Hi. I'm tall, broad shouldered, bearded and, underneath that hat, bald!
I lean towards being a dom, but a more gentle, sensual one. So I will spank you, * you and pleasure you relentlessly, but I'll kiss it better afterwards. And aftercare will involve snuggling.
I have found that I enjoy spanking. I've used a couple of floggers; a short crop; a leather strop I cut from a large, and very thick, piece of leather I have (very slappy and stingy!); a hazel switch; and most recently a leather spanking paddle that I made myself. It's got a strip of springy steel inside it, so I can spank very quickly with it. Best of all though; a pair of wooden spoons from Morrisons! Spoon drumming is my new thing.
Leatherworking is a new hobby of mine too. So I'm exploring how I can combine the two interests (such as by making masks and harnesses, and the spanking paddle of course).
Desires and Fantasies**
People to click with. To chat to and explore BDSM with. And to spank, tie up, and tease for our mutual pleasure of course. But it is just as important to me to help you explore your interests, desires and kinks as well. Plus I will make you a cup of tea afterwards. I also do a nice line in whispering into your ear, especially if I've been shouting, as my voice gets quite deep and husky then. Love the idea of standing behind a lady, my arm around their neck, pulling them towards me and lifting their head up. And then whispering unspeakably naughty things into their ear as I nuzzle their hair and neck. Any volunteers?
Cannot say no to a lady in lingerie. And don't start me on ladies in hats! Your size, shape, looks and so on are less important than us finding we have a connection.
Farnborough is running, that'd prob nearest to Surrey.
Hampshire munches are all going again. Is your friend neat to any of them?
Try finding a friend/play mate and gradually exercise and exert control in your relationship. Always do it with communication and consent. Basically just try to explore what you like and, as importantly, what your friend might like. My advice would be not to set your sights on becoming a dom. Read more… Rather, try to find yourself and create your own kinks, desires, and see where that takes you. I consider myself a dom, or top, but a fairly soft, pleasure orientated one. I'll happily spank or flog someone, but would be mortified if I felt that I'd done something without their consent, or that they didn't like.
So explore your desires and see where it takes you. Don't let words or titles categorise you.
Don't worry about titles. You are who you are, and you are what you are. Your implication is that you are submissive, or a bottom, however you choose to describe it. What anyone else thinks is actually irrelevant. Be who you want to be, and find someone that appreciates you for who and what you Read more… are.
PS I would suggest that the person that told you that you weren't a sub probably felt threatened by you. They aren't worthy of you.
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Madhur Jaffrey's Indian Cookery. Or is that not what you meant..
If it is not working for you, then leave. There has to be negotiation, and consent. The way he is treating you might work for some people, which is fine, but it's not working for you.
Use a Pee Mate or similar, and pee like you had a penis!
Love to bury my face in someone's hair. Smell their scent, both natural and applied. So yes, perfectly normal!
My tip would be to find something with a longish handle. That way you can reach your ass, back, kegs, etc. without it feeling awkward. Examples might be a cane, a riding crop, a long handled wooden spoon, long floggers, etc. Then find a position that you are comfortable in.
It's because you don't fit their chosen profile for people that they want to interact with. You are basically asking why can't you interact with them against their consent!
I've recently started using a pair of long handled wooden spoons on a friend. I use them like drumsticks. Used hard, they can inflict quite a slappy little sting. Used more gently, my friend said was like being massaged by hedgehogs. Couple of pictures on my profile.
Never breach consent. Never ignore a safety word. Be safe, sane and consensual. And enjoy yourself and make friends.