Sounds like it's communication to me... personally I like to find out what's expected of me... even if it's blunt or negative... I'm a massive switch in my head I like to be told what to do then switch an do it hard... sounds to me like he likes you an doesn't want to be assertive I was scared to Read more… about hurting my friend or being over dominant... turns out after talking... she likes it...

Speaking as a guy who's into the lifestyle I have a friend... I'm madly in love with her and yes some stuff has happened but she's an "alpha female" an I didn't think I had what it takes to break down her defenses properly... then we got a little drunk an it just happened she was shocked at how Read more… easily I overrode her... and we had alot of fun but now her defenses are higher than ever an I can't get anywhere with her we're back to just friends no benifits... if you truly like someone it can be hard to be a dom but it can also be easy given the right circumstance... I know I rambled a bit but hope that helps 😊...