Vanilla sex

[tw****]

I think there is likely some level of kink involved anytime you have a partner that has some aligning interest. So it won’t be full on scene stuff, but the subtleties of the dynamic will likely always poke through.

[mi****]

Welsh, just wanted to add. Thank you, sincerely, for the friend add. And as a side note, if you ever present those feet to me in the pictured condition, you best have a fuckin hunger on, because once you finish cleaning your feet with your tongue, (here is where I need caution the other members of the room, close your eyes, ladies) your gonna have to clean mine after you pull them from deep in that slut ass of yours. Good night all. Be kind to each other. Ta

[scorpiomaster]

I have not had vanilla sex in over 30 years. I leave it to the vanilla. Besides, my submissives have never complained that 20 or more orgasms was not satisfying enough

[mi****]

Scorpio. I do not challenge anything you have stated. But I also wonder, is that only because you won't let them complain. It is my personal experience that 20 or more in a single session leaves them too weak, literally and figuratively, to complain about much. They will beg to stop but until I hear the safe word, their oyster is my world, not theirs. But the can and do often say I was too light in their *** etc. it is a relationship balance. What is vanilla to me is very very different from vanilla for example a Brander, it a Brandee, an electrician or plug, etc etc

[welshslaveboy]

On 11/2/2024 at 5:43 PM, Kaserai said:

I think its important to recognise vanilla is different for everyone, as is kink. What is level 10 for you might be someone else's 4. What is vanilla for you might not be for someone else.

In my journey to kink I've actually realised I haven't had much vanilla experience which was interesting. When it comes to kink I think laying the foundations is important unless in very specific circumstances because going all in on a first time could very frightening, confusing, overwhelming.

In fact it turns me off when I get messages here going right into tie ups, roughness, impact play etc all of which I'm actually okay with but it just screams 'I don't care what you want because I'm a Dom'. It basically sets the scene for me that the so-called dom doesn't care about my comfortableness or even is concerned with discussing my boundaries, nevermind adhering to them.

I like the coffee metaphor - you can always add more sugar, but you can't take it out. So if you overdo kink before your partner is ready you could seriously traumatise them, make them *** you and all sorts of negativity. Your partner (or you) can always ask for more but it's much harder mentally to ask for less, especially in the beginning phases.

That is a great analogy! Never thought of it like that 👍👍