How to overcome something

February 26

I realize the title might be confusing and doesn't quite capture what I mean. Essentially, my kink involves adapting to my partner's desires. If someone enjoys rough treatment, I'm comfortable with that. If they're into something like being ******* on, while I might find it unusual, I'm willing to participate if that's what they want. If they desire ***, I'll fulfill that role. My primary goal is to please my partner. I identify as a switch, predominantly dominant. I typically take the dominant role, and I'm only truly submissive when I'm out-dominated, which has only happened twice. However, I also have kinks I'm hesitant to explore due to a *** of unintentionally hurting someone. For example, during my fifth sexual encounter with a partner, I was spanking her. She playfully mocked my light spanks, prompting me to increase the intensity. Despite feeling like I wasn't using excessive ***, one spank was significantly harder than intended. This incident made me afraid of accidentally causing physical harm. I don't want to frighten my partners. I'm aware of my physical strength and generally feel I can control it, but this incident makes me question that. I'm not entirely sure what I'm seeking advice on, and this has been bothering me for years. As I mentioned, I tend to adapt to my partner's kinks, but I also have my own desires I'd like to explore. However, I seem to prioritize my partner's preferences over my own. I'm struggling to find a balance.

February 27

Kickabob, dominant guy here... Dude! I've the same problem. I even go vanilla at first, and increase the "kinkymeter" progressively. Even if you discuss on what you or she likes, it never sure that she ain't got traumatised by something and try to expelling it wrong with bdsm. If does make sens

February 27

It's all about communction! You need to discuss the boundaries and *** limits beforehand, even then, it can be daunting but don't be afraid to discuss your desires and preferences, its not a one way street just because we happen to be the Dom, we have just as many needs as the subs. Personally, I have a pretty good idea what the limits are with my partner before we start a session and if I didnt, I wouldn't start in the first place. Adapting to your partners needs all the time won't work either, all about give and take

February 27

Grow some balls and man up. I'm just fucking with you, kinda. Take charge. Be empathetic... But it seems like you already are. It's a balance. Follow your intuition and passion with the surety of a strong man. You won't please every woman every time. Some partners will be triggered in ways that are not your fault. It's ok. Maybe they just weren't the right match for you. Good luck and have fun.

February 27

You may discuss switching with your partner. From what is seems you are a pleasure dom leaning switch. This is something you have to discuss with your partner beforehand. Strength and *** and so on. Communication is key.

March 10

You should always have a safe word. That way if she wants harder, slowley increase until she says the safe word. Whenever it starts to hurt yoo much or either feel uncomfortable with whats going on, the safe word stops all.