My husband is 5 years younger than me. It's not what I was expecting, but he is a wonderful lover and person. We got to where we are because we were BOTH willing to step outside the box.

I am unshaved. The men I was involved with knew this from the start. I am confident in my body, and don't waste time with those who aren't. My husband is one of those men, and he has no desire to change me. He loves my hair and the scent of them(pits and pubic) and I have very little on my arms Read more… and legs. I am a "natural woman", and wouldn't change a thing

When you put it that way, you're absolutely right. We do have different "languages" in our relationship, and that took several years of "school" to learn how to accept each other's backgrounds, and be able and willing to learn new lessons, which benefitted us both. As we have not met others like Read more… us, that's why I brought it here, to see if anyone else is in this situation, and how they made it work(or not). Thanks for sharing!!!

When we first started out, we were strictly friends, and he brought it up in a roundabout way. Eventually, he did share this with me, and I wanted to understand it. Keep in mind, I was under the assumption that this was something he was into, but could easily put aside when he was with a Read more… woman(myself or any woman). I had been with other men with kinks who could still do vanilla. I didn't understand, once we became sexually involved that this was something he actually NEEDED in order to be satisfied, so as a result, I took his "rejection" personally (I have since learned recently that there is a difference between a kink and a fetish). He was NOT rejecting me, he had never had a relationship with a live human other than himself and his glasses all of his life, and to do that was very difficult for him, and in hindsight I see that now. We loved each other, but didn't have a roadmap on how to meet each other's needs. Through trial and error, a LOT of honesty, and willingness to adapt on BOTH our parts, we found other ways to be sexual that were working for both of us, and he discovered he DID have the ability to please me(or any woman in the future), just in a different way that was special to me, and his success grew with each encounter. He even initiates our lovemaking today. I am loved, and cherished, and in turn he is loved, cherished, accepted, secure in himself, and doesn't have to change who is is. This has been hard-won, and we both got we needed. I'm glad we didn't give up, even when we didn't know what we were doing. We taught each other, and have been rewarded as a result of our hard work.

I guess I would be considered a "Natural" woman, my underarms and down below are unshaven, the men I was with before my husband knew this, and seemed happy with my state. I never liked shaving, so avoided it like the plague. I was upfront about it, so they couldn't claim a bait and switch when Read more… they met me. If anything, they liked that I wasn't like anyone they were used to, and I was confident iny own skin. The last time I removed my underarms hair was when I had my wedding, and I wanted to keep the controversy down(my husband didn't mind my hair though, he didn't want me to remove it). I love what the Lord put there, and now that it's gray, I love it even more. It's good to know there are men who do appreciate body hair, thank you!!!

I have been big all my life, and it never stopped me for having relationships with different men. I told them upfront I am plus size, so I don't waste time with those who can't deal with it. I am married and my husband loves me just as I am; I need to lose weight because of mobility issues and he Read more… just wants me to be my best healthy self for me, not for anyone else. I wear lingerie because it makes me feel beautiful and sexy, and he loves seeing me wearing it, knowing no one else will see me this way. I have stretch marks and scars, and I feel no shame. I know my confidence is hard- won, and I refuse to let anyone make me feel less.

I am disabled (lifelong), married over a decade to a man on the spectrum, the men who I was involved with were comfortable with my limitations, and accommodated me, and found ways to please me and vice versa. The right one (s) will be accepting, the ones that aren't, stay away from. It's a Read more… mindset you carry into any relationship. You are more than your disability, and anyone who can't see that, don't waste your time with. That's what I can tell you.

Thanks for responding. I have shared this on another site, but no one responded. Since the original post, things have improved for the better, because we created an intimate relationship which is successful, and he can still play with his toys when he has his own time, and I am no longer Read more… threatened by them. I didn't realize how hard it was for him to interact with a human being, having only an inanimate object to be with until I came along. But to his credit, he met me halfway, and I had to relate to him differently and throw out what I was used to in order to find out what did turn him on. We had our issues but with time, patience, and openness on both our parts, we have a beautiful sex life we wouldn't trade for anything. I know I'm not the only one male or female with this situation, just wanted to share our experience so someone else knows there is hope for their own happy ending.

My first time was with an older man who kept telling me how much he wanted to give me the best anal ever. I said no for a while, but one day worked up the courage to let him show me. He carefully explained what would happen, and that he made sure I was all right. When that day came, he lubed me Read more… up, played with it, and when I was ready, he slowly and gently went in. I was relaxed, and there was no ***, just a feeling of pressure as he filled me. He moved slowly, and I experienced sensations never felt when he was in my vagina. I was going higher, and when I came, it was wonderful. We did this about 4 times over a period of weeks, before we parted ways(he has since died). I'm glad I said yes to him, and I carry the memory of it and tap into it when I masturbate, and enjoy it all over again.