Rude Messages To Fellow Kinksters

[Deleted Member]

1 minute ago, AnimeBlonde said:

Dick pics now, I always say is that it where the rest of it? Or is it the angle making it look that tiny 😉

Must remember this one for future offenders

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Edited July 13, 2020 by Deleted Member
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[Deleted Member]

33 minutes ago, MuffSparkle said:

Must remember this one for future offenders

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Or ask them if they're feeling shy or cold 😂

[Deleted Member]

24 minutes ago, AnimeBlonde said:

Or ask them if they're feeling shy or cold 😂

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[Deleted Member]

28 minutes ago, AnimeBlonde said:

Or ask them if they're feeling shy or cold 😂

I was gonna send you a whole collection of dick pics, don't think I will bother now, my ego just couldn't take it 😂😂

[Tig82]

7 hours ago, MuffSparkle said:

    There are some very rude people on here I recently had one young fella (I would say gentleman but gentleman he was not) ask me what I was here for. I politely said as I have many times before, "if you had fully read my profile you would already know that information". He replied with a very insulting message, called me boring then blocked me.       I mean I was devastated, totally crushed, I wanted the pleasure of blocking him but hey ho, you win some you lose some. The point is, and I have said this before on numerous occasions, people don't read peoples profiles, or don't read them fully.

     I've been asked to be someones Mummy/care giver. I have been asked to be someones Domme and then been slated for not wishing to change my role.  I have been called stuck up for not wanting to add someone as a friend so they can see my secret gallery.

     I have been called boring for not wanting to send pictures after receiving a message long enough to pass my message filter along with a dick pic, which is an instant block anyway but jesus, have a bit of decorum. It's not a cattlemart, we aren't meat. If a guy approached a woman in the street/pub/club and lobbed his dick out he would be arrested.   

     It may be a fetish site for kinksters, it may also have the option to place a personal ad with the hope of finding a date/soulmate but we are not all here for that. I know I'm not but I get questioned why I am on here. Read my profile! It's all there as to why I am here. Friendship, with like minded people.

Get them in all walks of life, always puzzles me they message a lady who likes intelligent gents and show themselves as illiterate bone heads ahem (well they think with their ahem apendage so bone head seems an apt name). Never had your problem but might be something to do with my gender but I've had a fair few fake dommes who can't read, but can work a amazon gift card account 😂

[helenOfToy]

3 hours ago, Donnykinkster said:

Not good is it? Ffs, this happens all the time. I was chatting to a new member a couple of days ago and she sent me some screenshots along a similar vein. Rejection was met with spite so I reported him expecting a lifetime ban yet he's still active. That is the problem for me, stricter rules are needed and needed soon, that are en***d with zero tolerance or as you say those who understand what "nice" is will be driven away.

That would be incredibly sad. 

It's the community that makes this site what it is.

[Deleted Member]

1 minute ago, Paul_aka_Helen said:

That would be incredibly sad. 

It's the community that makes this site what it is.

It surprised me that he's still around as the messages which I still have were pretty vile, as another member has said in time it will drive the decent folk away which is sad. I'm starting to think the management as it were need to lock horns and make some changes. It's becoming a plague and its needs action 😊

[helenOfToy]

12 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

It surprised me that he's still around as the messages which I still have were pretty vile, as another member has said in time it will drive the decent folk away which is sad. I'm starting to think the management as it were need to lock horns and make some changes. It's becoming a plague and its needs action 😊

Perhaps that should be a suggested topic for a quarantine munch.

That would certainly get some attention and highlight how much it is starting to upset people.

[Deleted Member]

Just now, Paul_aka_Helen said:

Perhaps that should be a suggested topic for a quarantine munch.

That would certainly get some attention and highlight how much it is starting to upset people.

I was thinking the same thing. It's a subject that really needs sorting as it's infecting the place. There are many it would seem not happy at all 😊

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, Donnykinkster said:

I was gonna send you a whole collection of dick pics, don't think I will bother now, my ego just couldn't take it 😂😂

😝 boooooo I would of come up with something new just for you 😉😆

[PixieDust]

47 minutes ago, Paul_aka_Helen said:

Perhaps that should be a suggested topic for a quarantine munch.

Great minds @Paul_aka_Helen ...... @lil-monster and I have been discussing similar ideas and will try and line a munch up in the not to distant future. 

Ps.  If anyone would like to host or co-host please let us know

Edited July 13, 2020 by PixieDust
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[li****]

3 minutes ago, PixieDust said:

Great minds @Paul_aka_Helen ...... @lil-monster and I have been discussing similar ideas and will try and line a munch up in the not to distant future. 

Ps.  If anyone would like to host or co-host please let us know

Yes please if anyone wants to host this which I think needs addressing then please hit me or @PixieDust up!!!!

[Jinxy]

16 hours ago, TemptressM said:

It's not just submissives, its any female,  they believe that because we are on a kink site that we all must be sex starved.  Ive taken a bit of time away because I was getting annoyed with all the rude messages. Not really sure what the answer is to be honest with you. 

I’m getting to the same place of possibly needing time away. Yes, I can find the humor and deal with the messages. But, after a point, the constant flow of people wanting nothing from you except viewing you as an object for their pleasure gets draining. I don’t come on here to feel like I have no value beyond my kinks or my role. I have enough stress in my own life, I don’t need to constantly battle it on here as well. 
 

Something interesting that happened while I was writing this was the thought... am I inviting this? Do I need to change something in my profile to not get this response? Then I realized that’s hogwash. But it does get into the point of... the people receiving these responses can start to question themselves. 

