What I've learnt (learned?) from covid-19

[Deleted Member]

Are you pleased?

[Ky****]

9 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Are you pleased?

haven't arrived yet, stop trying to evade @MsWhiteRose's tasks lol, I'll get the blame-ouch

Edited April 24, 2020 by Kymi
thought of new thing to add

[Charms]

1 hour ago, lil-monster said:

Definitely!!!!!!!! 

Miss you gutted ty that we've had yo cancel seeing each other xxx

[Deleted Member]

14 minutes ago, Kymi said:

haven't arrived yet, stop trying to evade @MsWhiteRose's tasks lol, I'll get the blame-ouch

Dot you be fretting about @MsWhiteRose She doesn't frighten me, although I'm not sure if I should be.

[Phoenyx]

7 hours ago, Donnykinkster said:

After losing faith in the human race with the event of the last few weeks, it has shown me I may be wrong. Maybe we are not as selfish as I thought.

I believe that, after this is done, we will find the human race divided into two camps---those who were selfish, and those who were helpful.  This business has had a way of causing humans to show their true colors.  I suspect that, once this is over, we will know who everyone is.

[li****]

5 hours ago, Charms said:

Miss you gutted ty that we've had yo cancel seeing each other xxx

Miss you too 💜 me you and willow will have our girly weekend soon 🌈

[Vandalslut]

11 hours ago, lil-monster said:

It's unfortunate that it takes times like these to realise who your true friends are. I've realized only recently also that I can probably count my true friends on one hand. I've had to cut toxic friends out my life before it's hard but you have to do it for yourself and for me it was for own mental health as they were bringing me down further, this was before I found fetish and now I know who my true friends are I've found them all here.

Ringo Starr once said that he could count the number of his real friends on the fingers of one hand - and he felt that he had more real friends than most. Sometimes it DOES take times like these to realise the real friends that are true to you.  They're easy to spot - they're true to themselves as well. The toxics drop in and out of your life whenever they want something. The real ones are always present - not obvious, nor loud - but they are PRESENT. Time is far too valuable to waste on false, toxic people - the best thing you can do is make the cut quick. It's healthier for you AND for them. 

[ey****]

49 minutes ago, Vandalslut said:

Ringo Starr once said that he could count the number of his real friends on the fingers of one hand

I had a conversation with a Lady earlier this year that kinda made me cheer inside.  What she said to me "I am friendly, but I'm not your friend" - it might seem daft me cheering at someone telling me they weren't my friend - but it meant I knew exactly where I stood.   She continued, "I like you, else you wouldn't be here" - and, hey, that's enough.

Within this conversation I think she said she felt she had three friends and there's a lot of people might *think* they're her friend - but, when did they last ask her for a drink?  There'd be assorted personal questions a friend would know that they didn't.

And, I think sometimes people draw a line in where we call friends easier than others.

I think one of the important things within this is we might stake more into another person than they do in us.

[Vandalslut]

9 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

And, I think sometimes people draw a line in where we call friends easier than others.

Those who can draw a line and define the real meaning of friend are the people I prefer to know. I've found in the last few years that the definition of  'friend' - or 'mate' as we say here - has radically altered. 'Friend' is now defined a la FaceBook, Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram; I feel that these are more accurately described as 'acquaintance' but it'd a bit of a mouthful trying to say that you've 'unacquaintanced' So-and-So on FaceBook.  The usage of, and the importance placed on such social media in the last twenty years has contributed to a complete about-turn in self-value, thus giving rise to a scared, uncertain generation that can only value themselves by the yardstick of  'likes', 'reacts' etc and who panic if they're not constantly posting, uploading and commenting.  "Look where I've been! Here I am at XYZ night club!  And here's my dinner at ABC Restaurant, y'know, that real expensive one..." They aren't experiencing life. They're constantly busy-busy-busy so they don't have to think. That'd be scary for many. They have no idea how to value themselves and become, as Lilmonster says, toxic.

If Covid-19 offers the leisure and/or isolation necessary for life reassessment and realisation - real life - then some good will come out of it.

[Charms]

3 hours ago, lil-monster said:

Miss you too 💜 me you and willow will have our girly weekend soon 🌈

I can not wait. It's one of the things keeping me happy. Knowing i get to spend time with my to Queens

 

[Wo****]

Lockdown has taught me how much i love just being held, and loved, by Pirate.

Also made me realise that I wanna spend more time with my daughter and that my ex is actually a pretty good guy.