New to bdsm

[master83444]

Looking to dominate a female for the very first time an be her master but not sure where to start?

[ki****]

Start by talking about what you both want out of it. Take things slowly. Keep checking in. There are tons of great articles about relationship dynamics in the magazine. Hav a look! 

[MiaSubGay237]

Research is always a good step 1. What do you want out of the relationship? 2. What do you want from her in the relationship? 3. What are you willing to do for her? 

Once you've gotten a rough draft, look it up. Wanna hang women from the ceiling? Try Rigger. Want to be a pleasure dom? See "Pleasure dom" . Want a 24/7 dynamic? Look it up. 

Rule #1 for any form of play: CONSENT.

Only things that have been discussed and consented to prior to any scene are ok.

No asking during a scene when she's in subspace.

No asking without waiting for an answer.

No coercing a no to a yes.

Consent is either enthusiastically given or not. And it can be taken away at ANYTIME.

If you're one pump from finishing and she says, "stop". That's it. Stop. Better to have blue balls now than physically or psychologically harm someone.

 

I'm just a lesbian sub passing through. Hope you don't mind.  

[TheBookCollector]

Always remember she is a person first and a submissive second. In initial messages think about how.you would react if a female relative recieved a message like that from a stranger in a bar.

Try and find your local kink community, Birmingham has the BBB (birmingham bizar bazaar) market in the LGBT+ on a sunday in the middle of the month, i recommend going to it as besides a market there are also workshops on aspects of bdsm, and a play event after(extra cost).

If you go to the play event learn the rules, (1) always ask about house rules (2) Never invade another persons scene, be respectful, (3).do not touch other peoples equipment without permission (4) be mindful of space around a scene, especially if whips or rope are being used.