Hello,
Sorry for the delay in reply. My girlfriend is the sub. However I have asked what she likes and get refused to be told apparently it's a turn off her telling me how to have sex.
I know what she likes when we get going. But my problem is actually turning her on. Vanilla ways like kissing her Read more… neck or gentle fondling is boring. How would I turn her on ?
Thanks
Shay
😊prep her for play.
Lay her down comfortably, (assuming she's naked)...blindfold her, Read more… limit her senses so she can attune herself to Your touch then gently and slowly run your hands across her body. This isnt sexual intent. This is relaxing her and allowing her body to yield. Watch carefully for her reactions...her soft moans, her form arching...biting her lip....gripping the sheets...but DO NOT at this point, give her relief. Watch her breathing change and falter....let her NEED You.
From this point You can introduce the tails of a flogger instead of Your hands...stroke her meticulously but controlled. Know where those tails are serving a purpose...run them over her clit and up to her breasts...a gentle twist of the wrist will deliver just enough of a sting that will send her mind into overdrive...
Work Your way up to slipping a hand around her throat...whisper in her ear....above all else.... (personally speaking here btw...) NOTHING turns me on more at this point than being able to decipher and recognise the excitement and hunger in His voice!...those growls are something that sends us subs right over the edge 😈😈
Happy playing!
Ultimately though. As her Dominant other You NEED to make sure she's communicating clearly with You throughout play. Being vigilant in what she likes and what she doesn't. You're a Dominant but quite clearly, You're NOT psychic.
What with already being in a relationship, one would assume Y/you both had already discussed limits and so forth. If this isn't the case....I'd encourage You to do so. It's a fundamental step of any BDSM relationship and equally a great way of knowing firsthand what's gonna drive her to be insatiable in Your hands and what's gonna instantly turn her off.....but, regardless of everything else, enjoy the intimate time Y/you both share. 😊
@Shay123 I commend your instinct to ask, that's a fab place to start. If she doesn't want to tell you precisely what to do, then maybe ask her what she fantasies about. It's important for both of you that you know any hard limits though, so you don't do something she really doesn't want. How do you know if you don't ask?
@Shay123 I commend your instinct to ask, that's a fab place to start. If she doesn't want to tell you precisely what to do, then maybe ask her what she fantasies about. It's important for both of you that you know any hard limits though, so you don't do something she really doesn't want.