How do I tel my partner I’m a switch?

[Switchysam95]

I’ve had an off and on partner for some time now and she’s a sub, hands down. I’ve acted as her dom and we started our journey into the lifestyle together. As far as she knows I’ve been a dom this entire time but I’ve experimented online and talked to others and established in a switch. Our role together is starting to move more romantically and we want to live it in the lifestyle, however I want to be honest with her. I’m not sure she’ll be accepting of the truth or will help me explore my submissive side. We want to be mutually exclusive to each other and I don’t know what I can or should do. Does anyone have any advice?

[Pl****]

It sounds like you've been seeing each other for a while. It can be scary to have some conversations. However, you should have the ability to communicate openly with your partner, especially about your sexual preferences and how you would like to Explore/Experiment and do so with out judgment.
If she's not accepting then she might not be the right partner.

[Vandalslut]

Be truthful, always. Otherwise it will come out later and the damage will be exponential.

[Phoenyx]

@Switchysam95, does your partner ever show any dominant traits, either in play, or regular life?  These could be little, subtle things that are barely noticeable---from an aptitude for reading people, to skill at conversation, to the way that she carries herself in certain situations.  If you do spot any such traits, try to quietly encourage them.  Get them to grow, to the point that she starts to take interest in dominance.  The rest should be easy.  Good luck.

[Mo****]

Plain and simple, this life is based on honesty and open communication!  So that being the case, simply tell her.  If she doesn't want to share her kink life with a different type/role person, then she will tell you.  If this is the case, then you will both hurt a little, but not as much as you both will if the situation is allowed to progress and then die because your not totally happy with your pretense.  She may change her ideas as well.  She might look at it as a way of letting her dominance out, or perhaps, allow you to have a second partner where you can switch, but remain dominant with her.  Unless you talk, you will never know.

[rossco-4359]

Have to agree with others here honesty & openness is the key, if you explain it calmly I’m sure that she won’t be upset & her having experienced being submissive will hopefully be keen to share your kinks. People do take time to come around so patients is important here also. But it would seem you like this girl because your nervous of messing up your current dynamic, but speaking to her about how you feel may make your future even more exciting for you both

[ey****]

Be truthful

If there is no opportunity to play outside the relationship then you have to ask what is more important

- this relationship

- that you may wish to occasionally be sub to somebody

[Deleted Member]

I can understand your concern, but perhaps both of you have already perceived that BDSM for most people is a journey. Few people I have encountered have the same kinks now as when they first entered the scene. Roles change. Perhaps it might help to see it that way?
Also, I agree with eyem (often!) that you could give some thought to exclusivity. If you wish to sub, it need not be sexual. The two of you can work out whatever flavour of relationship works for you. Good luck!

[Spartan227]

Roles change. People change. Resentment lives on forever. You are in a tough spot. Resentment will eat away at your relationship. Verbalize your needs, ask for her help and understanding.