New sub want to know information

[Deleted Member]

So I met a mistress on here, I am very new to all this and I keep trying to ask questions but im.not getting answers. Can someone tell me if its "normal" or part of program to have to pay a registration fee to a mistress and then have to pay ANOTHER registration fee to a BDSM council!! PLEASE HELP!!

[Deleted Member]

Never heard of either of those payments

[ey****]

No. Not at all.  You're being had.

There's stuff that is common especially in professional circles - but pretty much no, this doesn't fit any logical pattern

[Roverman11614]

Every mistress I found wants *** first, I find it interesting that neither the bdsm council doesn’t have a web site or anything. I will only pay if I am face to face with a person. Nor will I send *** to some unknown e mail address.

[bathguy]

My advice would be to report that person as a scammer to the mods, as they no doubt are. But then they will unfortunately reappear under a different name with some other stolen photos of a another good looking woman. This site unfortunately appears to attract a large number of scammers, report them and get them blocked, but keep chatting, find genuine people and make some friends. Good luck.

[bi****]

Dude, there are a lot of scammers here. They tend to ask the same old crap, "hit me up on hangouts" "send me your hangouts so I can show u my rules" etc. Its probably the same kid doing all these profiles. NEVER hand over *** unless you've met someone in person, or they are openly up front saying they do online dominantion for ***. Even then, you might as well just go to a pro.

[Drewxs]

i’m a Dom and sometimes a sub wants her train fair which is fair enough, but only when they get here otherwise it’s a scam. There is a class of Dommes who will financially dominate subs (findoms) If anyone else asks for *** before you meet it’s a scam

[Deleted Member]

Hey, Drew, don't send any *** to anyone on here, they will be fake. Meet them first in real life. Make sure their gender matches their profile...

[Drewxs]

my best advice to you as a newbie is to seek out your local munch (after lockdown) and find a mentor.
chill out, have fun, be honest.

[Drewxs]

5 minutes ago, Mavman said:

Hey, Drew, don't send any *** to anyone on here, they will be fake. Meet them first in real life. Make sure their gender matches their profile...

I know, was giving advise

[Dreamaway]

How is it so many of us have the same totally negative experience of these pathetic people looking for a cheap buck but we're unable to keep them out of what should be a great site for the genuine members. I know the mods are busy etc but paying for a premium membership to be harassed by these idiots..it's getting boring catching them out and reporting them.

[Dreamaway]

Sorry Dml, not my intention to give you a warn off from this site but as all the previous guys have stated, be careful, if it's too good ...etc etc

[Cd****]

Its a con dont send anything to them . They probably told you its for toys that they will use when you meet and the chance off that happening are probably zero

[Ko****]

I made similar experience on other dating sites, their names shall not been mentioned. I met a lady who also blogs and asked her questions. I also started to read in forums and gathered information around BDSM. That helped me to understand. I also work in mental health and I am used to lies and BS . Listen to your gut feeling and you are calling the shots, always.

[Ko****]

And never ever give credit card details. I also made the mistake to buy Amazon gift cards in the past.

[Ko****]

And never ever give credit card details. I also made the mistake to buy Amazon gift cards in the past.

[Deleted Member]

Thanks for all the advice!! I will know for next time
She got me for *** and gift cards but when the "council" wanted another 300 i said no way and stoped

[Dreamaway]

I'm really sorry to hear that...does she/he have a name just so we can keep an eye out

[Ko****]

Sorry to hear that too. 300 is a lot to waste.

[Ma****]

4 hours ago, dml1972 said:

So I met a mistress on here, I am very new to all this and I keep trying to ask questions but im.not getting answers. Can someone tell me if its "normal" or part of program to have to pay a registration fee to a mistress and then have to pay ANOTHER registration fee to a BDSM council!! PLEASE HELP!!

Don't pay, I've come across this, they ask you to buy things from a certain site, or send *** to a site, and once you do they have your details, if they won't chat and let you to get to know them, trust is needed, how do you get that if you can't ask questions.

