To me feminism is about freedom of choice and equality of opportunity in the world! As Vincent said above the equality we want in the world and how we like fucking...or our personal dynamics are completely separate!
I also believe that feminism benefits men as much as women.

I will always be grateful for the friendship that we found. It is truly an honour! It brings me so much joy and happiness to see you shine! Plus you are freaking hilarious 😂😂❤🔥👑🔥❤

I have made some amazing friends on here...a few I've been blessed to meet in real life too! Some have played a huge part in corrupting me and bringing out my confidence! I think you all know who you are and I will forever be grateful to you.
I wa also lucky enough to meet the man I hope to spend Read more… the rest of my life with!
There is one lady on here who has been there since pretty much day one and who has been there for me and helped me more than she will know. You inspire me all the time Firewitch, than you for being a beautiful friend ❤🔥👑🔥❤

I would like to ask what you think it is that makes the sub wish to submit?
Do you think it is because they have maybe found a Dominant that absolutely intoxicates them, as they have taken the time to know them inside and out? They know what their sub is feeling and thinking, often times before Read more… they even know themselves and therefore has made them want to offer their submission to that person?
Maybe it is because the Dominant has taken the time to do this that they are able to bring out the best in their submissive and help them grow so that they may thrive and succeed beautifully in their submission (thus pleasing their Dominant more and more) and also as a person out in the real world.
As has been said before, each has their own path and way of doing things but I could never offer my submission freely to someone who lacked the depth, or desire to own me mind, body and soul.... by..... knowing me..... mind, body and soul.

Omg I shouldn't have read that whilst at my desk at work!
Very hot and well written Lilm ❤

I am so sorry to hear this and hope they are ok. This post was supposed to help bring people together not make them feel as though they have to leave. I really hope they return.

I just want to say thank you to everyone that has left a reply and shared their experiences and thoughts on this subject. I have been trying to answer each reply individually but there has been such a huge response that I'm stuggling to do this. It is very heartening to see so many feel the same Read more… way and gives me hope that things can get better.
I am personally going to do the following from now on:
1) Always welcome every newcomer into the chat room.
2) Put myself in their shoes and imagine walking into a room full people that know each other to some extent and are chatting freely (as they should, as part of a community) and wondering how I can get in on that and also feel accepted.
3) Not just say hi but try to engage with then and make them feel included.
4) If someone comes in and immediately asks to pm or if there are any Dom/mes etc in the room, I will not immediately tell them to place an ad and jump down their throat, but welcome them and engage them and by doing so hope to let them see what the lobby is all about.
5) If someone is trolling or being downright rude then I will ignore or if really bad report or block them. I will not jump on the witch hunt bandwagon.
I think all of this is a good place to start because after all we are all human beings and need to relate to each other as such and sometimes that means extending a courtesy to someone that may not be showing the same courtesy at first and giving a chance for the situation to improve.
Again thank you to everyone that has taken the time to read and offer their opinions and experiences and I hope we can all be kinder to each other, as sometimes we may be the only conversation a person has had that day.
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Hi Sammy xx
Thank you for your lovely response. Yes I've noticed it for a while and know I'm not alone in feeling this way, it did appear to get a little better but has taken 10 steps back.
I have been able to see, through lurking what happens when a new person enters the room and it's quite Read more… frankly at worse hostile and at best difficult to get an in, into the conversation.
I completely agree with your comments and wish it could have the same atmosphere as when I first joined, it really is a shame.
I guess all we can do is continue to be welcoming and inclusive and try to being back some of the old atmosphere.
It's lovely to hear from you too Sammy, thank you for your thoughts xxx