[helenOfToy]

4 minutes ago, lil-monster said:

Yes please if anyone wants to host this which I think needs addressing then please hit me or @PixieDust up!!!!

Don't look at me, I'm shy

[PixieDust]

Just now, Paul_aka_Helen said:

Don't look at me, I'm shy

Its ok we don't want to *** anyone to host and  if we cant find anyone @lil-monsterand i will host we just dont want you guys to get sick of us and would love some other community members to host, as the munches are for the community. Both of us are happy to be a wingman if needed. 

[li****]

9 minutes ago, PixieDust said:

Its ok we don't want to *** anyone to host and  if we cant find anyone @lil-monsterand i will host we just dont want you guys to get sick of us and would love some other community members to host, as the munches are for the community. Both of us are happy to be a wingman if needed. 

Pixie said exactly what I was gonna say 👯 we don't want to *** people at all but if anyone has been reading this thread and wants to host or co-host then give me and or @PixieDust a shout!!! We would seriously love members of the community to come forward and host ❤️

Edited July 13, 2020 by lil-monster

[Wo****]

1 hour ago, PixieDust said:

Great minds @Paul_aka_Helen ...... @lil-monster and I have been discussing similar ideas and will try and line a munch up in the not to distant future. 

Ps.  If anyone would like to host or co-host please let us know

I'll help x

[li****]

2 hours ago, Bounty said:

I'll help x

Thank you bounty, I'm sure pixie will read this when she's awake so I make sure to chat to pixie tomorrow and get back to you xxx

[Phoenyx]

Of late, I have been wondering why this list seemed on the verge of dying.  The energy was gone; the enthusiasm lost.  New members have come, and departed just as quickly.  Many, only remain for a couple/few hours.  And, quite a few of the regulars have all-but-disappeared.  Now, I know why.

I read with great interest, Pixie's thread on respect.  However, this discussion on "rudeness", has truly shown just how deep the problem has become.  Personally, I have never had to deal with worse than cheesy barroom pickup lines, or Dommes who could not take "No" for an answer.

13 hours ago, AnimeBlonde said:

And to be fair, the guys get it too. My Dom has messages off male subs who auto assume he must want to be their Dom, and Dommes that message him, calling him their bitch. So it's not just females.

There was this one Domme, who was particularly stubborn, along that line.  I eventually told her, that if she didn't quit, she was going to get spanked!  She seemed to get the message, after that.

[Deleted Member]

58 minutes ago, phoenyx said:

Of late, I have been wondering why this list seemed on the verge of dying.  The energy was gone; the enthusiasm lost.  New members have come, and departed just as quickly.  Many, only remain for a couple/few hours.  And, quite a few of the regulars have all-but-disappeared.  Now, I know why.

I read with great interest, Pixie's thread on respect.  However, this discussion on "rudeness", has truly shown just how deep the problem has become.  Personally, I have never had to deal with worse than cheesy barroom pickup lines, or Dommes who could not take "No" for an answer.

There was this one Domme, who was particularly stubborn, along that line.  I eventually told her, that if she didn't quit, she was going to get spanked!  She seemed to get the message, after that.

It is truly shocking to see in black and white just how far the level of rudeness and lack of respect is going, don't get me wrong it is not everyone and the are so many amazing people on here and in the world but it seems to be the few idiots that just ruin it for everyone.

It would be interesting to see new measures put in place by the mod team to help with unkind / rude messages, perhaps a way to report and they get a warning and explain that respectful messages are a must? Maybe we need a scale of offense rather than the straight out delete or not delete 🤔 food for thought maybe

[Wo****]

Him: Hey slut

Me: Hey twat

Him: You need a beatin 

Me: And you need to learn respect

Him: Not of you

Me: Off not of

Him: What?

Me: Off not of. "Not off you"

 

Edited July 14, 2020 by Bounty
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[TemptressM]

10 hours ago, Donnykinkster said:

It surprised me that he's still around as the messages which I still have were pretty vile, as another member has said in time it will drive the decent folk away which is sad. I'm starting to think the management as it were need to lock horns and make some changes. It's becoming a plague and its needs action 😊

Yeah,  I pop in randomly now and I loved coming in and checking the threads but to be honest I am getting bored and annoyed with the constant come on's and when I say me I'm the one thats wrong.

[Phoenyx]

15 hours ago, AnimeBlonde said:

It would be interesting to see new measures put in place by the mod team to help with unkind / rude messages, perhaps a way to report and they get a warning and explain that respectful messages are a must?

One trick that I found, was to go to that person's profile, and report their photo as "fake".  I know that this is underhanded, verging on passive-aggressive.  But, when all else fails...

It seemed to work in the majority of cases.  Such obnoxious people tend to just drop off the list, rather than go through the hassle of "verification".  I suspect though, that most were likely scammers anyway---with their too-good-to-be-true photos.

[Wo****]

I'm wondering if an option could be introduced whereby you can report someone for rude messages. 

The "hey slut" guy is undergoing verification atm....

The mods would see if there was a pattern, if they get reported by several members all saying the same thing.

[Deleted Member]

37 minutes ago, Bounty said:

I'm wondering if an option could be introduced whereby you can report someone for rude messages. 

The "hey slut" guy is undergoing verification atm....

The mods would see if there was a pattern, if they get reported by several members all saying the same thing.

I'm wondering that too where maybe they get a mod message then and explain that you need to be polite and if the is any more funny busy their gone