Isolation

[ge****]

As a submissive, any restrictions a dominant tried to place on me interacting socially with others would always be a red flag.
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As a dominant, a submissive isolating themselves from social interaction with others would be a major concern.

[ta****]

Hate it

[Kalton]

I think you need to explain the question a bit more it's a bit vague and can be answered if different ways

[We****]

Very vague question. Taken at face value; to me, kink is about helping your partner fulfill a fantasy, and they help you do the same. If your sub has a lifestyle kink where they want to be totally controlled in all aspects, then maybe isolation is something that can be discussed and agreed on. If it's not a lifestyle thing, trying to *** someone to only ever interact with you isn't kinky. It's abusive.

[Co****]

The question is very vague. A little more detail would be nice. I think it would be appropriate to have rules for how a sub or slave interacts with others. Manners, politeness, in particular. Some communities have elaborate protocols for interactions such as meal service and the like which are non-sexual. I think it is reasonable for a Dom to require a sub to tell him or her about interactions with others, even if non-sexual. However, I can’t imagine a reason to prevent a sub from interacting with other people. That sort of isolation sounds rather crazy and abusive.

[up****]

Exclusivity is one of my biggest bugbears with dating and relationships.

I really love how every woman is different both physically and in personality. I love the trust and depth of understanding that gets built in a relationship. I love the raw excitement of meeting a new partner.

I always feel it's so refreshing when I get to meet a woman who also feels this way and has the confidence to do the same.

[Deleted Member]

Depends on the sub. Generally, whatever is best for her mental health and safety.

[Mi****]

Forcing someone to isolate is ***. This is very plain and simple.

[Th****]

Is he my property? There is no need for him to chat with other females online. I deserve full devotion.
Obviously, he is allowed to talk to females in real life settings, like at work and social events etc.

[si****]

As a lifestyle isolating a sub from others. I found this to be very red flag as a lifestyle but it seems to be very common. I was recently engaged by someone wanting to do this to me and did not like it. I suppose this is more of an aita post

[Mu****]

Isolating a sub? You are her Master (Dom), and she/ her is your slave? That's done willingly and should be agreed upon prior to committing. If I'm wrong please correct me.

[si****]

In this instance I was a sub. I more frequently dom

[Deleted Member]

Unless my subs have willingly isolated from others and have explicitly informed me of a desire to engage with fewer people / only me, I am acutely vigilant of isolation behaviors appearing where they did not previously and otherwise encourage healthy interactions with others.

It matters if I observe the sub's circle of contacts shrinking VS her naturally being isolationist. Also it matters if she expresses a desire to engage with fewer others or if she implicitly starts to isolate (5 "why's" are likely to follow this, but indirectly—a good set of answers is expected, but mentalism is the operative strategy here).

[be****]

Well it’s 2025 so I try to shoot for non psychotic. They might be my property, but there’s a fine line between dominant and abusive. And as always it’s all about communication. I could see a situation where you allow the contact or interaction or whatever but then u get to use it as subject matter later. Personally I don’t actually see or have a problem with it but I’m probably just not strict enough. But that doesn’t mean I might not use it to some advantage. If you want to go claim her like a dog claims a hydrant u can walk over while she’s talking to him grab her hand put it down your pant then proceed to ask her to introduce you to her friend and enjoy the show as she blushes and stutters and you can watch his primitive brain do a bit of fight or flight. I think that shots funny. Or u could just wait until later when you’re alone and take care of it how u want to. Tell her it’s ok if you talk to others but she has to (insert generic task or punishment) afterward to solidify your ownership.

[ic****]

A BDSM relationship doesn’t have to be inherently sexual in the first place so the question is flawed. That said, regarding my partners interacting with other people, including men, provided it is appropriate for the location and topic of discussion, I don’t see any harm. I’m not one of those people that is into 24 seven dynamic anyway and I’m poly so really it’s a non-issue.

[Ch****]

4 hours ago, icecreamtaters said:

A BDSM relationship doesn’t have to be inherently sexual in the first place so the question is flawed. That said, regarding my partners interacting with other people, including men, provided it is appropriate for the location and topic of discussion, I don’t see any harm. I’m not one of those people that is into 24 seven dynamic anyway and I’m poly so really it’s a non-issue.

I love that you say "A BDSM relationship doesn't have to be inherently sexual"! There can be, and often are, sexually under or over tones but dammit it doesn't always have to involve overtly sexual touch or penetration!

[Ro****]

Isolation vs. exclusivity...
Isolation is not healthy and is far different from exclusivity.
Some pretext from my point of view.
I once upon a time was married, in the a fully monogamous sense. I let myself get isolated because it was easier that way. Less issues: He was an insecure person. Now divorced, I'm solo poly, I do not ever want to feel that isolation again. One should balance out social interactions to their own comfortability. Also allowing autonomy in a sub shows there's enough to trust their judgment on what is OK or not and otherwise damages the self confidence towards others if they don't have that confidence exercised regularly.

[Ed****]

To me ppl are dom/sub not mstr/slv. Because they still need to maintain their individual personalities. I guess how one responds to their submissives or Dominates interaction with others. Really depends on the context of the interaction, and the level of obidience required in the relationship

[si****]

As a Dom if you don't trust your sub why are you with them? There's a big difference of showing dominance and being controlling. So the answer to your question for me is I trust her. Now this is also coming from someone in a poly-ish/open relationship. So does my opinion even count?

However, even if I were not in the type of relationship I am my partner would be able to do what she wanted with others. We all need our alone time and our time with friends. It allows us to value the time we have with our sub. In my case my wife. Without time away from each other you can grow a part as easily as if you have too much time a part.

Now if you're talking my sub going out and getting spanked, cut, ***d, (pick your poison) by someone else. I feel like that could open unwanted doors. Just my humble opinion.

[Lo****]

Isolation is genuinely a first stage in abusive relationships, humans are a social species and any form of en***d isolation can cause real lasting trauma. It's toxic and unhealthy.

[Ki****]

For me my sub refers to everyone as Sir or Ma'am but I have trained him to have the upmost respect at all times in and out of the bedroom

[Ne****]

I'm not even sure I should be answering this since im more of a laid-back/chill switch type. But i don't have strong feelings on the matter. People have friends that aren't me, and that's a pretty normal thing. I had never really thought about it before.

[ga****]

I’m poly and enjoy watching my subs get attention. Love hearing about it too. Have a D/s relationship is the most special bond. I do not control who they have in their life. I feel that is unhealthy and can lead to ***. Being a good mistress means adding to my subs life not isolating or controlling their friendships or even lovers.

[Dr****]

Honestly. I struggle with it personally. I try not to be possessive, but I do find it difficult at time. Although, I have some stuff to work through

[ba****]

They are who they are before they met me. Our bond is one built, same as any other. Non sexual friends are fine, but no one plays with my toys without permission.