About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- BDSM Lovers
Description
My Ordinary Vanilla Life
Hi, I’m Setrion, and I am a consummate nerd.
I have broad variety of experiences, hobbies, and interests, and I get lost in the weeds of all of them. I like knowing stuff, and I like being good at stuff. I like stories, and I like clever rules and tricky wordplay. Everything else comes from there.
My hobbies and interests are a disconnected mess of random ideas, but also probably the most straightforward way to understand me. So here’s the first few things off the top of my head:
- Videogames (action, platforming, strategy, coop/team, logistics)
- Books (fantasy/sci-fi, Lois McMaster Bujold, Brandon Sanderson, and Phillip K. Dick especially)
- SPREADSHEETS (there is nothing as exciting as well-formatted data! How do you rate this list?)
- Board games (eurogame point salads, worker placement, action point limited, deckbuilder)
- Convoluted philosophically-inclined bullshit (Umineko, K6BD, Homestuck, Evangelion)
- Sports (disc golf, minigolf, bowling, archery, curling, and wait there’s more!)
- Roleplaying games (various TTRPGs, e.g. D&D or Tenra Bansho Zero)
- Cuddling (just being together is nice, but touching is special and important)
- Anime (Thunderbolt Fantasy, Violet Evergarden, FMA, Durarara)
- ***s! Let’s go to the zoo or go on a hike and look at birds! (Weird how this point isn’t formatted the same huh? That’s gonna bug someone... Oh wait it’s me)
- Writing and game design (I make my own stories and games, too!)
- kdrama (intrigue and mystery) (also does anyone know how to capitalize “K-Drama” and make it not look weird?)
- Sharing experiences and passing thoughts (I love the intimacy of seeing your interests and encounters in real time. I love to share things I find.)
- Wordplay and linguistics (I WILL look up the etymology of that weird word, and use it for a godawful pun three weeks later. Or maybe three seconds later.)
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Nerdy documentaries on unnecessarily specific topics (like a 6-hour dissection of a game about being a kid spending summer vacation in rural japan, and its thesis about childhood)
There’s a lot more, especially in terms of dabblings I don’t actively pursue (genetics, crafting, proper walking technique, celtic knot drawing... etc.), but this list is long enough as it is. The point is, I’m looking for conversations and shared activities, and these are some of the things I’m most passionate about.
What I’m Looking For
I’m looking for either a play partner and/or a relationship; there are different (yet compatible) desires for each.
In terms of play, I’m most interested in sensations, especially touch. The feeling of another person, even if it is just a sense of physical closeness from a hand on an arm, is grounding and invigorating. The feeling of pressure, even if it is just a weighted blanket, is comforting and soothing. I’m excited to learn about and try different kinds of sensation play, especially textures and blindfolds. So far: I like violet wands, I’m experimenting with rope play (top and bottom), and I’m interested in trying “thuddy” impact play.
In terms of a relationship, I’m looking for safety and security. The feeling of being desired, that someone wants me and wants to do things with and/or to me. The feeling of appreciation, that my partner has gotten the satisfaction they were seeking, and the praise that I did a good job.
I want a relationship built on a foundation of vanilla hobbies. Something we can do or talk about together regularly. I don’t care if that’s playing games, or watching anime together, or talking about weird science articles, but some kind of shared activity. Something that we care about doing to do it, even if we wouldn’t be doing it alone.
I want to feel hugs and warmth and mutual concern. To take care of each other. I want a partner who can accept help as well as give it. I want a dash of rivalry and friendly competition. Some backtalk and sass.
Stretch Goal: An Ideal Life Partner
Conversations which flower with tangents, interjected with clever subversions and layered with hidden ironies. Long stories of childhood mistakes, of digging oneself deeper before making an escape. Deep technical explanations of the strangest hobbies, deep lore reveals of the most mundane coincidences, and twenty minute TED talks about pet **ves. Unexpected messages about something just thought of or discovered; the impatient exploration of new ideas.
