Needs advice

[si****]

It will get better, but the best thing you could do for now is surround yourself with friends and family. People who love you and would support you no matter what

[Th****]

Give yourself time to mourn your loss. People come into your life to a sentence, a page or a chapter. Learn from it. With each passing day it will get easier. You will get through the haze. You cannot continue to hurt yourself by not eating and such. You need to tell yourself you are strong. I do not know why you broke up but it is better it happened now then when you proposed or even married. Do not focus on what she is doing. Focus on yourself.

[Stephanie1126]

I’m praying for you honey my DD and I broke up 6 months ago and it was so hard so I understand still hard sometimes but it definitely gets easier. I just want a daddy now so bad but I just know my times is coming

[Sp****]

Most of girls are selfish they don't give a shit coz they always have a options in pocket so move on and show her middle finger with new girl tell her U worth ❤️

[Be****]

Life is hard, bro. Perhaps technology will solve that problem too in future.

[A4****]

When life gives you shit u make a lemonade out of it , anyway break ups can be devastating especially when u think she's the one but trust the right one would leave for any reason they she'll try to work through any obstacles u face in the relationship so try to keep yourself busy with a physical activity like some kind of sport or hitting the gym anything u like and keeps u away from bed , it gets easier by time and you'll get through it king u got this

[Bi****]

Break ups are terrible but essential in relationships it's a good way to do some self-reflection there's always something to improve and who knows maybe in your personal journey you will find a better person

[ca****]

I wanna thank every single one of you for commenting on this. Everything that y’all have said has genuinely helped me. I know it will take time, I feel isolated and everyone’s words are truly helping me. This is the only place I genuinely feel safe with asking questions without being judged. And this has genuinely helped me a lot

[Bi****]

1 hour ago, calgary176193 said:

I wanna thank every single one of you for commenting on this. Everything that y’all have said has genuinely helped me. I know it will take time, I feel isolated and everyone’s words are truly helping me. This is the only place I genuinely feel safe with asking questions without being judged. And this has genuinely helped me a lot

No problem boyo the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter when you make the first step

[Lo****]

I was absolutely devastated by a breakup a few months ago too. Just take it minute by minute, day by day. Loving that deep is a gift and a burden.

[Da****]

Right there with you man, hopefully time heals all.

[mi****]

You can only hurt as deeply as you love. I had heard that cliche a few times. Never truly understood it until I had my soul torn out n shredded. Know, that this *** you feel, it does lighten. Not much and not ever quick enough. But it will diminish. There are certainly though. These you must absolutely do. Or you will suffer longer. *Forgive you.
*Do not wonder about the, could have, would have, should have. *You will come across about a million things to remind you of everything you had, grieve your loss. But don't swim in it.
*Try, and this is serious, try not to imagine her, ever, doing anything.
I do not envy you your path, but I do know it. Do not, DO NOT, destroy your being, for someone who does not give a flying fuck about your tears.

[mi****]

Contact Alberta mental health. Enormous help

[Ki****]

Going to sound like an ass, but I've been exactly where you're now many moons ago.
My advice is go to the gym, or start hiking or anything that gets the body occupied and the mind focused and eventually you'll find new purpose.

[sw****]

If things were meant to be, they would’ve been God has a different direction for your life. That woman was not the direction that you were aiming God prevents you from being hurt and he saw in the near future, you were gonna get hurt more bad than you are right now I take this moment to heal because you wouldn’t have been able to heal from what would’ve happened in the future things I always question God about is why does everything happen like the way they do but you just gotta let things happen. He’ll come back to God if you are pulling away and he will steer you into the right path and give you the right woman that you are searching for to marry God already has your life planned out. You just have to trust him to give it all to you. You don’t get your haircut without going to the barber you don’t get fed unless you go to a restaurant you don’t get healed. If you don’t go to a doctor so what are you expecting? If you don’t go to God is the answer to all of our problems I don’t know how religious you are. You could take this information in however, way you want it. I’m just trying to help you the way I’ve been helped. My last break up was October 20, 2024. I’ve kept my head held high and I’ve done things that I like I started a new job. I’m making three times more than what I was making before and I’m taking this time to bank up *** for my own good try to save up some *** man better your life. I don’t really know you, but I love you bro and I hope you get through this you got this.

