To have a Dom

[ly****]

Is it normal to pay a fee to a Mistress to have ownage on a Dom??

[Deleted Member]

Anything to do with *** and the lifestyle is a no

[ey****]

context is everyone

- if you're talking to someone new and they're like "hey, I'll own you for a small monthly fee" - then, to me this is not what I'd want but for some people this can fuel a fantasy.  

- if you're talking to a Pro, then you do pay for sessions and many do ask a monthly tribute on top of that if you want to go through ownership - but then that's also because you are taking more of their time

- if you're talking to a nice person in your local community - then, less so.

[Deleted Member]

Never give *** to someone u never meet. It's a scam. I know I almost died cause of it

[wa****]

I paid my mistress a total of £6000 last year. Very high class but gifted with knowing exactly how my mind and body work. As long as you can afford it... go for it. there are mistresses out there who will not ask for *** but probably 2 out of every 5 will. It will be called a demand lol

[ch****]

Absolutely not odd. It's all a part of my twisted fantasy also.

[De****]

Not too sure, if you're not too careful about it smd who you're with, it might as well be reverse prostitution and open to exploitation.

[cr****]

If you arent in a relationship it's common. Dommes are sex workers too.

[Do****]

Yes very common and much appreciated. Just be sure they are honest and real first, being burned by scammers makes it hard for true Dommes such as myself.

[ni****]

Completely normal. Your fetish doesn't need normalising because it's totally valid

[ni****]

I'm also a dom and a sex worker 🥰

[SB****]

Yes

[Ze****]

It's only normal if you consent to it. If you aren't actually wanting to pay the mistress but feel ***d to then that isn't normal. But if it gets you hot to pay that's amazing!

[Da****]

No. If they ask for *** they are fake and a scam

[fa****]

I don't know.

[ki****]

It depends if dimming professionally id their job or not. Also whether or not they are a findom. Hard to answer with just that info.

[mo****]

Wait, so paying to be dom or domed? Cause both are just forms of prostitution

[Sw****]

Yes of course but it shouldn’t be more than once

[ca****]

Yes it will be pay to your mistress before you start the training session

[ch****]

No paying is not ok

[sl****]

Dont pay

[ke****]

Depends on if you like it or not. Some me want to be humilated that way. But my personal feelings would be no, that makes it prostitution...

[Deleted Member]

Theres not a single "Mistress" on this app who's interested in anything other than your ***. Don't be an idiot.

[ey****]

My experience is different.  I've been privileged to have met and spoke with people on this website and elsewhere - some with a financial boundary and many without.  

Going the other way - there are too many men who are happy to moan; but only seem interested in their fetishes or kinks - and this is certainly an attitude to reconsider.

I think if nothing else; even if you do not wish to pay in certain scenarios, you'll at least learn to respect boundaries.  Because a sub who cannot respect boundaries is a pretty shit sub anyway.

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I'm not saying you have to pay someone - but if you can take time to empathise and learn why people set these boundaries then it helps you anyway.

 

[Wo****]

I'm not a Domme but I've been thinking about this topic. 

For some, the very act of being paid is a kink and a turn on.

Maybe it's partly to weed out those who just like the idea? Or just a quick session with someone, anyone? If you commit to payment, tributes, maybe it's a token of how serious you are?

 

Like anywhere, there are people who are serious and people that just wanna try their luck.