The most important part of any relationship is - hold your hat! - the relationship. Wow, thanks tautology, very deep. What I am talking about is the excited banter between friends, the compassionate ear after a long day at work, the heated rivalry of another rematch of the same game we always play, and the lazy warmth of a cuddle wrapped in a blanket on the couch drifting to sleep. Of what it is like to be* with that person.
I want someone who steadies me with their touch when I get too emotional to use words. Someone who laughs when I trip and mocks me when I tiptoe around the edge of the room to keep my distance from that bully of a chair. Someone who holds me when I’m scared about a schism in a friend group. Someone who it’s okay to cry in front of; who I don't have to feign strength for. Someone brave enough to ask for my help when they need it, and secure enough to accept it when they don’t.
I want a friend. I want a roommate. I want a lover. But most importantly, I want a partner to hold hands with and stand strong against the world.
Boy, that sure was a lot
Congratulations, you have completed the overview of me. You have some introductory sense of who I am and what I’m about, in the vanilla world and in the kink world, for play partners and relationships, and that unfiltered melodramatic part of me. Sure, there’s a lot more. You can ask me how many languages I speak, or how many countries I’ve been to, or what I had for breakfast yesterday. Hopefully, this should be enough to start with. Now you know enough, at least, to know what questions to ask.
So, what are you planning to do with all this information? Are you going to just take this sage wisdom, nod your head knowingly, and ride off into the sunset? Or are you going to message me, become good friends, and enjoy a blossoming romance? *wink wink*
Oh, you, ah, you pick the sunset thing? W-well, that’s okay too, I guess...
Limits
- bad, contextual
- Mindfuckery dicey, probably bad
- No , skin breaking, , etc
- No needles
- No breath play
- No ***
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
Wanna know what interests me?:
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Pacifica with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
Highly implausible, as you did not once say "this is not legal advice" to avoid the creation of a client obligation.
Highly implausible, as you did not once say "this is not legal advice" to avoid the creation of a client obligation.
Hi, I’m Setrion, and I am a consummate nerd.
I have broad variety of experiences, hobbies, and interests, and I get lost in the weeds of all of them. I like knowing stuff, and I like being good at stuff. I like stories, and I like clever rules and tricky wordplay. Read more… Everything else comes from there.
My hobbies and interests are a disconnected mess of random ideas, but also probably the most straightforward way to understand me. So here’s the first few things off the top of my head:
Videogames (action, platforming, strategy, coop/team, logistics)
Books (fantasy/sci-fi, Lois McMaster Bujold, Brandon Sanderson, and Phillip K. Dick especially)
SPREADSHEETS (there is nothing as exciting as well-formatted data! How do you rate this list?)
Board games (eurogame point salads, worker placement, action point limited, deckbuilder)
Convoluted philosophically-inclined bullshit (Umineko, K6BD, Homestuck, Evangelion)
Sports (disc golf, minigolf, bowling, archery, curling, and wait there’s more!)
Roleplaying games (various TTRPGs, e.g. D&D or Tenra Bansho Zero)
Cuddling (just being together is nice, but touching is special and important)
Anime (Thunderbolt Fantasy, Violet Evergarden, FMA, Durarara)
***s! Let’s go to the zoo or go on a hike and look at birds! (Weird how this point isn’t formatted the same huh? That’s gonna bug someone... Oh wait it’s me)
Writing and game design (I make my own stories and games, too!)
kdrama (intrigue and mystery) (also does anyone know how to capitalize “K-Drama” and make it not look weird?)
Sharing experiences and passing thoughts (I love the intimacy of seeing your interests and encounters in real time. I love to share things I find.)
Wordplay and linguistics (I WILL look up the etymology of that weird word, and use it for a godawful pun three weeks later. Or maybe three seconds later.)
