Kymi it must be possible otherwise professional Dominatrixes would go out of business, whether its advisable outside such an exchange is a different matter it must be possible otherwise professional Dominatrixes would go out of business, whether its advisable outside such an exchange is a different matter

Jemedonne Bonjour!Je pense qu'au début d une relation,la méfiance est là,que les sentiments comme confiance,complicité,émotion,amitié,savoir tenir son rôle,et pour un(e) soumis(e) l amour peut et doit s installer pour appartenir à son Maitre ou sa Maitresse.Quoi de plus beau qu'un soumis amoureux de sa Maitresse,aussi bien pour lui que pour elle... Bonjour!Je pense qu'au début d une relation,la méfiance est là,que les sentiments comme confiance,complicité,émotion,amitié,savoir tenir son rôle,et pour un(e) soumis(e) l amour peut et doit s installer pour appartenir à son Maitre ou sa Maitresse.Quoi de plus beau qu'un soumis amoureux de sa Maitresse,aussi bien pour lui que pour elle...

Joker50 Further to my earlier reply and the woman I referred to; we had built a short but on line model of what may happen when we met. Almost out of the blue she travelled to Manchester to meet. We went to a bar for a drink and got to know each other a little and discussed our on line mails. Having Read more… established that we were intrigued enough to go further, we did a little shopping and then went back to her room. At no point had there been any mention of toys and so when I walked in and saw all the things she had brought with her I was taken aback. She let me strip her and then pointed at the toys and said, 'You can use any of those in or on me, I have two weeks before any else will see me naked. I don't care how you use me but, you have all night, make me scream.' I was uncertain that the person I had just met was the person I had met on line but, her completely dead attitude to being used, allowed me to let go of any constraints I had and led to a very early morning scramble for a clean shirt on the way back to work and one semi wrecked hotel room.
I received a text a few hours later, 'thank you for last night/this morning, I got what I always wanted, complete *** and *** at the hands of someone who is basically a stranger. Next time I am using the strap on in your ass.'
Nowadays she is a friend and we have a had a few other sessions along those lines but never with the simple freeing of constraints and care of that first meeting. But we talk about it and laugh about it but we both know it will never be like that again and hasn't been.
So yes it is possible to do this without connection and she still does but, it would take a very disdainful attitude from a woman to get me back there again.
PS the strap on was fun

Gawain My Self-Flagellation Isn't particularly sexual for me. I get the impression that Masochistic activities work by Sexual Sublimation for many people, just as they did in the Middle Ages. To me, many people on Fet actually seem prudish and repressed. My Self-Flagellation Isn't particularly sexual for me. I get the impression that Masochistic activities work by Sexual Sublimation for many people, just as they did in the Middle Ages. To me, many people on Fet actually seem prudish and repressed.

Deleted profile Definitely! We're all unique and should celebrate that. Not seek to pigeon hole people. Definitely! We're all unique and should celebrate that. Not seek to pigeon hole people.

sleazykink I agree. Sexuality is a wide and varied spectrum as wide as it is colourful and we are too easily led into putting people into pigeon holes. What pleases one person or satisfies another is vast. Sites such as this opening up discussion between us allows us to find what common ground we have with Read more… another to build that pleasure on. I prefer play to lead to orgasm but have also been deprived of it and found that extremely erotic too. Sometimes that lengthy deprivation has built a closer bond than just shooting a load would create.

RavenousHunger I prefer a three tier process.
Tier 1 You have just met, your figuring things out, finding out about your compatibility. It’s all shiny and new and everything is verbally agreed to. (This is why every other post on this forum is about communication)
Tier 2 you have found out that your simpatico, Read more… all your puzzle pieces fit together and you’re ready to take a next step. A quick one page (thing?) that outlines preferences, bullet points ideas confirms safe words and hard limits. Short and sweet and easily modified as you go.
Tier 3 Your one page is now almost three pages, you can play her body like a Stradivarius.(I look at everything from the Don point of view). It could be time for a full blown contact. (I put things in writing but have never felt the need for signatures). But if you do, more power to you. Go to the internet and download 3,4,5 however many you want and cherry pick what you need to feel comfortable (because that’s what you’re trying to do). Sign on the dotted line and go to town on each other (within the rules of the contract, of course)
My 2¢
Keep your guard up, and watch for the left

MuscleMommy88 For me personally it’s always appropriate in the beginning to use a contract. Now it’s now law binding so it’s not gonna hold up in court. It’s just a nice understanding of roles and responsibilities for the Dom and the submissive. Rules, protocols, rituals, allotted times, limits, safe word as detailed as it needs to be. So that both parties understand what’s expected and everyone is giving consent. For me personally it’s always appropriate in the beginning to use a contract. Now it’s now law binding so it’s not gonna hold up in court. It’s just a nice understanding of roles and responsibilities for the Dom and the submissive. Rules, protocols, rituals, allotted times, limits, safe word as detailed as it needs to be. So that both parties understand what’s expected and everyone is giving consent.

Theedge-9760 Have a contract, it will protect both of you should it ever break down. The Police are now empowered to issue Domestic *** Protection Orders. If either one of you leaves a mark on the other it WILL get messy. I know. Have a contract, it will protect both of you should it ever break down. The Police are now empowered to issue Domestic *** Protection Orders. If either one of you leaves a mark on the other it WILL get messy. I know.