Feeling guilty for feeling

[Sa****]

There are women AND men out there who deep down are feeling ashamed to feel pleasure or just simply struggle to come for other reasons.. These subs need recognition and stronger hands when they start to enjoy themselves, otherwise they may "try to escape ". That's how pleasure doms come into picture.
These dominants guide you through your pleasure and ensure you can feel good in safe environment and frankly you have no choice 😜

I have had partners where I've noticed they needed to be "convinced" (aka put them back in their place) that it's ok to feel ok. Bandage helps a lot with this too but some subs like to be physically restricted by their doms' hands rather than by equipment, i find.

This is my opinion of how pleasure doms could make themselves useful hahah but of course many doms don't realise this psychological effect, they just simply like to get off on the subs pleasures.

while on the other hand, non-pleasure doms will control/restrict your orgasm which I'm not experienced enough to say whether it would work for these kind of subs or not. I think they most likely already struggle to relax cumming easily so denying orgasm won't work will it 🤷‍♀️

And hence pleasure doms are "titled" the way.
because their excitement going to enhance with their sub. So once someone could barely come, now suddenly comes many times will definitely be a dopamine boost for the dominant.

Not sure if it makes sense and would be curious to see others opinions on this.

However, may I add, if there wasn't such a misconception what a dominant is or supposed to be in or out of the bedroom, then we wouldn't need so many titles.

Today's "dominants" are lost in the head somewhere.

Sometimes the best thing to do is don't try to place yourself into one category. It's ok to belong into many 🙃

[Sa****]

  15 minutes ago, Sam_themysterius said:

There are women AND men out there who deep down are feeling ashamed to feel pleasure or just simply struggle to come for other reasons.. These subs need recognition and stronger hands when they start to enjoy themselves, otherwise they may "try to escape ". That's how pleasure doms come into picture.
These dominants guide you through your pleasure and ensure you can feel good in safe environment and frankly you have no choice 😜

I have had partners where I've noticed they needed to be "convinced" (aka put them back in their place) that it's ok to feel ok. Bandage helps a lot with this too but some subs like to be physically restricted by their doms' hands rather than by equipment, i find.

This is my opinion of how pleasure doms could make themselves useful hahah but of course many doms don't realise this psychological effect, they just simply like to get off on the subs pleasures.

while on the other hand, non-pleasure doms will control/restrict your orgasm which I'm not experienced enough to say whether it would work for these kind of subs or not. I think they most likely already struggle to relax cumming easily so denying orgasm won't work will it 🤷‍♀️

And hence pleasure doms are "titled" the way.
because their excitement going to enhance with their sub. So once someone could barely come, now suddenly comes many times will definitely be a dopamine boost for the dominant.

Not sure if it makes sense and would be curious to see others opinions on this.

However, may I add, if there wasn't such a misconception what a dominant is or supposed to be in or out of the bedroom, then we wouldn't need so many titles.

Today's "dominants" are lost in the head somewhere.

Sometimes the best thing to do is don't try to place yourself into one category. It's ok to belong into many 🙃

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for me for example, i like the power play of "who's giving pleasure to whom" . "Who will overpower the other tonight ".. rather than "you do as i told" but i do include that in the game too x

[Windwolf]

  40 minutes ago, Sam_themysterius said:

There are women AND men out there who deep down are feeling ashamed to feel pleasure or just simply struggle to come for other reasons.. These subs need recognition and stronger hands when they start to enjoy themselves, otherwise they may "try to escape ". That's how pleasure doms come into picture.
These dominants guide you through your pleasure and ensure you can feel good in safe environment and frankly you have no choice 😜

I have had partners where I've noticed they needed to be "convinced" (aka put them back in their place) that it's ok to feel ok. Bandage helps a lot with this too but some subs like to be physically restricted by their doms' hands rather than by equipment, i find.

This is my opinion of how pleasure doms could make themselves useful hahah but of course many doms don't realise this psychological effect, they just simply like to get off on the subs pleasures.

while on the other hand, non-pleasure doms will control/restrict your orgasm which I'm not experienced enough to say whether it would work for these kind of subs or not. I think they most likely already struggle to relax cumming easily so denying orgasm won't work will it 🤷‍♀️

And hence pleasure doms are "titled" the way.
because their excitement going to enhance with their sub. So once someone could barely come, now suddenly comes many times will definitely be a dopamine boost for the dominant.

Not sure if it makes sense and would be curious to see others opinions on this.

However, may I add, if there wasn't such a misconception what a dominant is or supposed to be in or out of the bedroom, then we wouldn't need so many titles.

Today's "dominants" are lost in the head somewhere.

Sometimes the best thing to do is don't try to place yourself into one category. It's ok to belong into many 🙃

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Edging isn't something one should start out with. Especially with a new sub .
Gaining trust and respect are primary.
Tickle ***,wax play and such things should come only.
Once a sub who could hardly climax now has multiple orgasims will start seeking to have their world expanded .
Depending on responsiveness I might at this point ease her into wax play and ice play along with some simple sensory deprivation.
Ease her into other things gently and once she crosses the barrier of no return , then add a little edge play.
Remember, don't rush this. The suspense is really getting exciting and it will definitely set the mood.

[Andrew-7028]

  On 2/15/2025 at 6:59 AM, Windwolf said:

Well my post will probably be deleted but I'm going to make it anyway. Mainly because I have lived long enough to experience the numerous ways that *** and pleasure go hand in hand.
40 years ago, all of us would probably have said there are few Doms here at all.
I'm still trying to adjust to just how much things have changed.
But, if you think about it ,there is a point when pleasure becomes intense ***.
1. Multiple orgasims.
I have controlled female subs orgasims to the point that they would plead with me to stop making them climax. Why, because each orgasim causes nerve endings to become more and more sensitive until it feels like skin is literally on fire.
That same control allowed me to command my sub to climax right on the spot. I often did this at restaurants grocery stores, and one on a tour bus.
I could look into my subs eyes across a crowded room and smile and will a slight nod of my head she would immediately climax.

Dominance isn't about *** or pleasure. It's about control.

I am a pleasure Dom. And I could convert 90 percent of the subs of those Doms who think pleasure Doms are not real Doms, into trembling, whimpering piles of sensual flesh begging, pleading for mercy.

I won't even talk about tickle ***, ice and wax play as well as dozens of sensory deprivations that explodes a climax into a blazing inferno.
Just because someone hasn't lived long enough to have gained experience in a broad field of experience doesn't mean they have to limit themselves to the one planet they think makes up the universe.
 

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That's amazing

[Sa****]

  February 14, ChromeStarz said:

Don't turn off the empathy. Be yourself, and those that disparage are wrong. Pleasure dom is a weird thing anyway...we should all be after our partner's pleasure. Even in our most sadistic play, which may be designed and implemented by Chrome...jenna is still getting pleasure from it. Because sometimes she enjoys not enjoying it...REALLY enjoys. If only one of us got pleasure at all...we wouldn't do it.

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Pleasure doms get off on your pleasure like your fake dom gets off on your ***. I don't see how it is different

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Please don’t lose your empathy.