Nerdy documentaries on unnecessarily specific topics (like a 6-hour dissection of a game about being a kid spending summer vacation in rural japan, and its thesis about childhood)
There’s a lot more, especially in terms of dabblings I don’t actively pursue (genetics, crafting, proper walking technique, celtic knot drawing... etc.), but this list is long enough as it is. The point is, I’m looking for conversations and shared activities, and these are some of the things I’m most passionate about.
What I’m Looking For
I’m looking for either a play partner and/or a relationship; there are different (yet compatible) desires for each.
In terms of play, I’m most interested in sensations, especially touch. The feeling of another person, even if it is just a sense of physical closeness from a hand on an arm, is grounding and invigorating. The feeling of pressure, even if it is just a weighted blanket, is comforting and soothing. I’m excited to learn about and try different kinds of sensation play, especially textures and blindfolds. So far: I like violet wands, I’m experimenting with rope play (top and bottom), and I’m interested in trying “thuddy” impact play.
In terms of a relationship, I’m looking for safety and security. The feeling of being desired, that someone wants me and wants to do things with and/or to me. The feeling of appreciation, that my partner has gotten the satisfaction they were seeking, and the praise that I did a good job.
I want a relationship built on a foundation of vanilla hobbies. Something we can do or talk about together regularly. I don’t care if that’s playing games, or watching anime together, or talking about weird science articles, but some kind of shared activity. Something that we care about doing to do it, even if we wouldn’t be doing it alone.
I want to feel hugs and warmth and mutual concern. To take care of each other. I want a partner who can accept help as well as give it. I want a dash of rivalry and friendly competition. Some backtalk and sass.
Stretch Goal: An Ideal Life Partner
Conversations which flower with tangents, interjected with clever subversions and layered with hidden ironies. Long stories of childhood mistakes, of digging oneself deeper before making an escape. Deep technical explanations of the strangest hobbies, deep lore reveals of the most mundane coincidences, and twenty minute TED talks about pet **ves. Unexpected messages about something just thought of or discovered; the impatient exploration of new ideas.
The most important part of any relationship is - hold your hat! - the relationship. Wow, thanks tautology, very deep. What I am talking about is the excited banter between friends, the compassionate ear after a long day at work, the heated rivalry of another rematch of the same game we always play, and the lazy warmth of a cuddle wrapped in a blanket on the couch drifting to sleep. Of what it is like to be* with that person.
I want someone who steadies me with their touch when I get too emotional to use words. Someone who laughs when I trip and mocks me when I tiptoe around the edge of the room to keep my distance from that bully of a chair. Someone who holds me when I’m scared about a schism in a friend group. Someone who it’s okay to cry in front of; who I don't have to feign strength for. Someone brave enough to ask for my help when they need it, and secure enough to accept it when they don’t.
I want a friend. I want a roommate. I want a lover. But most importantly, I want a partner to hold hands with and stand strong against the world.
Boy, that sure was a lot
Congratulations, you have completed the overview of me. You have some introductory sense of who I am and what I’m about, in the vanilla world and in the kink world, for play partners and relationships, and that unfiltered melodramatic part of me. Sure, there’s a lot more. You can ask me how many languages I speak, or how many countries I’ve been to, or what I had for breakfast yesterday. Hopefully, this should be enough to start with. Now you know enough, at least, to know what questions to ask.
So, what are you planning to do with all this information? Are you going to just take this sage wisdom, nod your head knowingly, and ride off into the sunset? Or are you going to message me, become good friends, and enjoy a blossoming romance? *wink wink*
Oh, you, ah, you pick the sunset thing? W-well, that’s okay too, I guess...
Excellent correction Gemini 😏 Now we're all sure you're referring to strips of cloth! 😉
This is exactly the point that toxic men like to harp on to bemoan their poor state, but it's a classic case of lying with statistics. If you compare getting 100 apples to getting 5 apples in a void, the former seems naturally superior. but how many of those apples are rotten? If the former group Read more… has a rot rate of 99% and the latter only has one rotten apple, which of them is really more?