[yo****]

Stop being a bitch. Grow some fucking balls move on.
You do not wanna be with the woman that does not want to be with you. Simple as that you fell off the horse get back on. Sorry to be so blunt, but be a real man already

[ta****]

Young has no idea what a real man is. Time will ease that ***. It’s okay to be in ***. Do grateful lists put down even the small stuff like having food to eat. Also psychotherapist to be able to talk to someone about your feelings. Good luck out there man.

[yo****]

The fact that the woman does not want him and he cannot do nothing about that. Nothing that means he is off the horse. He needs to get back on and start riding slow and then right fast. Don’t look fucking back and I’m telling the truth. That’s why I said sorry for being blunt Real man. Shit!

[Bi****]

Your to infatuated with her. Which is probably why she left. Don’t make it worse by letting yourself slip even further under from her leaving. Rejection is just the universe’s way of keeping you from being on the wrong path. I lived with my girlfriend for 6 years on and off. she kept wanting to get married and one day I finally gave in. 3 months later she was sleeping with another man behind my back. You can fall in love but don’t fall too hard bc it’s hard to get back up.

[Ou****]

Sounds like the universe wanted to teach you a lesson about letting go, and is telling you to focus on yourself before you waste your potential … but if you don’t wanna listen message her and ask to talk things out… realistically she broke up with you and she’s outside with her friends… do you really want her back after that? If she does come back she’ll understand you want her more than she wants you so she’ll probably try to take control of you in the relationship until she doesn’t want to date you anymore… so work on yourself till you fall in love with yourself again and let the rest fall in place. Someone will love you for you but you gotta love yourself first. Best of luck 💯 ✌🏾

[ma****]

If you need a friend I'm here, I went through a nasty break up a year ago so I can relate! All you can do is be strong and focus on yourself

[Lu****]

Bro fuck the girls... Hit the gym and work on yourself. Don't get distracted with outer shit like bars, women and all that stuff. The worst thing you can do right now is simp and try to find love and attention in all the wrong places.

Focus on you and how you will heal. She will come running back to you man and let me tell you that by then you will have become a new man. Just stay focused on the "Outcome" and who you wanna be for the next Girlfriend.

Like the saying says "She ain't yours, it's just your turn"

It's a messed up world out there and sorry to hear you are going through this. But stick to your plan and make the best of it. Now is not the time to be emotionally drained and think of her or women. Seek help from those who truly care about your well-being.

Refrain from bars, clubs and all that can lead you to the wrong path on your journey.

Go and read good books on personal development and learn about who you are.

Best advice I can give you man and best of luck.

[Ru****]

Best advice i can give you, and this is coming from someone who experienced severe betrayal in 2018, is don't sit and dwell on it. Go do something you like or something to improve yourself. It does get easier. I felt the same way you described when it went down, and I knew it wasn't going to get better unless I actively tried to make myself feel better. Don't ever let someone else have control over how you view yourself. Focus on you, not a lost cause.

[Be****]

11 minutes ago, Rugged72 said:

Best advice i can give you, and this is coming from someone who experienced severe betrayal in 2018, is don't sit and dwell on it. Go do something you like or something to improve yourself. It does get easier. I felt the same way you described when it went down, and I knew it wasn't going to get better unless I actively tried to make myself feel better. Don't ever let someone else have control over how you view yourself. Focus on you, not a lost cause.

I agree that work and improvement always pay back while relationships do not always. 👍

[Ma****]

I don't have anything to add that hasn't been said, I just hope you get through it and don't end up too messed up, good luck in life 😎👉👉