Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 (edited) So I'm reading through the forum and see feet fetish, leather fetish, watersorts fetish ect... And I'm left wondering what is my own fetish I seem to like so much but don't think I'm into something so deeply that I'm able to say YES THAT'S MY FETISH and left wondering how does one find what their particular fetish may be? Edited January 11, 2020 by Deleted Member Spelling mistakes
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 Try everything. Give it a go and see what you like.
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 4 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said: you might not have a fetish and that's OK. This is true as I haven't fixated on one particular thing, I seem to like everything I have tried so far
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 6 minutes ago, BeachBlonde said: Try everything. Give it a go and see what you like. I have tried quite alot recently, but still haven't had that feeling of "yes I love that that's my fetish" feeling. I seem to just like it all, I know alot of people here like alot of things but they have one thing they are really fond of and I don't seem to have that (I don't think)
ey**** Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 yep, not everyone has a fetish - but, yeah, that doesn't matter as long as you enjoy what you're doing
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 I don't have any one thing that really gets me going. I like so many different things. Indeed, over time my tastes have changed and that's ok too. I am still growing and exploring even after all of these years (I am super old and Queen Victoria was on the throne when I started my kink journey hahahhaa).
Wo**** Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 Maybe you just like kink. I know what you mean, to an extent. I mean i love being whipped, but i love anal too, and orgasm control, discipline, denial, toys, mental dominance, being caged, restraints.... you get the idea. I love all of them. I love exploring. Maybe we could be explorists.
Deleted Member Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 I don't know about other people, all I know is mine started from a young age. It's an urge you have to deal with ,so you start searching for ways to take care of it...its almost a reaction ...for me anyway
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 I had quirks from a very young age, but found out it was a kink by going to local events. I took a leap of faith off an invite and just went for it. Found out I liked some things and not other things. If you dont try then you wont know
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 I don't have a fetish as such,there is not one thing I've found draws me more than another.You can be really into kink but not be defined by any one thing,If it's fun enjoy it,if however it's not then don't.Trial and error for me but so far have found nothing that turns me off.
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 7 hours ago, LazyPiratesBounty said: Maybe you just like kink. I know what you mean, to an extent. I mean i love being whipped, but i love anal too, and orgasm control, discipline, denial, toys, mental dominance, being caged, restraints.... you get the idea. I love all of them. I love exploring. Maybe we could be explorists. I love this.! What's your kink (something I get asked alot and can't answer) I'm an explorer, what's one of them I hear you ask well let me tell you it's like tomb raider.. You walk into a tomb full of deadly traps and prey you come out the other end alive 😂😂😂 if you do you always come out sweaty looking a mess and out of breath 😂 xx
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 Personally I believe its impossible to be tied down to one thing in a world of kinky desires. Sure something might catch your attention a bit more than something else. And that's ok, but I think it's a world more of likes and dislikes rather than choosing one thing and sticking with it. Or else things would be one and done, if nothing else can excite you quite like that one thing then nothing else would be left to compare. So as for finding that one fetish. In my own opinion, I find it impossible! And I wish you best of luck on your journey forward I'm search of it!!! 😊
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 5 minutes ago, MrTwig said: Personally I believe its impossible to be tied down to one thing in a world of kinky desires. Sure something might catch your attention a bit more than something else. And that's ok, but I think it's a world more of likes and dislikes rather than choosing one thing and sticking with it. Or else things would be one and done, if nothing else can excite you quite like that one thing then nothing else would be left to compare. So as for finding that one fetish. In my own opinion, I find it impossible! And I wish you best of luck on your journey forward I'm search of it!!! 😊 Yes I know many like alot of different kinks, but I do find some say they have one particular fetish they really enjoy so my question was more towards finding your fetish than aimed at the number of kinks out there.. I have plenty of kinks but don't seem to have a fetish (that one thing that stands out above the rest) , like some have already said its fine not to have a fetish at all maybe I don't have one but I will surly have fun trying to find one 😂😉 x
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 Some people's kink may be just being a kinky person if that makes sense. Exploring and finding your kink is always fun. When I found my kink I was excited. And enjoy it the most so far compared to other things I'm getting into.
Sp**** Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 Human sexuality is a very complex thing but I have been asked this question by several of my subs through the years and iv always found what I call the “*** shot technique” seems to work to find their fetish. So when you’re alone and masturbating usually there will be all manner of scenarios going on in your head. These will involve most of your kinks and turn ons. Masturbation is more about those things in your head than the actual act of pleasuring your body. The “*** shot” is the thing your mind goes to to push your body over the edge and into orgasm. Remember what that was after you have calmed down and if that recurs several times ( I have found that with most people they will keep using the same thing to push them to orgasm) then that is their fetish!! The mind wants what the mind wants and the body is just there for it to get it!!
