Jinxy ➦Jinxy quote Thebian:❝Great advice as always 👍
I would echo what was said about ensuring that your wants and needs are being asked about and catered to.
The sort of person who is looking to just use you, in a bad way, will most likely not invest the time and trouble into finding out all the little Read more… things that make you happy.
So make any Dominant work for your submission, ensure that they want to know you, that they at least are interested in satisfying your needs.
Your submission is as valuable as you make it. So value it very highly and the majority of fakes will get bored and go for low hanging fruit.
There will always be some that get through but the previous posters gave excellent guidance on reading and red flags.
Always be your authentic self the right dominant will prefer that, if you have to pretend in anyway get out of there.
Stay safe.❞
Yes, to all of this. Especially valuing yourself as a submissive. One of the misconceptions is that subs have no power in the Dom/sub dynamic. Know your boundaries and be able to state them clearly. A major red flag to me is how the person responds when you set clear boundaries. A lot of times someone who just wants to use you will not appreciate you giving them firm limits. They might blow them off or indicate there’s some wiggle room with a response like “We’ll see” or “You might feel differently if you try it”. As another commenter stated, listen to your gut. If you’re feeling unsafe in a situation, it’s not likely to improve.

Leisa ➦Leisa quote Thebian:❝Great advice as always 👍
I would echo what was said about ensuring that your wants and needs are being asked about and catered to.
The sort of person who is looking to just use you, in a bad way, will most likely not invest the time and trouble into finding out all the little Read more… things that make you happy.
So make any Dominant work for your submission, ensure that they want to know you, that they at least are interested in satisfying your needs.
Your submission is as valuable as you make it. So value it very highly and the majority of fakes will get bored and go for low hanging fruit.
There will always be some that get through but the previous posters gave excellent guidance on reading and red flags.
Always be your authentic self the right dominant will prefer that, if you have to pretend in anyway get out of there.
Stay safe.❞
This is what makes you such a special dominant Sir.

Leisa ➦Leisa quote Deleted profile:❝Read up on toxicity, manipulation, co dependency, narcissism to educate yourself on others. Read up on self awareness, confidence, empowerment and self belief to educate yourself on you. This will make you stronger, more able, have a higher threshold for what's Read more… acceptable to you, know that you are enough and you are not defined by others. Be a strong, vibrant shiny submissive and make the fuckers wait for you!!! Have a beautiful day and tell yourself how wonderful you are 🔥🔥🔥❞
Thank you for the strong advice my friend. I can only echo your advice. It’s important for the submissive to always stay strong and confident in the journey.