Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 I want to be there for her but I can’t , I know she feels sad and I can’t make her happy .She needs someone to talk to but cannot face talking,I wish I could be there but she’s so far away.she makes me happy but sad she ain’t here,I here her voice but cannot talk to her .i Imagine her face but haven not seen her in a while , it hurts to know she’s hurting, but worse to know I can’t do anything about it . I miss her so much but she wants space , I want to message her but that’s just selfish , she’s amazing and wonderful and just makes my whole day but the thing I want the most is for her to be ok
Mo**** Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 Mate we have all at some time or other been in that exact same position. The thing is you have to suck up the hurt and give them that space. To do anything differently is not only selfish, but also arrogant and overbearing. Not traits that attract someone to you. They need to know that you have given them that space, and that you can be trusted for it to happen. Time will tell, and if you push, you run the risk of pushing her even further away, and permanently. The other thing about pushing, is you then place yourself in the category of stalker, something that never ends well, and is against the law.
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Mossyboy It’s just writing pal thanks for the advice but you went abit far , I’m not sure how you deal with things mate but what your saying is not me
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Infact mossyboy the fact you even thought that way scares me I don’t think your ok
Mo**** Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 (edited) 10 minutes ago, Rumble said: Infact mossyboy the fact you even thought that way scares me I don’t think your ok Mate what scares me, is that some men, can't give the woman the space they need. Now I am not saying YOU are one of them, what I am saying is that we, can often lose touch with what is happening in a relationship, and by our actions, it ends up making things worse. I was giving the extreme end result. What I wrote, was rather harsh, but it was more for you to think about, in order to work out your actions. As I said, some men lose touch with reality, and then they do all sorts of silly things. I have been where you are now, and it hurts, and it is frustrating. By the way, I really don't care if you think I'm OK or not. You posted a situation, and I commented. If your not prepared for replies to your post to be a bit contradictory, then perhaps you need to write things in a diary and not for public criticism. Edited April 3, 2020 by MossyBoy needed to add to my reply
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 why would you give a extreme end result from this piece of writing ? Why would you even think that in the first place ?
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 It was a nice piece of writing and you just made it dark pal I don’t like where you went with it ?
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Well that went from zero to stalker pretty quickly...😂😂😂
MidnightStarDust Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 I'd say ignore mossy because for one, yes it could be taken differently for different people and it depends on their mind frame, if it was stalkerish or creepy it would odf said "I want the most is for her to be OK with me" not just okay. 🙄 I saw nothing about stalking, but about giving people space no matter how close you want to be with them, whether it be a really good friend or partner, we can't give them everything they want in life or need, but we van give space to let them figure out what it is they want, or even someone who you've had a falling out with but still look ba k on the times together and miss it.
Wo**** Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 9 hours ago, Rumble said: I want to be there for her but I can’t , I know she feels sad and I can’t make her happy .She needs someone to talk to but cannot face talking,I wish I could be there but she’s so far away.she makes me happy but sad she ain’t here,I here her voice but cannot talk to her .i Imagine her face but haven not seen her in a while , it hurts to know she’s hurting, but worse to know I can’t do anything about it . I miss her so much but she wants space , I want to message her but that’s just selfish , she’s amazing and wonderful and just makes my whole day but the thing I want the most is for her to be ok She will be... so will you. I think it's a beautifully honest, tender, heartfelt piece of writing.
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 @LazyPiratesBounty and @DragonflyStar Thankyou
Wo**** Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 Hey @Rumble "Worse to know i can't do anything about it" You are doing something though. You're accepting there's nothing you can do. That matters x
Mo**** Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 3 hours ago, Rumble said: why would you give a extreme end result from this piece of writing ? Why would you even think that in the first place ? Well maybe I have looked at what you have written, and taken it as a scorned lover, and his desire and efforts to get back the 'love of his life'. I have seen too many women maimed and killed because of this mentality, by the supposed one who loves them the most. If I have taken it out of context, then for that I apologize, but if I haven't, then you should be able to see why I gave extreme end result. You would have seen these same sorts of things in the news in your community. I was looking at it from her point of being safe, not your point of missing her. By the way, I still don't care whether you like me or not, but if I have taken your writing out of context, then once again, apologies.
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 That's a really nice piece of work @Rumble. It inspires the reader to feel the emotion of the conflict between your own personal desires and the love of another and respecting their wishes. Thank you for posting it.
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 As a woman, I can’t see anything dark in this. @mossyboy was wrong to write what he did.
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Thankyou that’s what I thought I blocked him anyway. Means a lot
Wo**** Posted April 3, 2020 Posted April 3, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, MossyBoy said: Well maybe I have looked at what you have written, and taken it as a scorned lover, and his desire and efforts to get back the 'love of his life'. I have seen too many women maimed and killed because of this mentality, by the supposed one who loves them the most. If I have taken it out of context, then for that I apologize, but if I haven't, then you should be able to see why I gave extreme end result. You would have seen these same sorts of things in the news in your community. I was looking at it from her point of being safe, not your point of missing her. By the way, I still don't care whether you like me or not, but if I have taken your writing out of context, then once again, apologies. I don't see anything in that post that suggests her safety is at risk. Get back the love of his life? Huh? She needs space (that he's giving her) not leaving him. He doesn't need to get her back. He isn't a scorned lover! I've had an abusive partner and I see nothing but respect, consideration and love in Rumbles post. Edited April 3, 2020 by LazyPiratesBounty Added to
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Thankyou bounty but I’ve blocked him he has a weird way of thinking ! It has nothing to do with anything he has mentioned and besides if you look at his activity he comments on every girls picture in the timeline so I blocked him
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Mossyboy Nobody else in this chat has said the same things as you can you not see that it’s only you saying these dark things ? And not being funny but it’s quite sad what your doing you trying to Be dark on my writing when really if you look at your own activity you basically stalk people on here I was on the timeline and under nearly every new females photo you have commented with a creepy line ! Now this is getting boring . You might not have anything better to do but please just stop with your comments on here , the way you think is not good .
Deleted Member Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 And for your information you have taken it completely wrong and I won’t be listening to your opinions anymore so please just leave my page
Vandalslut Posted April 4, 2020 Posted April 4, 2020 (edited) Rumble, your piece sounded like such a genuine, deep outpouring and would inspire many, especially as so many couples must be apart at this time. Look forward to reading more from you. Blessings. Edited April 4, 2020 by Vandalslut
Deleted Member Posted April 4, 2020 Author Posted April 4, 2020 (edited) Thankyou vandalslut Edited April 4, 2020 by Deleted Member
So**** Posted April 4, 2020 Posted April 4, 2020 Very nice writing, I for one find it moving and it hits home, I love it I have been on both sides and it’s really hard to resist that urge when you care that much
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