How Do Your Fantasies Shape Your Reality?

[Da****]

Have you ever noticed how your fantasies influence the way you view relationships, intimacy, or even your own identity?

For example, does the power dynamic in a D/s relationship extend beyond the bedroom for you, or do you keep it strictly within scenes? How do you balance fantasy with reality when exploring your boundaries?

Bonus question: What’s one fantasy you’ve brought to life, and how did it compare to what you envisioned?

Share your thoughts, experiences, and even your challenges—this space is judgment-free and all about connection. Let’s learn from one another while embracing our unique kinks!

[Lo****]

I can see our entire existence as a kind of kink. An interplay between restriction and allowance that gives context and contrast to what is. Extending my kinky mindset to existence in general has allowed me to see a lot of challenges or ***s I come across as restrictions, and I’m much more aware of the pleasures and joys in life than I was before. It’s all a lot more fun now

[Ca****]

Whilst at uni my girlfriend at the time was submissive but with limited experience I tried Dominating her with little success . After an unexpected drunken threesome at a uni party we started swinging for a short time, . and I started swinging before it became a cuckold relationship. Her bulls were hung and Dom Initially this was just occasional play but over the course year become full time cuckold relationship.

[Da****]

@lovethedog This is such an intriguing way to view existence an interplay between restriction and allowance. It resonates deeply because, in many ways, isn’t life itself a dance of boundaries and freedoms?

Your perspective of seeing challenges as restrictions is inspiring. It suggests that by embracing the ‘kink’ in life, we can reframe struggles as opportunities for discovery and growth.

I’d love to know: how do you incorporate this mindset into your everyday interactions or relationships? Are there specific practices or rituals that help you maintain this awareness?

Also, does this approach influence how you experience or negotiate boundaries in your kink dynamics? The idea of ‘restriction’ feels so central to both life and kink,it’d be amazing to hear how you weave those threads together.

[Da****]

  15 hours ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

Whilst at uni my girlfriend at the time was submissive but with limited experience I tried Dominating her with little success . After an unexpected drunken threesome at a uni party we started swinging for a short time, . and I started swinging before it became a cuckold relationship. Her bulls were hung and Dom Initially this was just occasional play but over the course year become full time cuckold relationship.

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That sounds like quite the journey of exploration and discovery! It’s fascinating how your dynamic evolved over time, from experimenting as a Dominant to embracing a cuckold relationship full-time.

What was the turning point for you that made the shift feel natural or right? Was it something your partner expressed, or did it come from your own desires growing and changing?

It’s also interesting that swinging played a role in this evolution. Do you feel that experience helped you both communicate more openly about boundaries and fantasies?

Thanks for sharing—it’s always eye-opening to hear how others navigate these transitions in their relationships!

[Ca****]

I didn't know I was submissive until we met a guy who turned out to be both hung and Dominant . I was awestruck and didn't join in like previous swinging adventures instead just watched, she always knew she was submissive but had very little experience at that time. She was in her element under his complete control. After that meeting everything changed a lot of conversation discussions wants needs and red lines, it didn't happen over night started with just occasional play at that time I we were still having sex in-between visits

[Da****]

  4 hours ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

I didn't know I was submissive until we met a guy who turned out to be both hung and Dominant . I was awestruck and didn't join in like previous swinging adventures instead just watched, she always knew she was submissive but had very little experience at that time. She was in her element under his complete control. After that meeting everything changed a lot of conversation discussions wants needs and red lines, it didn't happen over night started with just occasional play at that time I we were still having sex in-between visits

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Thank you for sharing such a pivotal moment in your journey🫂it’s amazing how a single encounter can unlock a deeper understanding of yourself and your dynamic as a couple. It sounds like that experience not only revealed your submissive side but also strengthened communication between you and your partner.

I’m curious 🧐what were some of the most important conversations or realizations you had during that time? It sounds like establishing clear boundaries and red lines was key to making it work for both of you.

It’s also interesting that you continued to have sex in-between visits🥰did that help maintain balance in your relationship, or did things shift as the dynamic evolved further?

Your story highlights the importance of exploration and communication in kink ^_^ thanks again for sharing!