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2020 Author Posted January 12, 2020 5 hours ago, Spanksy said: Human sexuality is a very complex thing but I have been asked this question by several of my subs through the years and iv always found what I call the “*** shot technique” seems to work to find their fetish. So when you’re alone and masturbating usually there will be all manner of scenarios going on in your head. These will involve most of your kinks and turn ons. Masturbation is more about those things in your head than the actual act of pleasuring your body. The “*** shot” is the thing your mind goes to to push your body over the edge and into orgasm. Remember what that was after you have calmed down and if that recurs several times ( I have found that with most people they will keep using the same thing to push them to orgasm) then that is their fetish!! The mind wants what the mind wants and the body is just there for it to get it!! Arrrrrr wise..! I see how this method would work.. I will definitely try this when I'm allowed to play that is 😂
DanielHoup Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 (edited) 19 hours ago, LazyPiratesBounty said: Maybe you just like kink. I know what you mean, to an extent. I mean i love being whipped, but i love anal too, and orgasm control, discipline, denial, toys, mental dominance, being caged, restraints.... you get the idea. I love all of them. I love exploring. Maybe we could be explorists. I agree we are all explorers in the first place. And there is always something mind-tickling for everyone out there. If you do not dare to explore - how do you know what can you like? 8 hours ago, Spanksy said: Human sexuality is a very complex thing but I have been asked this question by several of my subs through the years and iv always found what I call the “*** shot technique” seems to work to find their fetish. So when you’re alone and masturbating usually there will be all manner of scenarios going on in your head. These will involve most of your kinks and turn ons. Masturbation is more about those things in your head than the actual act of pleasuring your body. The “*** shot” is the thing your mind goes to to push your body over the edge and into orgasm. Remember what that was after you have calmed down and if that recurs several times ( I have found that with most people they will keep using the same thing to push them to orgasm) then that is their fetish!! The mind wants what the mind wants and the body is just there for it to get it!! So true. You can try to trick someone but you will really struggle to trick your mind. If you are prone to something making you good - your mind will starve for it making you become a master of desire. The body is just packaging - all magic happens in your mind. For me personally, I've noticed that there are things that put me in the "Ready to Go" mode. Is it a rainy day, a lot of stress, am I busy or having a bad mood soon as I catch my thought on it - everything else does not matter just "Let's do it and do it now". 19 hours ago, Forbiddenfruits said: So I'm reading through the forum and see feet fetish, leather fetish, watersorts fetish ect... And I'm left wondering what is my own fetish I seem to like so much but don't think I'm into something so deeply that I'm able to say YES THAT'S MY FETISH and left wondering how does one find what their particular fetish may be? Just let it loose and go full exploring mode. Focus on details and you will get carried away far enough to realize that you sailed in some sweet spot of your mind where your body is only a tool to move forward. Edited January 12, 2020 by DanielHoup My terrible grammar. ;)
Sp**** Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 ”Arrrrrr wise..! I see how this method would work.. I will definitely try this when I'm allowed to play that is 😂“ That’s a shame Forbidden I have always encouraged subs to play and then use that to learn. A Dom should always be learning what makes their sub tick and that way you grow as a Dom and find better ways in which to control them and increase the pleasure that they crave in your hands!! 😜
Deleted Member Posted January 13, 2020 Author Posted January 13, 2020 On 1/12/2020 at 7:48 PM, Spanksy said: ”Arrrrrr wise..! I see how this method would work.. I will definitely try this when I'm allowed to play that is 😂“ That’s a shame Forbidden I have always encouraged subs to play and then use that to learn. A Dom should always be learning what makes their sub tick and that way you grow as a Dom and find better ways in which to control them and increase the pleasure that they crave in your hands!! 😜 I am allowed to play it's not a complete ban but I do have to ask permission of course sometimes my request is denied 😂, he knows me very well already in such a short period of time probably better than I know myself but we are both still learning and I don't think in this world you ever really stop learning. I'm still trying to figure some things out, I didn't know how to go about finding the answer but this *** SHOT method I think will really help me find if I have a fetish or not 😊 if I don't I still have plenty of kinks to work with 😂😜
Sp**** Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 Well be sure to let me know if it works for you Miss Fruits I’m very curious to know!!
Deleted Member Posted January 14, 2020 Author Posted January 14, 2020 Some here mixed up kink and fetish. there are some women who don’t have any fetish but are kinky end of, it’s not an issue or some sort of good point card to be accepted in bdsm world. in my opinion I can’t see how you can created fetishism rightly through masturbation and what’s the point? There are more than 600 fetishes so even if you condition someone with them it will take you a long shot to find their right fetish. And that’s masturbate daily... I have better things to do than make my sub masturbate ??
KellyAss Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 I crave ***ful pleasure.. Simple as a spanking..belt..whip... would like to explore more be pushed out of the box... so hard to find
KellyAss Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 I crave ***ful pleasure.. spanking...belt... curious for whip, paddle, cord... being pushed to try new things...
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