What to do?

[Briansgirl]

I need a Dominant everyday but especially in the bedroom. I love dirty talk and being restrained, gagged and pushed past the point of ecstasy. Problem: my boyfriend of 14 years has never been that way. I don't think he understands my true need. I've tried telling him and he might actually try. After a week, it's back to vanilla. What do I do?

[ey****]

You need to communicate this that you would like this as a regular, ongoing, thing not just a little bit as/when you ask

But also, what are his needs, wants, interests? If this isn't something he enjoys it's unfair to him and draining for him to have to do this over a regular time frame.  I think you both need to talk on how to make this work. 

[BigBill8675309]

well, you need to have a dom on the side