Natkinns Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 Hi, very new here... Trying to figure out if bdsm is something I'd like to try with my partner... How did you know it was something you'd like? How do you learn when there's so much information out there? Where do I start? Im so embarrassed to be asking these things but I've not been enjoying sex for a while now and the last time I can remember enjoying it was when it was rough and a little ***ful...
TheAlphaSub Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 Watch and different kinds of erotica and see what gets your engine started 😉
Cu**** Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 SO I am new to this as well, and on the advice of a mentor of mine, I started exploring this site, to see some of whats out there, read what some people say. I also found and took a bdsm test to identify my archetypes which was really enlightening for myself. https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode This gave me a starting point to analyze some things I might be interested in.
Deleted Member Posted April 21, 2020 Posted April 21, 2020 Maybe try a few beginner books to learn about dynamics and the foundation of bdsm, then think of the types of things that get you going what fantasies you have introduce simple easy to use things to the bedroom handcuffs tickle sticks a riding crop blindfold and ear muffs all very cheap things that can be purchased easily online all easy and safe things to use without causing damage, set safety words so you can tell your partner if his getting close to a limit or if you wish him to stop most use the traffic light system green go, yellow go with caution, red stop, talk to your partner make a senario together so your both comfortable in what's going to happen over time if they are the more dominant one allow them to take more and more controle leading up to him making a senario and you not knowing what's going to happen at all, things like butt plugs are a really fun and pretty thing to add to the collection that is of its something you like... There is no one size fits all there maybe things you try and don't like and that's completely fine you don't know until you try, you may try something and love it.. If you wish to go further with toys especially impact toys like floggers whips ect I would definitely read up on safe places to strike again any rope play read up on safe practices as you can cause damage if not preformed correctly
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