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Atreides12
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Communication. Asking questions. Trusting your instinct.
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Certainly knowing someone well enough to trust. Trust needs to build . It's not an immediate occurrence.
DeviantInside
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Ok so what makes sense to me is finding someone potentially interested. Then seeing if you have connection on more than that level. Seeing if there is trust. Now those might not be the steps that work for you but building things up one step at a time… and it might take time. The first step might be just finding acceptance in a community of like minded people. Or whatever makes sense for you.
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Vetting is a fluid process that’s kind of hard to guide, but make sure the person is who you think they are.
Same as in a vanilla relationship, a dynamic shouldn’t be rushed.
See them angry, happy, sad, and how they vibe with you overall in life. The more you know someone the easier you can tell whether they’re someone to let your guard down around.
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Trust of that nature takes time. And a Big that is worth their salt will take that time and patience to prove they are worth that trust
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As a top I can only tell you what my experience has been like from my perspective. I've always tried to be as gentle as possible with a lot of talk and check ins on how things make you feel. Find someone like that and work together to find a space that makes you feel comfortable and yet fulfilled in your role as a little.
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Let them earn it. Only given, Never demanded.
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Easy advise , but hard to make reality … find someone who relaxes you . Who you have trust in . Who inspires you to go further . It’s not so much about the kink as your partner as an individual
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start by replying to messages for fun, just to see where it goes... regular conversations with the right dom will help as long as you speak from your little side. Regardless of what's said or who you decide to meet, you won't know what's real or trustworthy until you give them the chance to show and prove.
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As someone who has also somewhat recently realized their little side, it's been a process trying to be comfy with myself before I share with others. But being honest and getting ghosted is better then really finding and liking someone just to later find out they aren't into what your into.
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As a little myself, it’s super hard to be *** sharing that part of you with anyone tbh, especially online. I’ve noticed a lot of ppl interpret it differently as well. Maybe asking someone you intend to share yourself with what they think about littles and first see if it aligns with what you’re looking for. After that it’s all about building trust. I tend to give away trust to ppl who I know don’t have my best interest because the little in me wants to be taken care of so badly. Do not do that! Take your time and if you’re being rushed then let them go. Being someone’s big is a huge responsibility and it should be taken seriously.
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Littles need daddy's...... daddy's need littles....and littles need candy
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My best advice is to do some introspection, if you haven’t already, considering your needs, wants, hard/soft boundaries. Be upfront with someone who potentially compliments that dynamic about all those. And then, build the connection part first with less a focus on the kink/sexual aspect. It’s a scary prospect to be *** like that, but when you feel that safety and trust, it’ll be easier to do. And if someone is rushing that or impatient, don’t *** it and know your worth! Hope some part of that was helpful.
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Hey I had the same denial and struggle as u when first discovering I had a little side and honestly I still find it incredibly scary on the trust element and on the letting go but with time I realised it helps and relaxes me and I found a very trust worthy person to explore this with which helped me so much in being more confident. One thing I would say is stay safe and be cautious with ur little side but take a scary leap once in a while and I’m sure u will soon realise the wonders of having a little side.
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