"you keep up with that attitude and your going to regret it young lady"

Like you said, it all depends on the couple. For some they want to be in control/not be in control all the time and for others they just want it in the bedroom and then there is a wide spectrum in between those, it just all depends on communication between both parties at all times. It can change, Read more… one feels they need to give more control and if they feel that way then they need to tell their partner and not believe their mind can be read. And you should be clear about what you want, don't just drop hints and expect them to know and then get upset at them for not giving you what you want, again as far as I know no one can read minds.

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Tell him exactly what you want. He may already do so much for you but he's not going to be able to read your mind, so you need to be clear and honest about what you want.

Yes unfortunately it is normal for Doms to react that way and my advice is to stay away from those because they seem to be the type that are ALWAYS in charge you know? Subs can totally initiate conversations otherwise how can both know that's the person for them or not if the Top hasn't said Read more… anything you know? Like if you wait for them to make the first move because you see how similar you are according to your profile but they don't then how can either of you know that you may be what the other is looking for. My advice is to keep initiating conversations and keep asking about female Doms if that's what you want and pay no attention to those that scold you for doing it.

I'd be putting you over my knee and turning your ass nice and red for thinking that you are allowed to cum without permission.

You ARE beautiful plain and simple and I don't know about others but I do enjoy an amply padded arse and thick thighs too, especially as they wiggle when over my knee. The only person you are ever ugly to is yourself. People will call you ugly but that is just their own perception, they're only Read more… right when you allow them to be.

There are daddies out there that you are looking for and you are right to not settle for something you don't want and to keep looking, you will find one that will help you find that space you are looking for where you can truly be yourself without *** or anxiety of being judged in any way shape or Read more… form.

No you are not overreacting at all, he's not a real Dom if he's unwilling to listen and respect your limits and come on, having someone call off work just so they can fulfill your desires is a bad thing to do. If he is unwilling to even compromise much less respect it, then he isn't the one for you.