As Gemini has repeatedly pointed out, women may get more "responses" or "messages sent to them" or whatever, but these numbers are fake. They have no substance. There is no potential for a relationship inside them.
When we look at the actual number that matters, how often is there a chance to make a real connection that can convert to play or a relationship, there is no significant distinction by gender.
People like to say that dating is a numbers game. They're either wrong or lying. Relationships of value don't come about by brute ***; they must be cultivated. I'm not gonna give you some spiritual "love cannot be quantified" bullshit, but seriously, the numbers are a distraction. You have to focus less on the end goal and more on the process; there's no way to get a girlfriend without first forming a friendship.
Mindfuckery dicey, probably bad
No , skin breaking, , etc
No needles
No breath play
No ***
Not an English class, phonetics 🙂. I took a degree in Linguistics, just for fun. I just like playing with words. Some people take apart radios to see how they work; I take apart ideas.
I, as a young child, was infected by reading The Lord of the Rings and for years thereafter every name I made was in an (poorly understood) imitation of elvish conventions. I've gotten a little less elaborate over the years, but I still stick to an aesthetic. This isn't a conscious choice; I'm just Read more… trying to make the name "sound good" and "sound like a name", but looking at what I've come up with, patterns emerge.
My names will almost always be three syllables with primary stress on the first one. I prefer exclusively light syllables, although I cheat the final syllable by using a sonorant coda to make a false dipthong. (One of my names breaks these rules by having stress on the final syllable which has a true dipthong and an N coda for superheavy status.) I then try to diversify my consonant types, i.e. if I already have a sibilant I won't use another, and I tend to alternate "softer" (sibilant, liquid) and "harder" (stops, fricatives) types. Exactly one of the syllables will have a complex onset.
There isn't exactly a meaning behind the name, but there is a feeling to it. The name needs to feel good to say and to hear.
This was partially a specific reference to OP's situation where they are clearly not in the position to not care, and partially a subjective view of the situation from the position of the blackmailer instead of a position of objective fact. Surely many, including me, don't care about being outed, Read more… but that wasn't a useful perspective to advise OP from.
I, in this situation, would choose chaos. I'd tell them something like, "Oh, well, one already posted this video to my socials, so... I mean I *guess* you could try to steal some of my likes with it?"
Total bluff, but I also legitimately am 'out' with my friends and don't *** anyone seeing Read more… stuff.
That said, there's some neat stuff in here for someone who is afraid. A lot of the other "bring it on" messages are very confrontational, and can be perceived as false bravado (which they are). This message instead conveys extreme apathy, which would encourage someone to believe this blackmail is a waste of their time.
This is completely irrelevant. This isn't a matter of law, is a matter of personal honor. The agreement is real *to her* and therefore en***able. To quote the matrix, your mind makes it real.
What is at issue here is whether she feels betrayed in a way that has enough legitimacy to void their Read more… agreement.
No, gaslighting is a much more specific term and we should reserve it for those uses. Gaslighting refers to a breakdown of reality where you convince someone that their understanding of what is real is incorrect, and that they can't trust their own senses and/or perceptions and must rely on you to Read more… tell them what is true.
This is just garden-variety lying.
To expand on Gemini's point:
"BDSM" isn't just an umbrella term, because it composes six *other* umbrella terms (or arguably four if you consider the paired roles to be "one" umbrella). Bondage, Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism. These are all "kinks", and you can mix and match all Read more… of them - you can also choose *not* to mix them and only do one.
And that is to say nothing of the further genres within those terms, which can be further broken down. To say you want to "try kink" is a little like saying you want to "try food" - that says a lot less than it could. Spicy food? Noodles? Meats? Fried? Admittedly, there's a lot of learning involved to even know what's out there, but specificity is your friend.
We just need the companion post, "If you want to try BDSM, you need at least as much patience and perseverance to read this post. There WILL be a test." 😏