Body shaming is seemingly never-ending

[ol****]

Tend to agree that it's easy to conflate things.

People are free to post pictures and by posting they know they invite the picture to be rated.

I guess a lot of members must enjoy the process.

That's a world away from posting public or private comments about somebody surely?

[Ki****]

see and the way ppl shame a girls body for being plus sized is why i am always so scared to post a pic of naked or showing my curves.. my body has housed seven ***, two miscarried early on and five who made it to term.. all five of those alive were c-section so i have this lovely "tire" around my belly that i cant get rid of for the life of me... but ppl dont see it as "wow she carried five lil ppl with in her." they think omg that bitch is fat she needs to lose some weight.. mind you ive tried and tried and tried... society tells us what is hot and whats not and its sad.

[LandRoverMan]

59 minutes ago, KiraPanthera said:

see and the way ppl shame a girls body for being plus sized is why i am always so scared to post a pic of naked or showing my curves.. my body has housed seven ***, two miscarried early on and five who made it to term.. all five of those alive were c-section so i have this lovely "tire" around my belly that i cant get rid of for the life of me... but ppl dont see it as "wow she carried five lil ppl with in her." they think omg that bitch is fat she needs to lose some weight.. mind you ive tried and tried and tried... society tells us what is hot and whats not and its sad.

Not everyone plus sized can lose weight, some gained weight from medication like Quetiapine or Sertraline. i went fom 125kg to 160kg and no way to get it off as i can hardly walk thanks to a back ***. Plus sized women do have my preference, to be honest... my first UK girlfriend was a chubby ginger, still has that special spot in my heart.

[ju****]

12 hours ago, SammyB said:

There is a place for everyone in this community’ and lifestyle 

There  is a place for all sorts of shapes, sizes and body types and you’d be surprised what proper rope work can hold 

A lot of the images used are generally  stereotypical however the reality of it is the majority of us , both men and women are not that stereotypical image 

As for Dominants asking you for nudes within minutes ... yes it does happen.. It happen a lot ... are they true Dominants who are interested as you as a person and as a submissive .. absolutely not 

As for the Dominant who suggested if you can’t be naked around a Dom maybe your in the wrong place ....I would totally disagree ..... is giving a stranger nudes on your first chat submissive .... not in my opinion I think it’s the furthest thing from submission 

You will find someone who will be on you wave length who will introduce you to many things , talk to you , train you , guide you  ...this takes time to build trust 

Many online Dominants And by that they only have interactions online ... have never had a sub in real life , have never held floggers , crops , cane etc 

I think your idea of going to munches you will have far more positive experiences for you 

But getting back to the point ... you do have a place in this community should you choose to live in this lifestyle 

There are plenty of men and women who appreciate a curvy body 

As we keep saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder 

 Sx
 

 

 

 

  

Thank you so much Sx! I dk if i got how body shaming comes into play with all i said but either way I needed to know what you told me in your reply and I appreciate you for taking the time to do that🙂🤎

[ey****]

12 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

the stars works on an average.  So if one person has voted 3 and you vote 5 it will show as 4.
But yep, I know the star system is being replaced here

As a further thought.  I've had notifications where people have gone through a few of my photos and given different ratings from 3 through to 5.   I imagine this not to be body shaming but that they preferred the pictures they gave a 5 to above the ones they gave a 3 to.

[Ta****]

Being the turgid brat that I am.....if somebody gives me a low star rating, I have this habit of visiting their profile, and giving them a 1 Star.   Hehe🤓

[LandRoverMan]

What is the point of that? not like i care i got a 1 star review....  

[ey****]

you also didn't see someone had given a 1 star review.

Still, got rid of the stars now

[Kinkyone4u1214]

I have dealt with shameing for along time people don't see me as a hunk or handsome they look at my age and don't want to talk to me or get to know me it's worthless to try and talk to people because I'm not looked at as a handsome male which doesn't bother me anymore I get it ya want to talk to people who are more handsome and more of a hunk and not look at a person in the inside people see body shameing and  and age shameing and look shaming as a means to look better then others starting with body shameing bbws are probably the best lovers well I have had quite a few bbw gfs and they have been the best lovers but people put them down. As a means to look better them same with age shameing and looks shaming I wonder how many people  look at older people as gross or disgusting same with looks..but this is a body shaming forum I to am chubby but I don't let that bother me anymore yes I do my walks I lose weight I gain it back I feel sorry for bbws and chubby men cause people are always shameing us when those skinny stick women and men get credit for being healthy and don't have to worry about people talking mean about them 

[Kinkyone4u1214]

Shaming doesn't mean that someone gives you a one star for a pic I have rated people based on personality sometimes if ya show a lot ya get more stars I have given someone 1 star based on clothes a lot of males will give ya more stars if you have big boobs or small boobs or if ya have a big butt or small butt if a guy has a big stick or a small stick I have gotten small reviews for having a normal stick before any way point. When some people  review your pictures and give you one or two stars don't mean their rateing your whole body you can rate someone based on personality by the way they dress in photos

[Kinkyone4u1214]

A lot of times women are body shaming other women based on body type because some women don't want to look like a bbw and not supposedly healthy or unhealthy 

[Deleted Member]

I think that body shaming is 'Awful and not right. These ladies have an awful lot to offer the kink scene. We should stop negative comments and embrace the fact, that they have an awful lot to offer, look SEXY AND AMAZING, AND ARE VERY KINKY. X

[Ta****]

I dont know about anyone else on these forums but honestly....anybody starts making derogatory comments to me, I just tell them to ....... off.  I did that with some bloke this morning on Fetlife.  He ended up blocking ME.....which was great!   (Although these people do tend to crawl out of the woodwork under another profile eventually)

But that's the best way to treat them really!

And anyone who makes it clear to me they are no friend of mine on a forum, I usually knock them off the radar as well....  by throwing the block button on 'em.

That's the way to do it folks!   

Ditto.

[Deleted Member]

I full agree with your sentiments. Block them. Report them. There is No Pkace for Body Shaming. There are some Gorgeous large Ladies and Men out there.