[Frizz]

Another scammer most are

[Deleted Member]

It's a scam. Most of the so called Mistresses on here and other sites are either scammer or blokes. If they ask for *** or gift cards tell them to fuck themselves with a rusty cheese grater 😊

[ey****]

At the minute - a few of the platforms are having influxes of scammers - here, fetlife, instagram, twitter, so on so forth

while a lot used to work from bots - now it's a lot of cases of humans who are buying and selling different "how to scam people" packages.   I know the sites are doing what they can to try to slow or halt this.

A lot of the tactics seem to also be around doing things that *are* common with Pro Dommes and/or seem fair

So, I know someone got scammed buying a "training pack" from a fake shop - and thinking "hey, if this doesn't work out at least I'll have a collar and a butt plug and whatever else is in this pack" - but the scam is the shop isn't real - the items won't arrive - and you're then faced with having to tell the bank your butt plug didn't arrive to get a refund.  Something many find embarassing.

Same with the lady who is happy to meet "you just book the dungeon" but, again, the place she points to just doesn't exist. Again explaining to a bank that the fetish dungeon you booked was an empty flat above a chip shop that is just being used as a store room... yeah

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But, at the same time.   I *have* booked a dungeon in order to meet someone for play that went ahead.   I have purchased items as instructed that turned up and were the right/fair price.  I have paid a deposit, or paid tribute for someone who was exactly who she said she is.  But, I've also the advantage of experience.  My point here is that these are all things that can happen.

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So.  If someone contacts you out of the blue and immediately wants a relationship with you... this is going to be a scam.   Even if *** isn't first discussed - this isn't how people work.

If they approach with a genuine "getting to know you" kinda conversation it might be legit - people tend to want connections and scammers just tend to want paid as quickly as possible

If *** comes up and this is a surprise; a nice thing to do is to just politely decline and say that's not what you're looking for. Just on the off chance it's not a scammer but a real person who got it wrong.

[Kriss123]

They usually take you away from the fetish app ..I always take them to my google hangouts messenger..as soon as we make contact I hit the
telephone symbol in top right hand corner..hit the stop button..msg them why are they ringing me..Doesn't matter what they reply because straight I start ringing them again...

[Drewxs]

8 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

At the minute - a few of the platforms are having influxes of scammers - here, fetlife, instagram, twitter, so on so forth

while a lot used to work from bots - now it's a lot of cases of humans who are buying and selling different "how to scam people" packages.   I know the sites are doing what they can to try to slow or halt this.

A lot of the tactics seem to also be around doing things that *are* common with Pro Dommes and/or seem fair

So, I know someone got scammed buying a "training pack" from a fake shop - and thinking "hey, if this doesn't work out at least I'll have a collar and a butt plug and whatever else is in this pack" - but the scam is the shop isn't real - the items won't arrive - and you're then faced with having to tell the bank your butt plug didn't arrive to get a refund.  Something many find embarassing.

Same with the lady who is happy to meet "you just book the dungeon" but, again, the place she points to just doesn't exist. Again explaining to a bank that the fetish dungeon you booked was an empty flat above a chip shop that is just being used as a store room... yeah

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But, at the same time.   I *have* booked a dungeon in order to meet someone for play that went ahead.   I have purchased items as instructed that turned up and were the right/fair price.  I have paid a deposit, or paid tribute for someone who was exactly who she said she is.  But, I've also the advantage of experience.  My point here is that these are all things that can happen.

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So.  If someone contacts you out of the blue and immediately wants a relationship with you... this is going to be a scam.   Even if *** isn't first discussed - this isn't how people work.

If they approach with a genuine "getting to know you" kinda conversation it might be legit - people tend to want connections and scammers just tend to want paid as quickly as possible

If *** comes up and this is a surprise; a nice thing to do is to just politely decline and say that's not what you're looking for. Just on the off chance it's not a scammer but a real person who got it wrong.

i always use paypal to buy anything off the net that way if it goes tits up i have a fighting chance of getting my *** back (and i have)