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1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I think if you're 'nice' and get ignored - then - your niceness can help you understand what else might have gone through someones inbox or that they just weren't interested and don't actually need to reply

It's a shame but you can think "Well, I respect that - and someone else will have my niceness instead"

We all get rejected. I have reached out to a number of men on here who didn’t reply. Or said they weren’t interested. Nobody is everybody’s cup of tea.

SparkySparks
Posted
7 hours ago, TJ_Pup said:

Hi SL*T, most recent and must be my favourite tbh 😂 

I've gotten a few "Hello slut" and "Hello slave" which has always been a scammer. 

Still a bit annoying. I'm no slut, I'm a classy bitch! 

Posted
1 hour ago, SparkySparks said:

I've gotten a few "Hello slut" and "Hello slave" which has always been a scammer. 

Still a bit annoying. I'm no slut, I'm a classy bitch! 

Your gender, dynamic, anything doesn't matter here - any message from a stranger that begins "Hello slut" or "Hello slave" is never worth responding to

SparkySparks
Posted
16 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Your gender, dynamic, anything doesn't matter here - any message from a stranger that begins "Hello slut" or "Hello slave" is never worth responding to

Took me a while to learn that, but I agree.

Posted
9 hours ago, Curvykate said:

Classy!! FFS!

They really are 😂. So original 😂 x

Posted
2 hours ago, SparkySparks said:

I've gotten a few "Hello slut" and "Hello slave" which has always been a scammer. 

Still a bit annoying. I'm no slut, I'm a classy bitch! 

Mmhhmmm I feel ya gf 🖐️ 😂 x

Posted

"Hello, would you be interested in letting an older man expertly lick you to orgasm?" He was 54, I was 19, his screen name was shades of gray 54. And it was on ok cupid. I very politely rejected, he responded about how he would be glad to help and that he's had several young women eager to take him up already. Yeah im sure on a dating site a dude hitting up barely legal gals about sex was drowning in it

Posted
7 hours ago, Bluebella said:

"Hello, would you be interested in letting an older man expertly lick you to orgasm?" He was 54, I was 19, his screen name was shades of gray 54. And it was on ok cupid. I very politely rejected, he responded about how he would be glad to help and that he's had several young women eager to take him up already. Yeah im sure on a dating site a dude hitting up barely legal gals about sex was drowning in it

Urgh! 🙈 Ah yes the old “doing you a favour” routine 🙄

Posted

Frankly I stopped even opening or reading PMs when all I got were messages that were revolting or worse. If they couldn’t take the time to read my profile before messaging me why would I take the time to respond? Looking through the list at some of the senders I recognized a few names that were what I’d now term as good people though I did not know it at the time. I ultimately ended up increasing my word count to a small essay and have changed my status to in a D/s relationship with the name of my Dom. Ultimately I wasn’t trying to be rude but simply taking care of myself.

Posted
On 6/22/2020 at 1:42 AM, SparkySparks said:

Yeah not just dating sites either. I noticed I make a lot more "friends" when I play an mmo if I play a female character. Eventually they always ask if I'm really a girl. Not complaining, they can distract the enemies while I use ranged attacks. Teehee, omg, you are so good at this game. 

So much this, I remember one guy who kept sending me stuff in-game then got his knickers in a twist when I sent it back - it's like mate, I'm here to kill stuff same as you, chill.

Posted
On 6/22/2020 at 8:59 AM, Curvykate said:

Not sure who did inspire your profile pic but it’s very nice! I despair at someone who sends their phone number expecting you to share yours not to mention the rest of it. On my other profile I had clearly written NOT SEEKING PLAY PARTNERS. Much good it did me. I’m glad you get some good messages too. I do (just not this week 🙈)

That would have been your good self :D And, yeah, basic comprehension skills do seem to be a challenge for the types who send this stuff, here's hoping the ratio of woeful to classy imporoves for us all!

SparkySparks
Posted
13 hours ago, Whizzer1000 said:

So much this, I remember one guy who kept sending me stuff in-game then got his knickers in a twist when I sent it back - it's like mate, I'm here to kill stuff same as you, chill.

As a guy (at least I think) who was once young, I kind of get it. It's like we are moths flying towards a glowing bug zapper. There is no thought, just an instinct to try to make an impression. 

That is, assuming he was a kid.

Posted
On 6/24/2020 at 7:10 PM, SparkySparks said:

As a guy (at least I think) who was once young, I kind of get it. It's like we are moths flying towards a glowing bug zapper. There is no thought, just an instinct to try to make an impression. 

That is, assuming he was a kid.

I do mostly get it, but us lady gamers aren't unicorrns, especially these days, the sending and stuff was fine, it was his reaction when he was rejected that stuck out. No idea on his age or anything, only thing I could tell with 100% accuracy was he was a Tauren Druid who did good dps :D

SparkySparks
Posted (edited)
10 hours ago, Whizzer1000 said:

I do mostly get it, but us lady gamers aren't unicorrns, especially these days, the sending and stuff was fine, it was his reaction when he was rejected that stuck out. No idea on his age or anything, only thing I could tell with 100% accuracy was he was a Tauren Druid who did good dps :D

I don't think it is the fact that you are a girl gamer, I think it is the fact that you are a girl they can actually talk to. I know when I was young I was way too shy to talk to girls in rl (actually that is still the case) but online was so much easier. 

