Wanting

[James108-7073]

Why is it that after a bad day at work I have an intense desire to be owned, hurt, humiliated and punished... but only on bad work days?

[ey****]

in short. escapism.

that you've had a bad day and want to be taken as far away from that as possible.

or, that you've had a bad day you didn't consent to and want to re-own that via consensual kink

[Firemansjock]

I had a master who told me that because I a boss at work was the reason I craved to be a slave. It was a release from my responsibilities at work. Made some sense.

[Ma****]

From my experience, there's a lot of submissives out there with domineering personalities in the work***, but are submissive at home because they are tired of handling the reins, so to speak, and need some time where they aren't the ones who have to make the decisions. They often find comfort in letting go of responsibilities, shutting down their brains, and having clear instructions about what they need to do. Liberation through submission. It's kind of poetic, in a way.

[ey****]

there's lots of tropes and such.  In a previous job I often worried I enjoyed kink so much because I disliked my job so much, but now I'm in a job I enjoy more I've found it wasn't about that.

But, yeah, a common trope in almost every newspaper-interview-with-Domme is the person who has to be bossy/demanding/etc, whatever in work wanting that taken away.  

[Catsailor69]

I work as a manager for 18 people and deal with customers as well, ALL day. It’s a high stress, high paced job to say the least.
I enjoy being a submissive the days it is just roaring in my veins. Being able to let go, do as I’m told and no worries of the consequences make the next morning SO much better.

[Deleted Member]

I think it’s the stress and tension you feel. A need for release. It’s a bit of a contradiction. I still sometimes get baffled. But letting someone else be in control and feeling a bit of *** helps me.

[cautiousswitch]

If it's only after a bad day at work then it may be stress as some people have suggested.  It may be proper communication.

One thing I like about the submissive lifestyle is that a good dominant will tell you exactly what they want you to do.  You aren't expected to read anything extra into what they say like you do in some vanilla relationships... or in some jobs.  Also, I've got a few coworkers who think that they have authority over me when no organizational chart I've ever seen gives them authority over me.  In my D/S life, I have agreed that the dominant has authority over me, they have agreed to not take that authority past certain limits.  Being dominated consentually sometimes makes more sense than "real life" where you are ***d into a role even if the dominance takes more extreme forms.