Sub Anal Tips

[Likean***]

Okay, so I'm fully dedicated to my fiance, he's the dom and I trust my entire body in his hands. No one has ever made me feel as good as he does; not just physically, but emotionally and everything else, he is the other half of my heart. The thing is is that I really enjoy anal, but I still have that hook in my head that it's dirty and the last thing I want is for us to, well, have any incidents, to the point that I feel ashamed afterward when I lose all abandon and just lose myself in what he does. I am in the process of getting in to shape and losing some weight and I truly feel hot for the first time in forever. He always tells me that I'm sexy and, trust me, after 7 1/2 years, I can tell that he really feels that way, it's just a personal thing for me. So, we're going to a concert in August and it's for a band that we both love that definitely brings out the dark in both of us. I guess what I'm  getting to is that I want to go to the show, the day before and that day in full submission, I want no matter what that anything he says goes. I'm just worried about anal and being clean no matter what or when....just the idea of being at his complete beck and call....well......yeah.... please help :)

 

~Sorry for the long post, just the first time I've ever posted in any forum like this and I just wanted everyone to know where I'm at.

[ey****]

so

here's a thing.  

Shit happens.

That's the first thing to accept.  There is NOTHING you can do to ensure you're 100% clean at any given moment and anyone who enjoys giving anal sex should also appreciate that this is an occupational hazard.

That said.  If I am in a situation where anal sex might be possible there are steps I take.    First off, I eat cautiously a day or two beforehand.    Some suggest a vegetarian diet, but I don't entirely agree - I think things like currys should be avoided, or spicy food - and any form of buffet foods.

But, that's not going to guarantee you always ready to go.

Another suggestion could be to start douching regularly even just through habit.  If, every time you poo, you douche - then you stand more chance of being clean.   But... it doesn't matter how much you control your diet or obsessively douche, you can never be sure of being 100% clean - but that's the nature of the beast.

[Deleted Member]

I would agree entirely with black sheep‘s comments above, but there are things you can do to pretty much ensure that you won’t have a dirty incident. The fun and enjoyment you can have from this type of play is beyond description and you shouldn’t miss out on it because you’re frightened of the consequences of a mess.

I’ve been into this kind of play for over 35 years now and I’ve never ever had a dirty incident, because I am a bit OCD about being clean. Now that is either an amazingly unbelievable coincidence or it’s because of my good practices. Without being big headed about it, I think it’s the latter! Douching is definitely a must. However it takes practice and a certain degree of understanding of one’s own anatomy to be able to carry this out effectively.

With any kind of play of this nature, total relaxation is essential. And if you can’t relax yourself while you are douching, you are probably not going to be able to relax when you are engaging in play with a partner. The advice is always the same: start off small and work up to something bigger. The same goes with douching. Some people would advocate using only a gravity douche to start with or a bulb douche. And whilst it’s really important not to injure yourself and great care must be taken in doing this, I tend to use a showerhead and this can *** water into the colon which you can then expel out, very effectively cleaning yourself. You can also purchase specially shaped attachments that fit to the end of the shower hose, providing a really good douche experience. For goodness sake don’t use one of these on a non-thermostatically controlled water supply, as internal scalding of the colon and large intestine could be fatal.

But previous diet is of course really important also. If you have eaten something with a lot of absorbency in it, it will tend to ensure that you are not too liquid inside and this will help to prevent messy incidents. ultimately though, have a bit of perspective: if you do have a bit of a mess, it’s only food that’s been processed by your body, after all! It’s not some really nasty dangerous chemical that is going to massively injure you. It will clean up! Take sensible precautions. Use an old bedsheet or a dust sheet underneath your main sheet, so that if there is a mess, it protects your bed or carpet or wherever you happen to be playing. Relax. Lighten up a bit and enjoy the fun. If the worst does happen, it’s only a bit of poo!

By all means private message me and we can chat on the phone if you want to get some more advice.

[Wo****]

Prepare, relax, enjoy....

It may, or may not, get "messy" but let's face it, it's not really surprising and as mentioned there are steps you can take to minimise the chances but  you enjoy it, your partner enjoys it so just go for it!

[Likean***]

Thanks y'all, you both have pretty much reiterated the research that I've done. So I guess I'll just need to take a deep breath and chill. I know for a fact we've had a several times that I had not thought about nor planned for and he didn't say anything, I know I need to be more chill about it since it's something that I do REALLY enjoy, I'm just really self conscious. Let's just say that this particular event that I'm planning for, we'll be staying at a hotel, so it's their problem, lol. 

 

Okay, I'm not a jerk, we won't leave a mess, but at least it's now our sheets at home that may need to be replaced. 

Btw, we're going to go see rammstein, I planned on going with my wrist restraints and collar, he wanted me to wear the leash. I was like, babe, the last show we went to they almost kicked me out for the belt I was wearing, for insurance reasons (hardcore punk show, I still have scars), that literally held my pants up, do you really think the venue is going to let us in with a fucking leash? 🤦‍♀️  Iove him......

[Lu****]

1. Anal sex. Shit happens. It's really not a big deal and it happens less often than you think.
2. Eat a high fiber diet that keeps you regular.
3. Best time for Anal is after a good BM.
4. If you want to, you can fast for 12ish hours before and this will help ensure you're rectum is empty.
5. Want to have anal for a long time? Try using an enama with warm water.
6. The more anal you have the more you normalize it.
7. It is dirty. It can still be a bunch of fun. Know your risks and have fun :D

[St****]

As i am not the oldes one here. I definitely have a lot of experience with anal. I give not recieve. You should use an enema or accept the fact thay anal will not ways be one hundred percent clean. You are getting poked somewhere where it isnt supposed to go (doesnt stop any of us) ita only natural. Soap and water shower and baths. They are here for a reason
Go have some fun and dont be ashamed if there is a skidmark or two on your man. If its getting out of control take a shower and relieve yourself, enema, and get back to the fun. Hope you ANALyze what i said and cheers to having fun.

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Luckybear said:

4. If you want to, you can fast for 12ish hours before and this will help ensure you're rectum is empty.

Nope.

Nope nope nope nope nope.

I'd strongly discourage anyone from fasting as (a) nope, it doesn't increase your chances of being clean/empty - that's a myth (b) it increases your risk of fainting.

I had this conversation last year with a guy who fainted during strap on because he hadn't eaten in 24 HOURS - and when he came round and said this the Mistress then pointed out that he wasn't clean anyway.

Always eat sensibly before any type of play.  I've had too many horror stories lately from subs who've caused problems due to not eating enough before play.

[Deleted Member]

I have no direct experience myself but I once had a conversation about it with one of my gay friends and he said, it's important that you don't eat anything too heavy beforehand. Never fully understood what that means but I'm assuming it relates to how quickly your body can process whatever you put in. Not the greatest tip in the world but hopefully it helps you and your fiance

[Je****]

Get a anal kit off kinkly.com it comes with a bulb to clean yourself out. Use an enema then a couple bulbs of water to ensure it's all clean. Don't freak if you see white stringy looking stuff after all the eww is gone, its normal.

[ad****]

Omg y’all it’s more simple Butt a *** in the Ass

[As****]

It took some time but after I hot my girlfriend to try it she cant get enough of it now. Just ask if he wants to try it