I’m trying..:she’s the one struggles with it….

This was her response “You didn't understand the roles. Or my position I should say. It's easier to leave the dark than to get someone to understand or live it”

That’s horrible. For us she def has unmet needs she isn’t saying and it shows at times which is what has caused some of our issues

She would be dom. But she feels I can’t handle it.

Thank you guys. I’ve been trying to talk to her. She’s opened up a bit about it but she says “it’s not a here and there thing. It’s a lifestyle.” She treats me like a queen I’m VERY spoiled and I have no qualms about that, but I’m a very independent person raised three kids alone for 8 years after Read more… their father passed away and I’m a dominant personality in the real world (I’m a management nurse one step down from the building director) and ve always had that personality. She frequently refers to me as a Brat and I’m ok with that. But I feel like she only sees the dom/sub thing as one black or white thing. There’s no grey area. Is that true?