Abandoned by My "Dom"

[ft****]

Hey message me if you'd like

[Cu****]

2 hours ago, sardonicus87 said:

It's not even like he made you give up your life and move to the city for him then said "eh, no", or anything even remotely like that from what I am reading... so where exactly is the betrayal and what exactly did he do wrong other than deciding that it wasn't working out, and TELLING YOU that it wasn't and ending it (again, without ghosting or anything)?
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Also, why would you brat at him if he doesn't like that? That's also not fn cool.
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Sounds like you both should have communicated more up-front and what you do and don't like/want and if you want to brat and he doesn't want a brat, then that should have been communicated and you split ways then.

I agree that better communication would have been better. Again there was not a problem until that moment. The betrayal was not allowing a conversation to happen. He was allowed to tell me what he thought and disappear and I wasn't allowed to respond. I deserved better.

[Cu****]

2 hours ago, sardonicus87 said:

I mean, the man said sorry it wasn't working out, then you kept pestering him.
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No means no, period. He apparently told you no more than once and you badgered him.
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It's not like he just ghosted you, he said no, then you kept trying to pressure him, even after, according to your own words, he said he couldn't deal with it several times.
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Jfc, I can't believe this whole thread is trying to call this guy basically a pos. Sometimes stuff doesn't work out, he told you it wasn't. He doesn't owe you anything, nobody owes anyone anything.
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Just because someone ends up feeling like it's not working out, that doesn't mean you were betrayed. It's not like he cheated on you (if you discussed exclusivity) or something.

I disagree that no one owes anyone anything. If I'm in a relationship with someone we owe each other respect. Period. Again respect would have been allowing a conversation.

[Pe****]

This is why it’s so important to get to know someone really well before you agree to enter a dynamic.
I know how you feel though. Big hugs to you

[Cu****]

2 minutes ago, PervyPenelope said:

This is why it’s so important to get to know someone really well before you agree to enter a dynamic.
I know how you feel though. Big hugs to you

Thanks for that advice 

[MasterKama23]

Unfortunately this is more common than you think. I hve seen it hppen to online dynamics as well as in person dynamics. As i master/ dom, i have peraonally experienced it on more than one occassions where sub blocks or abandons the relationship without much discussion. To me it takes away the core framework of the dynamics, which revolves around clear effective communiction and adjustment accordingly to move the dynamics forward. To many subs (and doms alike) arr not here for the true meaning or dynamics, but either a quick fuck or 'phase' to deal with immediate past reltionship. And it leads to frustrations when the other partner is here for a true dynamics. Open to evolving together.

[Di****]

I have a friend who works in interrogations and she would say you over subbed him, you made him realize he wasn’t worthy of your attention and your raw sexual power. At least that’s what I thunk in my mind I think? It’s a talent the female interviewers can sometimes hone into quite a useful skill. Like if a man domme as described were to say no or mean or hurt you. Take a drink of water and hold it in your mouth until they done being rude and in their feelings. Like not even trying to love you right. And he’s being a soft boy about the lack of closure and immature behavior and a hot red flag 🚩. You take a set back wait. Be patient. If he’s dumb enough to chase you with possessive intent by yelling and soft boy behavior, just take another drink of water and leave him alone. Your man is not into this and is not honest or don’t care or don’t understand themselfs. And you just whooped his dom assumptions how much you want him or this. You are a good person, maybe even a switch ?
And who cares about you being cool and feeling real real good is who you want to be around. Sub no think dom no stress sub. Sub focus give dom love and joy blossoms. Flow

[Cu****]

1 hour ago, DiDet said:

I have a friend who works in interrogations and she would say you over subbed him, you made him realize he wasn’t worthy of your attention and your raw sexual power. At least that’s what I thunk in my mind I think? It’s a talent the female interviewers can sometimes hone into quite a useful skill. Like if a man domme as described were to say no or mean or hurt you. Take a drink of water and hold it in your mouth until they done being rude and in their feelings. Like not even trying to love you right. And he’s being a soft boy about the lack of closure and immature behavior and a hot red flag 🚩. You take a set back wait. Be patient. If he’s dumb enough to chase you with possessive intent by yelling and soft boy behavior, just take another drink of water and leave him alone. Your man is not into this and is not honest or don’t care or don’t understand themselfs. And you just whooped his dom assumptions how much you want him or this. You are a good person, maybe even a switch ?
And who cares about you being cool and feeling real real good is who you want to be around. Sub no think dom no stress sub. Sub focus give dom love and joy blossoms. Flow

This was the clearest rambling I've ever read. 😜 Thank you - you must be speaking my language here. ✊