I’ve had an off and on partner for some time now and she’s a sub, hands down. I’ve acted as her dom and we started our journey into the lifestyle together. As far as she knows I’ve been a dom this entire time but I’ve experimented online and talked to others and established in a switch. Our role
Read more…together is starting to move more romantically and we want to live it in the lifestyle, however I want to be honest with her. I’m not sure she’ll be accepting of the truth or will help me explore my submissive side. We want to be mutually exclusive to each other and I don’t know what I can or should do. Does anyone have any advice?
Also, I agree with eyem (often!) that you could give some thought to exclusivity. If you wish to sub, it need not be sexual. The two of you can work out whatever flavour of relationship works for you. Good luck! I can understand your concern, but perhaps both of you have already perceived that BDSM for most people is a journey. Few people I have encountered have the same kinks now as when they first entered the scene. Roles change. Perhaps it might help to see it that way?
Also, I agree with eyem (often!) that you could give some thought to exclusivity. If you wish to sub, it need not be sexual. The two of you can work out whatever flavour of relationship works for you. Good luck!
If there is no opportunity to play outside the relationship then you have to ask what is more important
- this relationship
- that you may wish to occasionally be sub to somebody Be truthful
If there is no opportunity to play outside the relationship then you have to ask what is more important
- this relationship
- that you may wish to occasionally be sub to somebody