AnnaA, a true sub would be focused on your pleasure, not his. Sex the way you want it would be very satisfying for him if he knew you were enjoying it. If he pleases you well, reward him with some bondage from time to time.
He will be even more receptive if you firmly express this. "No bondage Read more… this time. This one is for my pleasure. If you do a good job I might reward you soon."

I'm new to the game, being self-locked for three days, but this weekend I'm handing the keys over to my keyholder for a one-week trial. At the end of the trial it's entirely up to her if she extends my chastity. My keyholder is a platonic friend. I've known her for about 12 years.
For me, the Read more… appeal is complete submission. She decides how long it stays on. She decides if I get to masturbate and cum. Right now is still my choice. But as soon as I hand those keys over, I've lost ownership of my cock.