Deleted Member Posted January 15, 2020 Author Posted January 15, 2020 Yes, all the time! That is so typical. But it is probably a feature of internet search, where there is too much choice and always the feeling that there is the perfect one just waiting to be found.
Deleted Member Posted January 15, 2020 Posted January 15, 2020 I can't for the life of me figure out how to tag or quote anyone in my reply, so I hope that @DanteReign sees this. Don't take it too personally that she blocked you. I have to admit that depending upon the circumstances and my mood at the time, I don't always explain why I'm blocking someone. I make a point of putting a lot of information in my online profiles so that folks can get a sense of who I am before electing to comment. So if someone has taken the time to read my profile, I would hope that they have more to say to me than to just start by telling me how sexy or beautiful I am. Don't get me wrong, I love to hear it... but believe that true sex appeal comes from personality rather than looks. I've had to become brutal on a vanilla site I'm on because I was getting bombarded with messages, most not even bothering to say hello. Just, "Kik?". So I've actually said in my profile that if they are on another continent or can't hold a conversation then they will automatically be blocked. But then, it's a toss of the dice. You catch me on a confident day and open with telling me how beautiful I am, you're likely to get a, "You bet your sweet ass, I am!" Because I have that cocky kind of humour. But if you catch me on a low day, rather than saying something unkind I'll just block you to prevent unnecessary drama.
Akume Posted January 15, 2020 Posted January 15, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, DanteReign said: Carnelian and @Akume I am sorry you both feel that way, but I personally do not look at it with such complexity. I have met many women with terrible perceptions of their own body, so I try to bring a smile to their faces. It was a simple compliment, with only kind intention behind it. I do not think it can be considered shallow if I had no intention of seducing her, let alone by only mentioning her appearance. Had I wanted to engage with her in conversation, I would likely have still mentioned that she looks attractive, but I would never make that the topic. Sometimes people just like to hear compliments. I'm happy to hear your compliments are genuine! Unfortunately, they sit beside some thousand or so other "compliments" from dudes trying to just get their dick touched or fetish stroked. Most women on kink sites get jaded and burned out very quickly from those kind of self-serving messages. While you are sincere, and only commenting to brighten the person's day, you're fighting the waves of other guys who burned the bridge before you got there. Now, if a person puts up a writing or post about how they're feeling down about themselves, commenting on that is a totally different story. Edited January 15, 2020 by Akume
Wo**** Posted January 15, 2020 Posted January 15, 2020 6 hours ago, J_Darkmoon said: I can't for the life of me figure out how to tag or quote anyone in my reply, so I hope that @DanteReign sees this. Don't take it too personally that she blocked you. I have to admit that depending upon the circumstances and my mood at the time, I don't always explain why I'm blocking someone. I make a point of putting a lot of information in my online profiles so that folks can get a sense of who I am before electing to comment. So if someone has taken the time to read my profile, I would hope that they have more to say to me than to just start by telling me how sexy or beautiful I am. Don't get me wrong, I love to hear it... but believe that true sex appeal comes from personality rather than looks. I've had to become brutal on a vanilla site I'm on because I was getting bombarded with messages, most not even bothering to say hello. Just, "Kik?". So I've actually said in my profile that if they are on another continent or can't hold a conversation then they will automatically be blocked. But then, it's a toss of the dice. You catch me on a confident day and open with telling me how beautiful I am, you're likely to get a, "You bet your sweet ass, I am!" Because I have that cocky kind of humour. But if you catch me on a low day, rather than saying something unkind I'll just block you to prevent unnecessary drama. Under the post there's a quote button x
Deleted Member Posted January 15, 2020 Author Posted January 15, 2020 8 minutes ago, LazyPiratesBounty said: Under the post there's a quote button x @J_Darkmoon, if you want to tag someone, you type the @ sign + type the letters of a person's username until they show up in the drop menu. Click on their name, viola. Press the space bar and continue your message. It does glitch sometimes, but the whole website does.
Deleted Member Posted January 15, 2020 Author Posted January 15, 2020 48 minutes ago, Akume said: you're fighting the waves of other guys Since I can do nothing about this, I I will continue to compliment women and hope that my kindness is not perceived as offensive. I appreciate that gentlemen are a dying breed, but nonetheless I continue my efforts to prove that some men are still well-mannered.