[Ca****]

That single encounter did change everything , but it wasn't instant , we didn't really know what we wanted at that time we didn't even know what cuckold was. There were lots of conversations , first confirming we still loved each other how we wanted our relationship to be then the who, when/frequency of meets , where I had to be present , how (the bull/Dom could make use of her/is). Even when the first draft of what would be the cuckold contract was drawn up if it changed regularly for the first year, semi often in the second year as we learnt more and understood what we needed , later years it was mostly just signed and renewed with amendment. Initially we met other infrequently and so I still had regular sex, as we started meeting bulls more frequently and I was trained to be in chastity longer until I was in full time chastity and all her penetrative sex came from bulls .

[Da****]

  3 hours ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

That single encounter did change everything , but it wasn't instant , we didn't really know what we wanted at that time we didn't even know what cuckold was. There were lots of conversations , first confirming we still loved each other how we wanted our relationship to be then the who, when/frequency of meets , where I had to be present , how (the bull/Dom could make use of her/is). Even when the first draft of what would be the cuckold contract was drawn up if it changed regularly for the first year, semi often in the second year as we learnt more and understood what we needed , later years it was mostly just signed and renewed with amendment. Initially we met other infrequently and so I still had regular sex, as we started meeting bulls more frequently and I was trained to be in chastity longer until I was in full time chastity and all her penetrative sex came from bulls .

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That’s such a fascinating journey! it really shows how much thought and communication goes into building a dynamic like this. It’s amazing how the process unfolded organically, with so much trial, adjustment, and reflection as you both discovered what worked best for you.

It sounds like the contract played a huge role in creating clarity and structure. What were some of the key elements you included in the early drafts? Did you find that certain rules or agreements were harder to navigate at first, or did things naturally fall into place over time? I find use of contracts very important during the experimental phase.

Also, your journey into full-time chastity is really intriguing. How did you feel as that aspect of your dynamic evolved? Was it challenging to transition, or did it feel like a natural progression as your connection deepened?

Thank you for sharing😌it’s not often we get to hear such a detailed and personal perspective on this kind of relationship. It really shows the importance of communication and mutual trust in making it work!

[Ca****]

We didn't want the contract to be too, long too over complicated , too restrictive , or hard to follow , it just had to be agreed reviewed regularly to ensure everyone was happy with it. it was less than page long and just to list the basic rules of who when, frequency's and how so everyone was on the same page . As well as that we thought it was full and it was on the bedroom wall when bulls visited . Transitioning from a full sexual relationship to one in chastity was a bit of a challenge having to be warned off both sex and wanking , initially I was only on chastity 24 hours around her meet then all weekend etc , it did get tough later on. Initially my gf found a cuckoldress difficult demanding oral pleasure on demand etc , she never done that before and she was simultaneously progressing down the path of submission to her bulls . It was a big learning curve for us both the first year or two

[Da****]

  1 hour ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

We didn't want the contract to be too, long too over complicated , too restrictive , or hard to follow , it just had to be agreed reviewed regularly to ensure everyone was happy with it. it was less than page long and just to list the basic rules of who when, frequency's and how so everyone was on the same page . As well as that we thought it was full and it was on the bedroom wall when bulls visited . Transitioning from a full sexual relationship to one in chastity was a bit of a challenge having to be warned off both sex and wanking , initially I was only on chastity 24 hours around her meet then all weekend etc , it did get tough later on. Initially my gf found a cuckoldress difficult demanding oral pleasure on demand etc , she never done that before and she was simultaneously progressing down the path of submission to her bulls . It was a big learning curve for us both the first year or two

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Absolutely love this there's never a need to over complicate things

[Ca****]

True , as I was (and still am) in full time chastity so all my gfs penetrative sex came from others , some rules were obviously needed , to protect the relationship

[Da****]

  1 hour ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

True , as I was (and still am) in full time chastity so all my gfs penetrative sex came from others , some rules were obviously needed , to protect the relationship

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Thank you so much for sharing your story with such openness, vulnerability, and transparency. It’s clear how much thought, communication, and mutual trust you’ve both invested in building and maintaining your dynamic. Hearing about your journey has been incredibly insightful and a reminder of how unique and personal these connections can be.

Your willingness to discuss these experiences openly adds so much depth to this conversation and fosters a space where others can learn and reflect. I really appreciate you taking the time to share it’s been a privilege to hear about your journey!

[Ca****]

You are welcome that relationship lasted 9 years the last 7 being cuckold , I had a second cuckold relationship based on a very similar cuckold contract ... I am single but would love. A third

[Da****]

I believe you can definitely find that on here ^_^ post a kinky ad and see who reaches out I think they will love your ability to communicate clearly and establish rules and expectations