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Yea although for me it was more like a harem where there was one guy (Me) and there would like 5 different girls who all like me if that makes sense.😅But that’s the only reason and I done something similar to that but it was so chaotic so I said no more and that’s that.
Honestly, it would be great if there was less unicorn hunting because not all single women are interested in participating in that one
I myself am monogamous, but understanding the desire to share multiple aspects of your life with multiple people who all share an emotional bond can easily make the heights higher and the lows way easier, is not at all lost on me. Having a source for new ideas, perspectives, and even new emotional experiences can certainly be appealing.

I think that it's less "bucking the system" and more the natural progression of a VERY social species.
For me, my polyamory is not related to my kinkiness. I value deep connections in all my relationships. Sometimes that leads to romantic or sexual feelings between friends. In monogamous relationships I felt stifled by not being able to explore those dynamics with people. It caused my connections to be more shallow for *** of “catching feelings” for a friend. I much prefer the freedom and autonomy to explore how my relationships evolve naturally. For me, It also helps that I am divorced, with *** who are ***s. I don’t desire to “build a life” with someone. I spend time with friends and lovers and friends who become lovers, while maintaining my own independence. I believe that love is abundant and I have more than enough to give to multiple people.
The last piece you touched on… We need to examine a lot of decisions that were made for us centuries ago when the world didn’t resemble the world that we know today.
I like all your answers, but now, if I may, what about love? Do the couple vow not to fall in love with the third? Do they see this person together or solo? Do they both have a separate third person? What it the third falls in love with one or both people?
I have been monogamous for years after recently becoming single again I have decided poly or open is probly the best route as we will be able to explore all aspects we both love and want to try when the other partner is not into that particular thing. Have a regular primary partner and open poly works best to keep all happy
Kinks are like any another game... sometimes it's funner with other people involved. And.... some of those people enjoy small and limited groups, with rules and LOTS of communication. Those are the Ethical Non-Monogamous (I think?) ENM people you speak of.
  1 hour ago, Dottie2Hottie said:
I like all your answers, but now, if I may, what about love? Do the couple vow not to fall in love with the third? Do they see this person together or solo? Do they both have a separate third person? What it the third falls in love with one or both people?
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Love is the foundation of polyamory for me. I am solo poly, and do not have a nesting partner. I date all of my partners separately

The kink community and polyamory have more overlap than kink and monogamy. Also, Fet's users are fairly slanted towards polyamory, so if you're speaking of your experience here, then that could be a factor.
Definitely think there's an overlap given that both intend to stretch the social norms of relationships , whether simply the physical intimacy or the emotional a attachments
  1 hour ago, Dottie2Hottie said:
I like all your answers, but now, if I may, what about love? Do the couple vow not to fall in love with the third? Do they see this person together or solo? Do they both have a separate third person? What it the third falls in love with one or both people?
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Love isn't infinite. 🤷‍♂️

That's it. You have a new baby, you don't love your dad any less. Same with adding people via 'other' means. We gots lots of love to give.

I just sent a long comment here and now I don't see it ...

What I said in summary was people in kink and BDSM are often also into Polyamory (both Kitchen Table and Solo poly) and Swinging (both Couples and Singles).
Who wants to experience the same thing for the rest of their lives when then an entire ocean of different out there?
I've been polyamorous for some time now. As far as polyamory and kinks go, they don't always go hand in hand. For myself, it was about the things my wife wouldn't do that I yearned for. Didn't want to classify myself as an open relationship because I am one that needs an emotional and/or intellectual connection with someone for sex to have any meaning; same goes for kinks. Both are about trusting another partner. Open relationships to me are just about sex and no connection. ENM is just a blanket term that covers both open relationships and polyamory.
We are bucking against the norm as society is opening up more; i.e. gender classification, sexual preferences, etc.
Polyamorous people are often some of the strongest when it comes to working relationships. As with any relationship type, it's always going to come down to the individuals with their trust, communication, and openness about issues.
Tbh, personally being poly is more that I like to be deeply connected with multiple people, not even sexually
Yeah, everyone has their own opinion on everything. No one knows how to read a dictionary and understand what words really mean anymore. It’s why the 1% are so far ahead of everyone else and people get ***ed about it. Just educate yourself instead of making up your own rules.
We started because we have kids and its not easy getting out alone together. We started with MFM which lead to her wanting to go out for fun times but also wanted occasional sex with the other. That then lead to myself doing the same.

Now we alternate going out and living life. But we also cherish the time we do get together and are not replacing our relationship… just expanding it.
Polymary to Mr is intimacy it's more than just sex, I'm polyamorous I don't just do it for sex some do just use it for that but I use it to make lasting connections just like making best friends for life I don't like pointless one night stands or flings that hold no meaning, I want people to do life with!
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