For the submissives, how do you deal with the intensity of longing when alone ?

[so****]

Do you feel this intense longing to be ravished and used and a yearning to surrender ?

I discovered by submissive side just last weekend and since then I’ve been having such deep intense feelings of longing in my body and energy.

This desire to be fucked, taken, ravished, led to surrender and delight.

I’ve been trying to relax into it and just feel it all. It so fucking pleasureable. And almost trance like. Feels sacred and spiritual too I might add. It feels a bit better when I can surrender to the feeling and just share it with the world like a blessing.

As a man this is just really new for me.
My brain has been a complete mush for the past week. I could hardly get work done.

Does anyone have an idea what’s happening with these feelings ?
Do you also have them occasionally or all the time ?
Any tips on how to deal with them ?

[Mi****]

also a sub and daily we wish to be ravished blindfolded and fucked every day.... the best way i deal with it is by getting a few toys and practicing daily and always expecting company so to speak but learning to deepthroat just in case but the thing that helps the most is getting a thrusting toy it feels great to be ready for anything you desire but not too ready

[Bl****]

I’ve recently been getting pegged and I love it. Think about it everyday.

[th****]

I’m naturally submissive and have been for as long as I can remember. The feelings you have are 100% normal. I feel like this often. It’s the need to feel satisfied as a submissive and we don’t, feel whole or complete until that submissive hole is filled by what we crave, it’s like a hunger almost.

[Th****]

6 hours ago, softsubman said:

Do you feel this intense longing to be ravished and used and a yearning to surrender? 

Being "ravished" isn't inherently a submissive thing, it's more bottoming which can be done as a Dom, sub or with no D/s involved at all.

Submission is giving up authority, power and control which can look like many things depending on the people involved, their preferences and what's been negotiated. 

From what you've said it sounds like you might be experiencing some frenzy which is common for a lot of newer kinksters regardless of where they might be on the D/s spectrum. 

[so****]

20 minutes ago, ThaliaV said:

Being "ravished" isn't inherently a submissive thing, it's more bottoming which can be done as a Dom, sub or with no D/s involved at all.

Submission is giving up authority, power and control which can look like many things depending on the people involved, their preferences and what's been negotiated. 

From what you've said it sounds like you might be experiencing some frenzy which is common for a lot of newer kinksters regardless of where they might be on the D/s spectrum. 

Thanks for the explanation and awareness

[Th****]

9 minutes ago, softsubman said:

Thanks for the explanation and awareness

I'd suggest doing an internet search and read up some, from multiple sources, search things like "frenzy for new kinksters" or "frenzy new to BDSM" frenzy isn't exclusive to what's referred to as sub-frenzy. 

[so****]

2 minutes ago, ThaliaV said:

I'd suggest doing an internet search and read up some, from multiple sources, search things like "frenzy for new kinksters" or "frenzy new to BDSM" frenzy isn't exclusive to what's referred to as sub-frenzy. 

Yep. Thanks. Already doing this exact thing and I think it accurately describes what I’m going through. Thanks a lot.

[Th****]

4 minutes ago, softsubman said:

Yep. Thanks. Already doing this exact thing and I think it accurately describes what I’m going through. Thanks a lot.

You're very welcome 

[dominionhub]

How do I handle being alone?

Badly.

[ti****]

I just crave bratting off and being put in my place. No one has done it successfully yet.

[No****]

I think this would be hard for a man. Because men are mentally physical. Women are emotional so its easier for us because i only care when i am being emotionally stimulated or when someone is paying attention to me. Otherwiss i just move in and find other shit to do like gym or outdoors

[Sl****]

I have never had a real Domme but I can say it comes in waves for me. I getting super needy until I can't really handle it anymore or something bad happens in my search for a Domme and I shut down and quit only to start searching in earnest again in a few months or few years depending on how busy my life is at the moment.

TLDR Is I don't lol.

[lo****]

It sounds like prolonged subspace to me, it’s quite normal. Do u have an owner? Share this with them, they should be able to guide u

[so****]

8 minutes ago, loumee said:

It sounds like prolonged subspace to me, it’s quite normal. Do u have an owner? Share this with them, they should be able to guide u

Thanks for replying. No i don’t. I’m super new to this. I just discovered this side of me last weekend.

[lo****]

I’m sorry to hear that ur going through this with no one to care for u!

[dominionhub]

22 hours ago, Nonnahs said:

I think this would be hard for a man. Because men are mentally physical. Women are emotional so its easier for us because i only care when i am being emotionally stimulated or when someone is paying attention to me. Otherwiss i just move in and find other shit to do like gym or outdoors

It is also difficult because we are not allowed to be bothered by it.

It is more allowable to be alone, much less so to be troubled by it.