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After meeting a Dom who sparked my interest in BDSM I am wanting to learn the rules, try new things but in a controlled and safe manner.
My Dom is a very patient man who is still testing the waters with me. And so far our interests are in line with each other's.
I am still making mistakes but as they are learning curves and He knows I don't know enough to know differently I'm not being punished, as such (I'm sure delays to our first scene are some form of punishment, not really, )
As I develop as a sub I will update this bio so any advise I'm given is appropriate to my situation.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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A definite bottom
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That's what I found in my research too. That a good scene is one where both feel they could have gone further.
With this being my first ever scene I was expecting to be instructed by my Dom on positions and what his instructions meant etc. (We had already agreed safe words etc)
Then taught what would invoke Read more…punishment etc. enjoyed some play, with a mild amount of ***.
Though I felt completely safe and was not pushed to do anything I came away from the session...I don't know feeling a bit meh.
We didn't do anything that I was expecting (the first bit above) I don't feel like I served Him properly.
I even asked the question after the session if I was his first sub (which I wouldn't mind as I would be more than happy to learn together). He told me I'm not but he didn't come across as confident in instructing me. Does that make sense?
Because I've researched the scene before giving over to it have I done more harm than good?
I did make sure we discussed the session after and told him what I thought of the session. He took that to mean I was uncomfortable with what had happened... Even though I wasn't.
What should I do next? I'm keeping the conversation going so that I can serve him the way he wants (and still get my own requirements met i.e. safe play where I'm pushed and can explore this side of my sexuality)
Did I do something wrong? We're my expectations unreasonable/ wrong? Should I give over and let him lead me the way he wants and forget about sub poses as He doesn't require me to be in them?
It's this usual?
I'm so confused.
What happens when a sub is on her period?
This month I'm delaying my period so I can fully participate in a planned session.
But does the play stop if it's that time of the month?
If dom is wearing tampon I don't mind still orraly serving her she can still grind my face and lea e awsome friction burns leaves three day tingle. Especially if she have few day grow. Yes I'm different ➦Shaggygrey quote Deleted profile:❝I think it might depend on the play planned. I have done various scenes whilst on my period, mostly impact play and some wax play. I think it's something that you should discuss with your play partner. ❞
If dom is wearing tampon I don't mind still orraly serving her she can still grind my face and lea e awsome friction burns leaves three day tingle. Especially if she have few day grow. Yes I'm different
I suppose it is strange.
We've known each other years in other capacities. It is a recent thing for us to be intimate. It is a more recent thing for the Dom/sub part to develop.
Does that make more sense?
My Dom is a very patient man who is still testing the waters with me. And so far our interests are in line with each other's.
I am still making mistakes but as Read more… they are learning curves and He knows I don't know enough to know differently I'm not being punished, as such (I'm sure delays to our first scene are some form of punishment, not really, )
As I develop as a sub I will update this bio so any advise I'm given is appropriate to my situation.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Thank you all for your replies. I'm going to look up sub poses.
I'm looking forward to seeing how this all develops.
Excited 🤩
I'm a newbie too and I'm currently reading SM101 by Jase Wiseman.
It is full of advice on keeping your play safe.
It doesn't assume prior knowledge of the scene and explains things really well
I've known my Dom years and trust him implicitly. The pictures are for his personal use.
But this is a new thing for me. He is breaking me in gently and we have not yet played our first scene. The instruction given is what makes me feel comfortable. I'm still learning what He likes. So far I know Read more… shoes and corsets and bondage.
I want to be the best sub I can be for him though.
What would be the best poses and How do I actually go about taking them.
Should I be naked or should I wear something?
He told me he wanted me to choose but I don't know what he would like... help please
Does that make more sense?❞
I totally get that - and with context it changes my answer a little bit.
I think Read more… therefore he's assessing how comfortable you currently are - and - I think that's the answer.
You may be comfortably (say) kneeling naked ready to serve - or you may be comfortable with a ball gag and "Masters pig" scrawled across your chest and a butt plug in : I think it's up to you to decide how comfortable you currently are.
About to say that myself. ➦Deleted profile quote Deleted profile:❝Shouldn't he be telling you what pics he wants?❞
About to say that myself.
We've known each other years in other capacities. It is a recent thing for us to be intimate. It is a more recent thing for the Dom/sub part to develop.
Does that make more sense? I suppose it is strange.
We've known each other years in other capacities. It is a recent thing for us to be intimate. It is a more recent thing for the Dom/sub part to develop.
Does that make more sense?
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Yes, he knew it was my first scene. And that makes sense.
➦Pampered Read more… quote eyemblacksheep:❝sometimes it takes a few scenes for momentum - it's always better to not overstep the mark and come back for more, then him overstep the mark and you not wanting to do it again.❞
That's what I found in my research too. That a good scene is one where both feel they could have gone further.