Tig82 Posted January 15, 2020 Posted January 15, 2020 Well said DanteReign, a good dom/me still has manners. Very true that gentlemen are a dying breed, like ladies. But there's a few of us left. LazyPiratesBounty, I get you on the conversation bit, it's a dying skill and I always thought in this lifestyle communication was vital or at least getting to know what makes them tick, but I suppose its just some are more focused on the visual (tried to put that politely, I usually call it many other things hahaha). With me being mainly sub guy I've got differect issues on here, mainly fake dommes messaging me then tell me to go on hang out app, straight away ask for a £200 tribute(con alert), it's like hold up a min atleast ask my name and get to know me, you could be the latex queen and I might have allergies, I don't want to explain to the A&E nurse why I've blown up like a puffer fish (then be £200 down and no *** for a taxi home hahaha) joking aside the ones with no genuine interest in the lifestyle past getting a quick thrill as well as fakes and con artists are easy to spot. I think those who want a dial a dom should stick to paid pro doms and get what they order
Deleted Member Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 I think it's because I'm using the app instead of a website. Doesn't have all the same features.
Wo**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 17 hours ago, DanteReign said: Since I can do nothing about this, I I will continue to compliment women and hope that my kindness is not perceived as offensive. I appreciate that gentlemen are a dying breed, but nonetheless I continue my efforts to prove that some men are still well-mannered. I can vouch that if you receive a compliment from this gentleman (And I use that word specifically) it's absolute genuine. Mr Reign doesn't do false flattery. Trust me, I know.
qu**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 Off topic I know but I still hold a door open for women, even if they're not at the door as such, even though I did once get an arsey response from a woman for doing so, though a little old lady had a go at her for it 😁😆
Deleted Member Posted January 16, 2020 Author Posted January 16, 2020 Probably to be expected post 50 shades and even the Story of O hailed as a "BDSM Classic" portrays the Dominants as wealthy, fit and successful types who are assertive and bordering on arrogant. You even see on Dating sites "miss (deluded fantasist) seeks her Mr Grey" 🤷♂️
qu**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 Yes, and most seem shocked to learn what it actually means
qu**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 Then there's those men who think being a chauvinistic bully means they are a Dom
Wo**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 1 hour ago, Method said: Probably to be expected post 50 shades and even the Story of O hailed as a "BDSM Classic" portrays the Dominants as wealthy, fit and successful types who are assertive and bordering on arrogant. You even see on Dating sites "miss (deluded fantasist) seeks her Mr Grey" 🤷♂️ I liked The Story of O. N fact, I have it on my bookshelf. 😊
Deleted Member Posted January 16, 2020 Author Posted January 16, 2020 1 hour ago, LazyPiratesBounty said: I liked The Story of O. N fact, I have it on my bookshelf. 😊 I liked it and also have a copy, but do have some criticisms on it if I'm honest, consent was hardly explicit at times which surprised me given its status in the community.
ey**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 6 hours ago, quietlysure said: Off topic I know but I still hold a door open for women, even if they're not at the door as such, even though I did once get an arsey response from a woman for doing so, though a little old lady had a go at her for it 😁😆 it's manners to hold a door open for whoever needs it
Wo**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 37 minutes ago, Method said: I liked it and also have a copy, but do have some criticisms on it if I'm honest, consent was hardly explicit at times which surprised me given its status in the community. Maybe it was different in the 50s, I don't know. I know what you mean though. That said, it was one of the first pieces of erotica I read that actually turned me on.
qu**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 BDSM as we currently know it came in in the early nineties, at least that's when BDSM was combined, well if Google was right 🤪
BigPolly Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 9 minutes ago, quietlysure said: BDSM as we currently know it came in in the early nineties, at least that's when BDSM was combined, well if Google was right 🤪 BDSM has been happening forever. I can remember Cynthia Payne giving bondage a run for its *** in the 80s as she was part of the reason I wanted to become a Domme
qu**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 I think it meant that's when it stopped being an underground culture
Deleted Member Posted January 16, 2020 Author Posted January 16, 2020 I think yes sub expect some criterias from a Dom. All my subs didn’t ask straight away from a list, it was more some long messages, small talks and laughs really. Then when it was time to meet up I suggest questions, feed her what she should asked to me. somehow it’s good that a sub know how to distinguish between a real Dom to an ***r or a sex pest. no sure about Donnykinkster case but usually I chose the venue and the time. I know most subs don’t like to take decision, even if you are polite it’s best to show some initiative.
qu**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 Oh good back on topic 😁 , I won't have to mention they used vinegar soaked whips for pleasure in the 15th century then, 😋
ey**** Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 57 minutes ago, quietlysure said: I think it meant that's when it stopped being an underground culture it depends on what you mean by 'as we know it' Certainly I guess there was more of a commercial aspect from the 90s (*** Garden launched in 1990) but there were fetish magazines in the 1940s. in some ways it's not exactly fully mainstream now. But depends which lines you draw.
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