDSM Valentine’s; you don’t need a partner to do it for you. 

Whip up a kinky Valentine's Day to remember!

Kinky Valentine Events

There are lots of Valentine’s themed events going on around the world. For example, in London, UK, scene-leader Torture Garden has not one – but two – Valentine’s balls happening. Check out your local dungeon or BDSM club to see what events they’ve got going on – it's a great way to meet new kinksters for play. 

Valentine’s Day might seem vanilla, but it’s a great excuse to kink up your life. There’s no need to do the same old same old when you could have a BDSM Valentine’s instead. Whether you’re on your own or with a partner, make sure you enjoy a kinky Valentine’s this year!  •

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