Term Question.

[RosetheVillian]

What do you call an ethically polyamorus man who has a fetish for having sex with married women?

[Deleted Member]

A liar!!!

[Wo****]

If they have a fetish for married women then they're not ethically polyamorous. For it to work there has to be total honesty so every married woman's husband would have to know, and consent.

Edited April 11, 2020 by LazyPiratesBounty
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[RosetheVillian]

He does know and consent. That is why it is in fact ethical....

[Deleted Member]

A dead man ?

[Deleted Member]

Couple be a power thing over the unwittingly cuckold male of the married woman. Presuming the male doesnt know hes banging their wife ?

[Wo****]

10 minutes ago, RosetheVillian said:

He does know and consent. That is why it is in fact ethical....

I'm confused...

Ok, hang on.

Are you the married woman? (Forgive me if that's too personal)

Is it that you're involved with a polyamorous guy and your husband knows and consents, and the poly guy has a "thing" for married women? And you wanna know if that's a "thing?"

[ey****]

it kinda depends, and there might not be a term

firstly, I'd say it's ethically non-mono rather than ethically poly

If he's only having sex with this married woman and it's potentially only the once, then it's not really poly.

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Is there any specific reason why this guy fetishises married women and any caveats?  So, with the husband needing to know - is this a cuckold scenario?  In which case the guy may have fantasies of being a bull (which I have - but she doesn't have to be married) or is it just that the husband is also into non-mono so his wife having sex with someone else isn't an issue here nor there? In which case, there's probably not a term for it. 

[cautiousswitch]

The ethical part implies that everyone involved, including any husbands of the women, is OK with him sleeping with the women he is sleeping with.  If it is a cuckold situation as somebody suggested then the usual term is bull.  If the husband is incapable of sleeping with his wife so lets her seek another lover than surrogate is probably the best term.  If everyone involved is polyamorous then either swinger or swapper fits depending on the situation.    There may be some other dynamic that would be considered ethical, but those are all I can think of.

[Nikki_Hexy]

Dave... Probably.... Everyone knows a Dave

[Deleted Member]

Homewrecker

[Deleted Member]

A slut?

[Deleted Member]

I was chatting with a guy here a few months ago who had a fetish for affairs with married women. Not even slightly ethical. His energy felt like a wolf thing. We tried to figure out what he should call himself but weren't at all sure.