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[Carnelian2]

It sounds suspicious .. I have on occasion asked them to prove their authenticity and even had a bloke pretending to be an American woman living in Canterbury but coming from some remote town in New York State ... needless to say that the conversation petered out quite quickly to my amusement

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Drewxs said:

i always use paypal to buy anything off the net that way if it goes tits up i have a fighting chance of getting my *** back (and i have)

PayPal you do have to be a little careful with.  They generally won't deal with adult industry payments - and while some people accept it either through naivety or under the table - it still remains.

So, if you start disputing payments that's like "Oh, I paid someone a tribute for play but they then ghosted me" whilst it would get your *** back and their profile shut down - it may also get your profile shut down if it's believed you've been using it for payments outside the TOU.

[Leisa]

You should not be getting asked to pay *** to someone on here, especially someone you’ve just met, have not established a relationship with, won’t return messages, and a host of other red flags.

[Drewxs]

14 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

PayPal you do have to be a little careful with.  They generally won't deal with adult industry payments - and while some people accept it either through naivety or under the table - it still remains.

So, if you start disputing payments that's like "Oh, I paid someone a tribute for play but they then ghosted me" whilst it would get your *** back and their profile shut down - it may also get your profile shut down if it's believed you've been using it for payments outside the TOU.

       yes your right, however i'd be prepared to write off a tribute before i made it anyway, weigh up the odds a bit

 

[Deleted Member]

Saturday at 07:41 PM, Drewxs said:

my best advice to you as a newbie is to seek out your local munch (after lockdown) and find a mentor.
chill out, have fun, be honest.

I keep seeing that term floating around here, what is a "munch"??

[Wo****]

20 minutes ago, dml1972 said:

I keep seeing that term floating around here, what is a "munch"??

A social meet for kinksters, often in a "vanilla" setting like a pub. A casual kind of get together rather than going somewhere to play (or where play is happening)

[Deleted Member]

Just now, LazyPiratesBounty said:

A social meet for kinksters, often in a "vanilla" setting like a pub. A casual kind of get together rather than going somewhere to play (or where play is happening)

I asked Eyem about this and it means meeting and lunch=munch. Makes sense and so obvious really

[Deleted Member]

Obviously with all this stuff going around it's not going on right now but how would u find out about these meetings??

[Wo****]

6 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

I asked Eyem about this and it means meeting and lunch=munch. Makes sense and so obvious really

Oh!!!! It is, isn't it? Brilliant!

 

4 minutes ago, dml1972 said:

Obviously with all this stuff going around it's not going on right now but how would u find out about these meetings??

Good old Google. They're advertised on here too x

[Deleted Member]

Just now, LazyPiratesBounty said:

Oh!!!! It is, isn't it? Brilliant!

 

Good old Google. They're advertised on here too x

I know lol, when he told me I felt a little thick as it's soooooo obvious ha ha 

[rossco-4359]

It’s a con ! Pretty much every dominant female advertising on here is a con, I’ve only found one person on here that hasn’t asked for *** in the first 24 hours of communication. This isn’t the place to find Domme women

[Deleted Member]

49 minutes ago, Rossco said:

It’s a con ! Pretty much every dominant female advertising on here is a con, I’ve only found one person on here that hasn’t asked for *** in the first 24 hours of communication. This isn’t the place to find Domme women

You have to my knowledge(which isn't the best) 3 types

Findomme=***

Proffesional Domme=***

Lifestyle Dommes. I would assume you seek this type and I can assure you they do exist although sometimes difficult to track down. It takes patience and 24 hours is not that. I also seek a Domme but for different reasons. What I've found is most of the lifestyle Dommes are usually but not always switches.

 

[ey****]

I've said this a few times, but....

A very good friend of mine who is a Domme was on this site for a bit and had to leave because of the awful messages she got from men.  She now has a boyfriend who she met via the local munches/community (ironically, through me) and this is also someone I've filmed with a few times.

Another Lady who used to be on this site who left because of the awful messages she got from men (gosh, pattern...) I spoke to a few times as a friend and I've been a bit worried as we've not spoke since she had to cancel meeting me in March (nothing major, I was in the area and literally gonna have a coffee or cocktail) but I know she is genuine.   I know she also had started to be active in her local community before covid hit.

There is a Domme on here I still hope to meet the other side of covid - though she's not been online for a little bit, which is a shame. I can guess why (though, it's not awful messages from men, this time!)

and there's at least another 3-4 current ladies on the site I know are 'genuine' Dommes and another 3-4 who've since left.

Obviously, err... 10-12, isn't very many - but these are ones that I know of via the forums and via my very very limited use of chat.  

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I always maintain my recommendation of mixing up online with local events (munches, parties, etc.) although everything is largely on hold at the minute and the most recent UK government announcement does rather little to help things start again (that and the big question of "how safe is it?")