Uncategorised dynamics?

[MissTakenDeep]

I’m intrigued to know how many people on here joined because they have a specific kink or fetish, but don’t fall into any particular role or want a typical D/S dynamic?

[Th****]

I would guess many on here are like that. Me included.

[Sa****]

Do you not fall into that category?

[Sa****]

I like the idea of switching things up. It keeps it interesting.

[da****]

A D/s dynamic is like any other relationship it takes time and trust to make strong. It’s important to vet each other. Everyone has the things they like and

[da****]

Don’t like. It’s the importance of boundaries safe words and great aftercare that make it work discussion over what felt good and not so good.

[MissTakenDeep]

25 minutes ago, SayNoToTootsies said:

Do you not fall into that category?

Yes, I personally fall into that category. I have found in the time I’ve been on here though, that the vast majority want a typical D/S dynamic, I’m trying to see if there’s many people, like myself, who don’t want the D/S dynamic with their kink and if not, how they identify within the structure of ‘roles’

[MissTakenDeep]

10 minutes ago, daddyblue1 said:

Don’t like. It’s the importance of boundaries safe words and great aftercare that make it work discussion over what felt good and not so good.

Thanks, I understand what a D/S dynamic is, that’s not my question. My question is for people who don’t want a D/S dynamic in their relationship

[Sa****]

4 minutes ago, MissTakenDeep said:

Yes, I personally fall into that category. I have found in the time I’ve been on here though, that the vast majority want a typical D/S dynamic, I’m trying to see if there’s many people, like myself, who don’t want the D/S dynamic with their kink and if not, how they identify within the structure of ‘roles’

Yeah there's no black and white. The grey area is where you can have more fun. Variety is the spice of life and labels don't mean much.

[Jo****]

My sexual and sober lust is 2 different things

[MissTakenDeep]

3 minutes ago, Joker_01 said:

My sexual and sober lust is 2 different things

How do they differ?

[Fr****]

I‘m not necessarily search for a D/s relationship. I‘m happy to find a woman who shares my kinks and is happy with my sex drive. For example I enjoy foreplay so much, both giving and receiving. Or a very wet kiss for example. And if I find someone with similar interests and a reaction fetish, I would be fine with that.

[Neezy]

I enjoy women in nylons/pantyhose but I am open to other things...just as long as she has on some nylons lol

[Gr****]

I select what I can from the drop-down menus and then clarify in my profile. If the drop down menus contained every possible combination, title, and scenario then profile creation would be a nightmare.

[an****]

I joined because I have fetishes and kinks. I’m still hoping one day to meet a woman that will have the same likes as me.

[ey****]

gonna tell you a secret and I hope it's helpful

I'd go out into a limb to say that probably most people with kinks or fetishes do not really fit into what is usually referred to as a 'dynamic' 

like, they have fetishes, things that turn them on, things which are fun to do - but the idea of being a sub, or a Dom, or anything else like that - isn't really for them, even if some try to convince themselves it is.  

[BruiseWayne]

Some people just like to perform certain kinky acts but don't really enjoy the idea of an official D/s dynamic but finding out if a person they're interested in is even willing to do that thing with the in the first place is pretty important so they don't waste their time with someone who ultimately won't fulfill them/it, so they wind up here.

 

Though I do have to say I feel like that's not really the norm.

[MissTakenDeep]

14 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

gonna tell you a secret and I hope it's helpful

I'd go out into a limb to say that probably most people with kinks or fetishes do not really fit into what is usually referred to as a 'dynamic' 

like, they have fetishes, things that turn them on, things which are fun to do - but the idea of being a sub, or a Dom, or anything else like that - isn't really for them, even if some try to convince themselves it is.  

This is basically the question I was trying to ask, it seems the majority of people I’ve spoken to on here, lean heavily into the dynamics and that dynamic or power exchange is their main kink. It’s difficult to find people who aren’t looking for that.

[MissTakenDeep]

10 hours ago, BruiseWayne said:

Some people just like to perform certain kinky acts but don't really enjoy the idea of an official D/s dynamic but finding out if a person they're interested in is even willing to do that thing with the in the first place is pretty important so they don't waste their time with someone who ultimately won't fulfill them/it, so they wind up here.

 

Though I do have to say I feel like that's not really the norm.

Very inclined to agree with this! My specific kink is very non vanilla and definitely not for everyone, not something I’d ever feel comfortable discussing on a vanilla dating platform like tinder for example lol, but completely without the typical dynamic. It’s hard to find the middle ground

[ey****]

46 minutes ago, MissTakenDeep said:

This is basically the question I was trying to ask, it seems the majority of people I’ve spoken to on here, lean heavily into the dynamics and that dynamic or power exchange is their main kink. It’s difficult to find people who aren’t looking for that.

I get you - and it's somewhat weird, because I often feel people feel pressured into saying they're looking for a dynamic when really they'd be very happy with a kinky partner

[MissTakenDeep]

19 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I get you - and it's somewhat weird, because I often feel people feel pressured into saying they're looking for a dynamic when really they'd be very happy with a kinky partner

That’s actually quite an intriguing question. I wonder how many people do fall into a dynamic just to get their kinks/fetishes met?!

[4F****]

Im too new to this to really understand all that you're referring to, but I can tell you really all I wanted is some regular NSA. Sure, i dont mind getting kinky and doing whatever the women are into. Seriously, i can be or do whatever gets them off. I'll have fun either way.