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  • 21.10.2018 16:54:00
  • Male (35)
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How to turn her on

Hello,
Sorry for the delay in reply. My girlfriend is the sub. However I have asked what she likes and get refused to be told apparently it's a turn off her telling me how to have sex.
I know what she likes when we get going. But my problem is actually turning her on. Vanilla ways like kissing her Read more… neck or gentle fondling is boring. How would I turn her on ?
Thanks
Shay

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icon-wio Shay123 created a topic in New to BDSM, Kink & Fetish?
How to turn her on
Hello I am new to BDSM and would like to know how to turn my girlfriend on. She says vanilla ways just don't do it for her. So I was just wondering if any of you could help me and give me some tips or advice ?
Thanks in advance
LikeBlackgrapefruit, Mdogms · 12 Replies
saphy
saphy I'm trying to put myself in Your girlfriends shoes here....but also with the understanding that what turns us subs on persay, can differ quite dramatically...but considering the subdued and tame approach....
😊prep her for play.
Lay her down comfortably, (assuming she's naked)...blindfold her, Read more… limit her senses so she can attune herself to Your touch then gently and slowly run your hands across her body. This isnt sexual intent. This is relaxing her and allowing her body to yield. Watch carefully for her reactions...her soft moans, her form arching...biting her lip....gripping the sheets...but DO NOT at this point, give her relief. Watch her breathing change and falter....let her NEED You.
From this point You can introduce the tails of a flogger instead of Your hands...stroke her meticulously but controlled. Know where those tails are serving a purpose...run them over her clit and up to her breasts...a gentle twist of the wrist will deliver just enough of a sting that will send her mind into overdrive...
Work Your way up to slipping a hand around her throat...whisper in her ear....above all else.... (personally speaking here btw...) NOTHING turns me on more at this point than being able to decipher and recognise the excitement and hunger in His voice!...those growls are something that sends us subs right over the edge 😈😈
Happy playing!
Ultimately though. As her Dominant other You NEED to make sure she's communicating clearly with You throughout play. Being vigilant in what she likes and what she doesn't. You're a Dominant but quite clearly, You're NOT psychic.
What with already being in a relationship, one would assume Y/you both had already discussed limits and so forth. If this isn't the case....I'd encourage You to do so. It's a fundamental step of any BDSM relationship and equally a great way of knowing firsthand what's gonna drive her to be insatiable in Your hands and what's gonna instantly turn her off.....but, regardless of everything else, enjoy the intimate time Y/you both share. 😊
LikeBigPolly · 27.10.2018 17:53:18
Deleted profile How do you know if you don't ask?
@Shay123 I commend your instinct to ask, that's a fab place to start. If she doesn't want to tell you precisely what to do, then maybe ask her what she fantasies about. It's important for both of you that you know any hard limits though, so you don't do something she really doesn't want. How do you know if you don't ask?
@Shay123 I commend your instinct to ask, that's a fab place to start. If she doesn't want to tell you precisely what to do, then maybe ask her what she fantasies about. It's important for both of you that you know any hard limits though, so you don't do something she really doesn't want.
LikeBigPolly, Master0011 26.10.2018 21:06:52
Deleted profile you dont ask a sub what she likes! you just know how to do it. learn her body reaction, slap her and tell her she is a dirty slut and she need to make you hard in 10 seconds you dont ask a sub what she likes! you just know how to do it. learn her body reaction, slap her and tell her she is a dirty slut and she need to make you hard in 10 seconds
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