Help figuring out my kink

[DesireExploration]

For a long time now I have had fantasies about being dominated (I think its the correct term) by men and women, at the same time, one at a time, and as a boyfriend/husband watches a female dominate me.  These situations would happen at the same time, but are all strong desires of mine.  I don't know how to define it, or if submissive is even the right term.  I just know that the idea or being seduced, tied, teased, and fucked while I have no control is incredibly arousing.  I like a bit of spaking , nipple clamps, etx., but no major *** (I don't think).  The idea of being "told" but not physically ***d to perform some sex act whether on a man or women is very exciting.  I'm not sure how to explore this or even what this is, and I'm hoping for some guidance.  I have no problems answering questions to further figure this out.  But if anyone has anything to offer I'd really appreciate it.  

[Li****]

Well, why do you need to define your kinks? You can keep it way more general by saying you feel like being submissive. Also fantasies might turn out different in reality afterwards. What you'd rather call it is preferences. What you'd like to try in particular. Best advice is to start small. And if you found a suitable partner keep talking! Talk about every little thing in your mind. Build trust and devotion to your partner and preferences (kinks). Try stuff and talk again... see what you liked and what you didn't. Without any practical experience you can't define your kinks.. just your fantasies.

[Deleted Member]

You are definitely Submissive, and you definitely like being dominated, but both terms are the most basic and broad of any within BDSM. I recommend you look at the forums, read the stories, check out other people's questions, have a think about what others have said.
That is a good place to start.

Good luck.