If you have body or confidence issues try youtube Luvbites by Dr Tara. Confidence issues is a recent short . I love doctor Tara because she's the kind of person you just KNOW would be the best sex of your life. Not because of this technique or that, but because she's so enthusiastic..She's not that Read more… classically attractive. But she's like a shot of sex tequila.
We can't all be extrovert . But we can commit to enjoyment off our partners, like she does , I think.

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That actually works for guys too ( excuse the slightly graphic description , this is all in the name of science)
I like it when a woman gets hot and heavy lying d***d on top me when if I'm lying face down. The mechanics don't work at all. But the audacity and cheekiness of her dominant position is Read more… really hot.
Also I can sense her ( usually) smaller body size , which adds something to the cheekiness of her dom vibe when she does that and is clearly in to it .

Cinema is great at using location to create atmosphere. So pretty much anything that happens in a spooky castle is going to have a heightened imaginative power. Then add ***, pursuit , peril and mystery. The whole thing is an erotic crucible. If that's a thing. Which it is now , in my imagination Read more… at least .

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I'm a man and I can stay that most ( but not ALL guys) do not need perfection. The sexiest lady I know isn't perfect -
AND SHE ACTS LIKE SHE IS LOVING IT.

I'm a man and I can stay that most ( but not as guys) do not need perfection. The sexiest lady I know isn't perfect -
AND SHE ACTS LIKE SHE IS LOVING IT.
I'm not saying a person can just decide to be liked that overnight. But anybody can decide that they will enjoy being themselves a bit Read more… more.
Don't copy other people -just roll with what works for your personality.
More than half of sexiness is attitude
I'm a big believer in listening to Darren Brown self hypnosis and guided positive affirmations. They are not a magic bullet but they make me more confident and positive.
Have some confidence in your own ability to change and relax slowly over time.
Remember - other people have problems too - insecurities after very common. It's not just you .
Not everybody is sympathetic. But most people will be sympathetic and rooting for you.
I know this sounds crazy - but develop a fun kink superhero name for yourself and maybe don't even don't tell anybody what it is. Like Baby gorgeous or Sub-alicuos, naughty kitty etc.
Use that name for yourself when you are enjoying your kink . When things go wrong say to yourself > INSERT REAL NAME< is having a bad day today, but really when she is getting herself , she is > insert your kink superheroine name <.
In reality you are a bit of both. So remembering that might be fun ⭐

I have found dating coaches like fir example, Kezia Noble help build confidence. Once you can get confident your sense of play emerges. Or your sense of spontaneity emerges.
I don't think this ever stops - there are moments in sex when we are acting a role trying to "act sexy" , and moments when Read more… it's completely natural . It just comes and goes.
That's ok it's part of the process. It doesn't have to be perfect all the time.
Life didn't have to be exactly like the movies to do be pretty amazing.
So i'd say don't worry if you are not completely spontaneous the whole time. Just let yourself gradually develop and appreciate the present , despite it's imperfections.

Everybody is different. But you may find that what works for you changes over time as you become more able to find ways to enjoy your sexuality in ways that work for you .
Sex is not about meeting any kind of other persons standard (except a partner) . It's for you and expression of you.

Possibly. Or maybe just a nerd twit.

You could set a Google calendar reminder. ;-)

You could set a Google calendar reminder. ;-)

We like to feel.
I often feel like I don't feel
Unless I'm watching Bambi
Or listening to a Korean lady play rock on a strange traditional string instrument
Asside from that
So there's something quite alive about
feeling, even annoyance.