How long is to long

[An****]

How long is to long to figure out if someone is worth dating or not ?

[0m****]

If you have to ask the question, it implies doubt. Trust your gut. You know the answer.

[Fi****]

If you know, you know. It’s no matter of time.

[ey****]

there's no real metrics

like, if you meet someone for a coffee/date/whatever then at the end of the meet you probably have an idea whether you'd particularly like to see them again, whether you'd be open to it but indifferent, or whether you'd rather not

And if it does result in repeat meetings then again, then again as long as you're not feeling consistently indifferent then it's worth it.  (and even by 'consistently indifferent' there'll be a point where you're like "OK, I'm not feeling this" or "I'm only meeting cos I feel I have to")

But if we're not at the meeting stage and just talking with a view to date, then - actually, same applies.  Are you enjoying the conversation, or feel it's exhausting and going nowhere? Is there anything you can do to inject life into it - or - are you not all that bothered? Cos again there's just a point where it is... "I'm not feeling this" and yep, quits.  

(mind, esp online it might not be that they're not someone potentially right for you, but they probably also don't want to feel like their carrying the convo either) 

[Ro****]

If you need to think about it, it's not worth it

[Pe****]

The appropriate answer, there is no formula to calculate this, it is not an exact science.

[my****]

In the beginning if you’re making up excuses not to see them, that’s too long. In the beginning you should be ditching your responsibilities to see the person again because it’s new and exciting. If that’s not how you feel it’s time to move on.

[DeviantInside]

Marriage or first child.

But seriously it very much depends on those involved, the circumstances, how much time you have spent together and a whole lot of other things.

[Al****]

I received this advice, "if you have to think about something that long, you ou probably don't want it."

[Jo****]

Generally by the 3rd date (assuming it gets that far) but if you haven’t even met them, I once held out hope for 7 years, so there’s that, don’t kid yourself, use your heads and figure out what is in your best interest so you are not wallowing in your own pity. If you can’t put things together at least virtually after a couple of weeks then it is time to move on.

[Sc****]

I prefer to chat personally a couple times before setting up a public meet and greet 1st date . It's too hard to feel emotions without eye contact and body language . If that is positive and the 2 and date is encouraging learning personalites of both parties then an offer to hang out and see where that leads . I think that if you have not found mutual interest by then it's not there . Politely exit , don't waste anyone's time

[Da****]

No right answer exist, the answers is does the person give you want you need now? Or does the person give you want you need long term?

[Pe****]

If someone isn’t putting in any effort, or it’s clear that they are messing you around (going missing for months and then just showing up again) then, you’ll know it’s not worth it.

[wo****]

4 years

[Ma****]

If you're having to ask, then not worth it.

[Tickler101]

For as long as you think they are worth your time. There is no answer to this one. Only you can decide that.

[Da****]

Straight up Kitty, cutie! 🌹