@sirphileasflogg me topping from the bottom? never 😇

@Mossyboy so... background... when the hubby and I first met, I back then didn’t know I was a little/middle. I was made fun of for liking child like things and doing child like activities for fun but I didn’t really care. It’s just who I am. I knew I was always submissive but when we first met, it Read more… wasn’t something you “talked about”. I honestly thought kinks that I read about were in fantasy erotic books (not talking 50 shades either) and that was the end of it. So I never talked about it openly.
I realized I was sub After I was approached by a few self proclaimed doms later in life (while hubs and I were friends not in a committed relationship) and I might have told them to shove it Lol thinking they were riding on the whole 50 shades popularity at the time and just wanting sex. I don’t think it came to a realization until 2 years before we got married. I was in a short term relationship and for the first time I was with a very dominating boyfriend and it just clicked. Not the relationship but the submissive side. The hubs knew I was submissive we talked about it but he never showed this dom side. He tried, but the tone wasn’t there. There might have been other girls that submitted to it, but I also have a strong bold personality with a chip on her shoulder and will lead because it’s a defense mechanism so to speak. I hate being the leader, but most of my life I had no choice but to be that person. I don’t trust anyone (so that’s partially my fault)
Anyways, I’m dragging on. In the answer to your question, we been dating on and off for 5 1/2 years (mainly friends) and then got married 3 1/2 years ago. Communication has been poor until recently and that’s cause I shut down for a long while after we lost my mom about 4 1/2 years ago. We struggled in because of it. So now that storm is over, is better here we are lol.
I guess we are both newer to it, especially the little part for me. I don’t identity within the abdl part so I was confused for a while until I did more research. I know who I am based Off of research and a best friend who has been a sub for a year. When you read stuff you tend to research topics that interest you separate reality vs fantasy. I would like to let my little out but she stays hidden most times unless I’m alone. So there ya have it! Lol

Ok ok... so.. this is the wife. LOL when I say tone, it’s not authoritative like.. I can’t submit because I start giggling because there is no difference between his silly/playful tone vs dom tone. Ive submitted naturally to people in conversation with the right tone and in other relationships of Read more… the past. I need to shut up while I’m ahead over here, I’m going to end up sounding like the bad guy or something 😝