@SissyRlanne - That is a great list of ideas, thank you. I particularly love the idea of writing lines. He and I write together, creatively, a fair bit. Perhaps I can adjust it so that he has to write me a particular type of short story. Chastity is a great one too, as the area he wanted to work on Read more… was going longer between masturbation periods, and he has identified that he wants my help/accountability. That humbler sounds downright wicked, love it, I may suggest it to him.
@nymphetaminx @Montague @CuckoldDaddy Thanks for the info! @trine @MsWhiteRose Thanks for the words of wisdom The D/s side of things comes into play from time to time whenever one of feels the desire. I agree, doing it all the time would make the general intimacy very difficult. We have yet to meet up in person (it's all being text/voice/video calls), but I imagine that when we do get the chance to meet up, the fallout of then not having it will be difficult.
@kitty_clydesdale Those links were fantastic, thank you so much. Certainly some good considerations there.
In the end, this time at least (and after thorough verification of personal limits), we have gone with controlled orgasms and small orders about clothes he is to be wearing (or not ) at home. He has given me a goal of how long he would like to go without masturbating, and doesn't feel confident if he is only accountable to himself, so the consequences of slip ups are mostly just related to manipulating the variables that contribute to that
Great BDSM punishments ideas. Thank you!

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