Submissive Journal

[De****]

The idea of a submissive journal was recently brought to me. I couldn’t find a lot of information online about it. What is a submissive journal, what kind of things do you put in it, do you share it with your Dom? Any information is much appreciated. ❤️

[ju****]

My understanding of the journal is to write down things you’ve liked or disliked through the subs day to help you understand your wants needs likes dislikes and limits so you can go over later things you would or wouldn’t like to continue to do or not do. also could help you remember stuff for instance

My dom chose this ——— for me to eat at a restaurant at home ext I’ve noticed a reaction after eating it or drinking it It is allergic reaction or upset stomach ext…. Or my dom used this lube today it hurt or burned ext plz don’t use this brand again

again examples

and some subs share there journals some don’t that’s my opinion / understanding I’m sure there is more that can be added or taken away others have there different views hope that helps

[Dy****]

When it comes to Journaling, it depends on what you agree to in your dynamic, if it's in conjunction with your Dominant.

If you just want to journal around the desire to be submissive, you can write what you like.

In a dynamic, it could be shared, or not be shared. Again, this is all about the negotation and what you want, and they want, involved.

[TheBookCollector]

Its a way of you keeping track of your journey and also a way of experssing yourself if you find it hard to communicate.

The secondary point is that it allows your partner to see how you where when hes not around, especially if you dont live together.

[Ew****]

Personally, I haven’t had a sub journal yet- I really really want to though!

I would write down the rules my dom gives me. What earns me punishments and rewards.

I would write down my limits, my doms limits and a little fantasy bucket list.

I would write about notable experiences that happen in my journey as a sub.

I would write down any vetted standards by my dom and I. What I expect of him, what he expects of me.

What I feel is lacking, what I think I need to be receiving and giving more. How I feel about the current level of communication- any concerns I have. Little reminders.

But for a day to day journal I would write about my day, what went well, what didn’t. What made me feel like a good sub, what didn’t. Just every day things :)

Also- if you and your dom have a scoring system for how well behaved vs not, it’s a good way to keep track of your reward/punishment progress

[Deleted Member]

Essentially, while the individuals who have said it’s simply for journaling are correct, it is predominantly a way for a submissive within the training stage of a high protocol dynamic (M/s, or Gorean subculture as two examples) so that the submissive may reflect on their training, and has a set of notes to refer back to.

[ey****]

Different people do this different ways.   it's not really mandatory but some subs (and Dominants) can find it helpful.

So yep, if you're doing high protocol you may find it like a school book of writing notes to remind you of rules, punishments and training - but also possible in parallel, documenting your journey

but even outside of high protocol, there's people who journal ongoing as they try new things, or have different experiences, *some* can use it as a way of communicating to their Dominant via their journal how they felt about different things.   

There isn't really a wrong way to do it. Just whatever works best for you.

[Cu****]

As others have said it can be your personal diary of your journey. Sometimes you might write “thought bubbles” as ideas or feelings come into your head and body, which might be new feelings or reactions to external influences from others with whom you communicate or read. One sub I had kept her journal in a “Word” file and liked to send it, so that I could read and respond to her words. On one occasion she brought the file with her and read it out loud to me. She liked that way, because she enjoyed the immediacy of feedback. But you can do whatever you and your dom have negotiated between you, so that you can both appreciate the value of something very important and personal to both of you, and use it in whatever way is acceptable to you both.

[Ba****]

There’s an acct on another site with a similar name called the submissive guide. They post prompts for sub journalling. Things like “what is your favourite memory of your dynamic” “write about a time you faced a personal challenge and how you overcame it” “what struggles do you have maintaining focus in your submission”

I think the point is to be reflective and honest. You can write about favourite scenes, analysing why you enjoyed them. You can write about whatever you want. It’s intended to help you grow and be your best self.

[ga****]

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