I also had plenty of my own "girls only like asshole guys!" rants that I'm not proud of. I think it is a natural thing males have to grow out of by realizing that relationships are not a personality competition. Now we have so many guys not growing out of that phase that we even have a special term for them, so that's probably a bad sign.

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  • 3 weeks later...
Posted

You know how some say that lets move on to other platforms and then they give you the numbers or email address to show their sincerity? 

I always reply with:" No need to get so serious. Lets get to know each other gradually so that we can build a good relationship. " 

Its always fun to see what they come up with to counter this😂😂

Posted

A recent introductory to my profile goes,

"Hey sexy, I wanna cum all over you. "

Posted
On 7/16/2020 at 6:54 AM, Wiz said:

You know how some say that lets move on to other platforms and then they give you the numbers or email address to show their sincerity? 

I always reply with:" No need to get so serious. Lets get to know each other gradually so that we can build a good relationship. " 

Its always fun to see what they come up with to counter this😂😂

Yes this! And then some try to coax you into doing it by over-complimenting you. Stuff like “you seem like such a lovely person, I’d really like to get to know you more but I hardly come on here” and similar. For me, these types are the most dangerous because they look deceptively nice and I could see many people falling for it. Rather than the blatant crudeness, it’s the sneak attack. Don’t fall for it! 

Posted
On 6/23/2020 at 3:02 AM, Curvykate said:

Urgh! 🙈 Ah yes the old “doing you a favour” routine 🙄

Right? So gracious of them to do me the favor of using me to fulfill their sexual pleasure. 🙄It’s such a turn off. Oh you’re doing me a favor? Then as a favor, I’d love for you to go away and never come back. 😂

  • 2 months later...
Ms_Multifaceted
Posted
On 6/21/2020 at 7:45 PM, SparkySparks said:

Always the sign of a good sub when they are annoyed that you won't follow their orders. 

 

I use that same strategy at job interviews, yelling at the guy for being late and demanding that he hire me before I get him fired. 

Hahaha, amazing. Exactly! 🖤

Posted

I had a message a couple of weeks ago without a hello. Because I said “and hello to you to” I got told to stop the chit chat and answer the masters questions. I then said goodbye and got called a fake ass hoe and an ugly bastard. The best thing about it is, he didn’t even see a picture of me 😂😂

Posted
9 minutes ago, SubR said:

I had a message a couple of weeks ago without a hello. Because I said “and hello to you to” I got told to stop the chit chat and answer the masters questions. I then said goodbye and got called a fake ass hoe and an ugly bastard. The best thing about it is, he didn’t even see a picture of me 😂😂

You should actually copy and paste some of them... They're gold 🤣

Posted

I have no problem with sexual messages or dirty occasional ones - my photos many times are with sexy and sex denotation - and a bit chatt about my preferences, but if the conversation keeps only in this and i see the boy (men, youngers males, mature males: i called them BOY. Not offensive, please. Its caring way to treat only) dont have more to offer i simply ignore. I try to get the firsts messages with a levity and no serious. Some guys are very good humour and i let them to watch my secret gallery, but i dont participe of their enjoy of me moments lol. This site (and many others)its like in real life: there are people on Earth only to walk around, loosing the amazing and hard journey the life is. 

 

  • 3 weeks later...
Posted
On 6/21/2020 at 7:39 PM, TemptressM said:

It's getting really bad actually, but if you notice most of these are deleted members once there vip runs out or even sooner,  I even had a sub call me lazy and block me when I said no thanks to reading his profile after a first dreadful message asking to be my sub. 

There are good ones around its just going through all the filth first. 

I have always taken the respectful approach myself, but it doesn't seem to matter how polite I am, and how many profiles I read and messages I send, responses are far and few between. And genuine people even rarer! 

Rather than resort to the kind of crass messages cited above I just don't bother anymore. If it happens, it happens. 🤷‍♂️

  • 1 month later...
Posted

This was one of the first posts I read on the forum after I joined. The sharks were circling and the feeding frenzy had begun and I wanted to know how other people dealt with it.

It was really helpful. I very quickly learned to be assertive (because, obviously, that was why I joined this site 🙄), bopped a few sharks on the nose when they got too bitey and settled in.

I appreciate people need to find out if their kinks match the kinks of the person they’re talking to. Why waste time talking to somebody you don’t match with, right?

And maybe there are subs happy to be told, within two minutes of the start of a conversation, that the person they’re talking to wants to be licking their cum-soaked fingers at a restaurant table. It takes all sorts, right? 

Personally, I don’t want it shoved down my throat without a by-your-leave before I know anything about someone. Most people wouldn’t do that in person, and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect the same respect in writing.  

The people on here (ok, the person 😂) who have sent my senses reeling are the ones who have approached me softly, teasing with subtlety, sensuality and finesse, and who have built up to more explicit conversation over time, not the ones who‘ve verbally had their cocks in my throat in the first two paragraphs. 

I uploaded a new photo this morning, hence my returning to rant. 

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